Time can prove love, and it can also overthrow love.
How many people find out after getting married that they have met the wrong person, especially the emotional betrayal of their lovers, which hurts them even more.
But Romain Rolland once said: "True heroism is to see through the truth of life and still love life." ”
The same is true of feelings, perhaps experiencing setbacks, but many people still believe in love and try to find someone who suits them, making people regretless.
In life, we will also see that more and more single middle-aged people try to remarry, and their needs for feelings become more pragmatic and cautious, so will they find a lover who suits them?
01.52-year-old aunt has a bumpy marriage and wants a dependency
Yu Dama is 52 years old, and her previous marriage was really bitter.
Ex-husband has a stable job, after marriage, let her take care of the elderly and children at home, every month will give a certain amount of living expenses, Yu Aunt is not a person who spends money indiscriminately, many years of housewife life, has long exercised the skills of thrift and thrift.
For example, she would make slippers out of old clothes, change skirts into satchels, and make paper boxes into storage boxes, and in her words, saving is creation, so that money can be spent on the blade.
But her excellent qualities were not seen by her ex-husband, who was addicted to drinking, did not return home until he was drunk, and when he went home, he also slept lying down, and he would not help her share the housework at all, nor did he ask her for warmth.
These are not much for the big mother, she has become accustomed to paying, but what she can't stand is the emotional betrayal of her ex-husband, someone reminded her, let her pay more attention to her husband's words and deeds, she left a heart eye, once saw her ex-husband hide in her daughter's room to call.
She listened to the door frame and heard her ex-husband comforting a woman, who said, "We have all been together for several years, and we are also a person from a unit. ”
Although she was alert, but grasping her husband's current situation, it was still difficult for Yu Dama to accept, she directly proposed divorce, and the two went through the divorce procedures the next day.
After the divorce, Yu DaMa lived with her daughter, because there was no job, there was no pension at the age of fifty, helping her daughter to take care of her children to kindergarten, she felt that she could not live with her daughter all the time, her daughter would not say anything, but it was inevitable that the son-in-law would have ideas.
This is the selflessness of a mother, who can give everything she has for her children, but does not want to burden her children.
Speaking of the requirements for the future wife, Yu Dama's idea is also very simple, indicating that the other party is steadfast.
02. Big Mom hardcore blind date, open her mouth to ask the couple those things
Uncle Li is 50 years old, which is not too old, and his salary is 2,000 yuan per month.
He is like his aunt, there are also bumpy marriages, once he went out to work, just happened to encounter rain, he returned home halfway to get an umbrella, to the door to see a pair of men's shoes, but also heard the voice in the back room, he understood everything, directly proposed divorce.
More than ten years after the divorce, he has been single, introverted, embarrassed to fall in love, did not meet the right person, the reason why signed up for a blind date, is the mother's last wish before her death, the mother let him must find a partner, otherwise in his old age will be too lonely.
Originally, Uncle Li lived with his mother, after his mother died, he had an old house, in order to avoid loneliness, he also had a cat, through the introduction of the red lady, he met with Yu Dama.
As soon as Aunt Yu entered the house, she was very disgusted with cats, saying that if they were together, they could not have cats and dogs, she did not like small animals, and Uncle Li was very happy to agree.
But Yu Aunt still has concerns, she sees that the other party is 2 years younger than herself, and looks quite young, she is worried about the husband and wife, frankly said that she has been single for more than ten years, may not be very adaptable, ask the other party to mind.
Uncle Li expressed understanding, as long as the two have a good relationship, things in life can be slowly run-in, his attitude did not let Yu Aunt relax, she is still worried, thinking that women age faster, it is easy to make contradictions because of such things, and the blind date of the two people has failed because of this matter.
In fact, I can understand the mind of my mother, but if you want to form a family, you should have the attitude of accepting each other, if you have a resistance psychology, it is really not as suitable as living alone.
Sent away from Big Mama, the enthusiastic Red Lady helped Uncle Li introduce Aunt Wang, and it was Uncle Li's turn to be unconfident.
03. Feelings are not sooner or later, and it is just right to meet the right person
Aunt Wang's marriage has also experienced great setbacks.
Her ex-husband has a shortcoming, that is, they are particularly fond of drinking, they are doing the business of buying grain, once the ex-husband drank too much wine, the recovered grains are all impurities, and suddenly lost 190,000, which made her very angry and directly filed for divorce.
After the divorce, she also did her own business, and later helped her daughter with children, with a certain amount of savings, the requirements for her partner were not to drink or smoke, and her character should be good.
After meeting Uncle Li, she immediately fell in love with him, thinking that he looked honest and was a person who lived a life.
But Uncle Li saw the beautiful Aunt Wang, obviously not confident, and raised two concerns.
"Will you lose your temper with me and tell me to do this and do that, I have a short face and can't stand criticism."
Aunt Wang smiled: "You yourself know how to work, why should I talk about you?" ”
To say that Aunt Wang's emotional intelligence is high, a sentence makes Uncle Li relax a lot, and a happy smile appears on his face.
He also asked a question: "I earn less, 2,000 yuan a month, will you dislike me?" ”
"No, I don't point to your money to live, as long as you are steadfast." Aunt Wang's generosity made Uncle Li put aside his worries, and the two successfully held hands as they wished.
It can be seen from their blind dates that confident people often have independent opinions on life, and they will also encounter setbacks, but most of them will face difficulties and strive to manage their lives well.
People who are not confident, their eyes are full of problems and worries, they cringe when they encounter things, they are always afraid of losing or being deceived, and with such ideas, even if they meet the right person, it is easy to miss.
I appreciate Ms. Wang's attitude, meet the right person, you can put down the entanglement of details, where there is a perfect person, as long as the other party can meet your requirements, you can get to know each other, maybe the other party does not have enough economic strength, but can be diligent and dedicated to your good, is not it also a kind of happiness.
Therefore, for people who want to remarry, learning to choose is very critical, you do not need to require the other party to be very good in all aspects, if the other party is really good, it is estimated that it will not be your turn to know.
You can list your own requirements first, and then compare the conditions of the two people, as long as the conditions are equal, and there is a willingness to run to each other, you can boldly contact, when the feelings come, it is not too late.
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