Recently, the topic of "full-time children" has attracted public attention. "Full-time children" is a new type of off-the-job lifestyle, which refers to young people living with sojourn parents and paying a certain amount of labor in exchange for financial support, while maintaining their studies and trying to find career goals... The Douban Group's "Full-time Children's Work Exchange Center" wrote in the group introduction.
According to Red Star News, the group has gathered 3,291 "migrant workers." Here, the target of the "migrant workers" is their parents or grandparents, and the content of their labor is "companionship" and "housework". On some social media, more and more "full-time children" are showing up and showing their lifestyle and work insights.
But the author believes that "full-time children" is just a title for gnawing the old.
Because children are a social responsibility, a family ethical relationship, when did it become a profession?!
"Touching the Dragon Says Empress Dowager Zhao", presumably many people have learned it in middle school.
The love of parents for their children is far-reaching. Once the mountain collapsed, why did Chang'an Jun trust himself to Zhao? The old minister thought that his wife was the king of Chang'an, so he thought that his love was not as good as the queen of Yan. The Queen Mother, No.
Is that familiar?!
Young people who are full-time sons and daughters once they encounter a landslide. What to do? Don't forget that the economic strength of a Chinese family depends entirely on how many old men and women work within the system. China's young people with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 do not have more than old men with pensions of more than 10,000, let alone the medical insurance of old men and women. Once the mountain collapses, you see what it will look like. Isn't it normal for full-time children to take care of the family, hygienize the family, and cook for the family? In my opinion, as a family member, you have the obligation to do hygiene for the family and even take care of the family. It is normal for parents to cook for their children, so is it not normal for children to cook for their parents?
It is the child's maintenance responsibility and obligation to take care of the home and cook for the family, right?
Do you want money as you do?!
If there is an elderly person in the family who has lost his ability to freedom and needs to be taken care of, and the children choose to go home to be "nannies" for a period of time, there is nothing wrong with their own family members being able to take good care of them, cooking, feeding, serving, and turning over. However, from the perspective of economic and long-term future development, children should be more subordinate auxiliary and supervisory status of care, ask a caregiver to help watch, children are responsible for supervision or cooperate with the handle, this is the normal care of the elderly. In his 20s, he did not go out to earn money to support his family, but nestled in his own home to do sanitation and cooking, taking this as a responsibility, not ashamed but proud. What is the truth of this?
Especially in our East Asian society, it is not suitable for a "gap year" like Europeans. Such a time-wasting gap year is not at all in line with the reality of Chinese, and Chinese's subconscious is that Zhang Ailing-style fame should be made early. If a 25-year-old person graduates with a master's degree, everyone will think that he has a great future, but a young man who only graduates with a master's degree at the age of 30, many people will think that this person went a few years ago? If a young man only graduates with a master's degree at the age of 35, which company is willing to have such employees? Feel free to browse the questions on the Internet, all of them are 32 years old and admitted to the civil service, is there a future? 30Is there still a future for being admitted to graduate school? Can I get a job after graduating with a master's degree at 33? Such questions are raised every year.
Why is this!? This is the age anxiety of East Asians, once you reach the age and do nothing, society will not recognize, parents will not recognize, the most fun thing is that you yourself will not recognize, full of anxiety.
I myself am a tutor, and since I was in college, I have been very eager. I felt that I was lagging behind my old high school classmates, and in my mind, they were all more mature than me, they would find a job first, they would adapt to the workplace first, as if I would be slower than my steps. I was very anxious, anxious to catch up with them, and in my freshman year, I loved to chase the graduate counselor, the senior's ass, and ask about the graduate school entrance examination. There is a female classmate in the author's class, she is too, as soon as she goes to college, she is very anxious, she goes everywhere to learn English, even if she says military training, she feels that it is a waste of time, she just entered the freshman year, she said, what a waste of time in military training, affecting me to memorize words. Later, the author learned that she was also a tutor. Later, the author did consulting on various platforms on the whole network, and I found that many cram students, students entering graduate school in World War II, and World War III would have this anxiety, this anxiety of falling behind people. Just a year behind my classmates was like missing out on a lot of opportunities. This is the involution anxiety that is characteristic of East Asian societies.
Let's be fair to say that those who are full-time children, between doing their own housework, take out their mobile phones to brush their circle of friends, and see their classmates doing scientific research, working hard in the workplace, doing civil service research, and making money on business trips. They are all growing and sharing insights. Only do the housework by yourself. Will there be a gap in the heart?! If a person really doesn't care about these things, then they can really take a gap of years. Be a full-time child and be happy with yourself.
But this society is the law of the jungle, so eating parents, grandparents and pensions at home to live is completely sitting on the mountain.
We have heard that it is housewives who are acceptable. It is because of traditional culture that women in the family do not work, and there is no problem with the male protagonist and the female protagonist. And in the real society, boys go out to make more money, and girls sacrifice at home, which is also fine. This is to say that it is necessary to start a new family, and not gnaw the old in your own home!
For example, a Japanese drama "Escape is shameful but useful" that the author watched before
25-year-old Minoru Moriyama (Yui Aragaki), single, graduated from graduate school but did not find a formal job, can only work as a contract worker, and then was fired, is in a state of unemployment, no one cares, no fixed place to live, full of the bitterness of life. Shiguri's father couldn't stand it, and the master asked her to help with housework at the home of 35-year-old single white-collar Tsuzaki Heikang (Hoshino Gen). Shiguri took good care of Tsuzaki and gained his trust. However, because his parents were moving to the countryside, Shiguri had to resign. On the last day of work, Shikuri, who was full of anxiety about the future, suddenly said to Tsuzaki, "How about getting married like employment". After some thought, Tsuzaki, who was serious about doing things, decided to sign a contract with Shiguri and agreed to get married. The two kept secrets from the people around them and began a married life of "employer = husband" and "employee = wife". Two people who have no love live under the same roof. Slowly, the fantasy-loving woman and the older virgin developed subtle feelings for each other, and then they really developed love, and they happily faked the drama to be real.
Such housewives are welcome; But gnawing old-fashioned full-time sons and daughters, sooner or later will be nailed to the pillar of shame.