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There are two frightening words in this world - abandonment.
Someone once said that when people come into this world, either you choose to abandon others, or others choose to abandon you. You and I are both struggling in an environment of "mutual abandonment.".
Hit workers are most afraid of being abandoned by their bosses. They don't have jobs, they don't actually have the money to live. However, in the market, no one will talk to them, everything is about profit.
Middle-aged people are most afraid of being abandoned by life. The midlife crisis gradually arrives, which will gradually force people into the corner, and the more they live, the more they are embarrassed. Today's middle-aged people, the vast majority are on the edge of life.
Parents are most afraid of being abandoned by their children. When people are old, they need children to provide for the elderly. However, if the child does not take care of the parents, or even stays away from the parents, then the parents can only consider themselves unlucky.
The above three types of people are actually closely related to a group, that is, the post-70s generation that we know as well.
The middle-aged people after the 70s are not only gradually getting old, but also struggling on the edge of life. People who have some skills struggle in the workplace. Those who have long been unemployed can only pray for the early arrival of "old age".
In the later years of the 70s, is it really happy? It is a pity to say that from the current situation, the post-70s old age is full of challenges. Because they lived to be the first generation abandoned by their children.
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The post-70s generation is the last generation of filial piety to parents and the first generation abandoned by children.
These words are not only harsh, but also make people feel particularly contradictory. After the 70s are filial to their parents, why are they still abandoned by their children? Isn't this a bit illogical?
Life, in the first place, is not a place that follows logic. Novels or books, there may be logic. But life is always changeable, making people invincible.
If we want to clarify the thinking of the above problem, then we must analyze it from the two generations of the post-90s and post-00s.
Children after the 70s are generally post-90s or post-00s. A small number of post-70s who have pursued have also given birth to a second child, that is, after 10. Of course, the gap between these three generations is not large.
Take the post-90s generation, their concept is more up to date with the times, and they are more open. It can be said that they are a generation that does not follow tradition, and it is also a generation that wants to be free.
At the same time, the post-90s generation is facing increasing pressure in life. More and more people can't afford to get married, can't afford to have children, and can't afford to buy a house. At this time, the post-90s generation can't even support themselves, so why talk about taking care of their parents who are getting older?
To put it bluntly, it is good not to nibble on the old, how can you fully assume the responsibility of providing for your parents?
The change of concept and the increase of material pressure have laid the foundation for the post-70s generation to be "abandoned by their children". This, very helpless.
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There is such a case.
Mr. Zhang, 52, is now worried about his 27-year-old son. Because the son's job is unstable, the girlfriend can't find it, and the savings are not much, the more he lives, the more he is embarrassed, which makes his parents feel sad.
Mr. Zhang was particularly puzzled, although my son's education is not too high, but at least graduated from 211 university, why is his job so unstable?
Later, he learned that many industries are not very good today, and although my son works in an Internet company, the Internet is also declining. The son's job was unstable, and even being dismissed was a helpless thing.
He asked his son a question: "What are your plans for the future?" ”
The son only replied with this sentence: "I don't know what plans I have, I can only work at 996 every day, make a little money, and support myself." If you can, don't get married or buy a house, lest you be stressed too much. ”
After listening to his son's words, Mr. Zhang's heart grew cold. Although he did not have the expectation of letting his son retire, he did not want his son to live a "twilight" look. However, he could not change the reality.
Just imagine, if the son wants to get married after a few years, wants to buy a house, and wants to have children, then the pressure can only be borne by Mr. Zhang?
In fact, raising children and preventing old age has long become a luxury.
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The post-70s generation, who are gradually aging, will carry the pressure of three generations.
Children's affairs need to be solved, parents are also in urgent need of pension, then what can be done after the 70s who have already run five? There is no way but to survive, and one generation shoulders the future of three generations.
Among these three generations, in fact, the most difficult is not the generation of children, but the post-70s in the middle. Because children can rely on something, and after 70, there is no one to rely on.
If you want your children to be happy, you can only suffer yourself; if you want your parents to grow old, you can only suffer yourself; if you want to be safe in your old age, you can only rely on yourself.
I remembered such a sentence: "We will always say that the predecessors planted trees and the people after the people were cool, but they never thought that the predecessors worked so hard, but they did not exchange the returns they deserved, which is the real misfortune." ”
For the post-70s, some things, do not take a big package, rather than living into a generation of "spring silkworms to the end of the dead silk, wax torch into gray tears to dry", it is better to think more about yourself.
Sometimes, there is too much pressure on the shoulders, which often overwhelms a person. In the end, it is not only yourself who is suffering, but also the relatives around you.
If "being abandoned" is an inevitable experience, then we may as well be the one who swims against the current, be nice to ourselves, don't expect too much, that is the way to "live in the moment".
Wen/Shushan has deer