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Some old people for their children's life is a bowl of water can not be leveled, treatment of sons, always afraid of giving not enough, treatment of daughters, always only give daughters a little good, just want to let the daughter remember for life, with a lifetime to repay.
The 65-year-old Uncle Su is such an old man, when his wife gave birth to a daughter, he sighed in front of his face after reading it: "Sooner or later, the birth of a daughter is someone else's family, what is the use." When his wife finally gave birth to a son, he closed his mouth with joy, and from then on, he never looked back on the road of pampering his son.
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Narrator: Uncle Sue
I don't think there is anything wrong with pampering my son, my daughter is someone else's family after all, my son will always be a part of my own family, and I have been more partial to my son since I was a child. If I had 10 pieces of pocket money, I would definitely spend 9 yuan for my son and 1 yuan for my daughter, I don't think it's unfair, I didn't give all 10 yuan to my son to spend alone, but gave my daughter 1 yuan, and my daughter should be grateful for my efforts to her.
I think I am very good to my daughter, many people around me are completely inferior to me, I at least let my daughter have food and books to read, unlike some parents who let their daughter drop out of school and go to work very early. I at least let my daughter go to college, and I think that since she can read, then I will be generous enough to let her read, so that she will have the ability in the future, and I can enjoy some blessings as a father.
My daughter and son also went to college, but when my daughter went to college, I gave her very little living expenses every month, and I let her work and study to earn money. When my son was in college, I was afraid that his living expenses would not be enough to spend every month, I was reluctant to let my son go to work-study, I did not let my daughter drop out of school and was willing to bear the cost of her college, this kindness is worth my daughter repaying me for a lifetime, my daughter and son are different after all, I am indeed benevolent to my daughter.
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After my daughter graduated, I often called her, and every time I would remind her that being a daughter in our family is much happier than being a daughter in someone else's house, and you should work hard after graduation and work hard to earn money to repay your parents. As a daughter, I am not qualified to get too much love from my parents, even if my parents only give her a little love, she must remember this kindness for the rest of her life, which is the ideological concept that I have repeatedly taught my daughter.
My daughter has been angry over the years, looking for a job and marrying a husband who makes our family feel face, but then there is face, that's the case, after all, the daughter who married out spilled water. Before my daughter got married, she saved 200,000 yuan in independent work, and I asked her to leave this 200,000 in her mother's house, don't take it to her in-laws' house, I said that this money will be used as a favor for your mother's family to cultivate you over the years.
My daughter's job is very good, she did not bother with us much, so she left 200,000 at her mother's house. Of course, I left these 200,000 to my son, who is not as capable as my daughter, but whether he has the ability or not, my father loves him. The more incompetent my son is, the more I try my best to help my son, I took the 200,000 yuan that my daughter gave me to help my son buy a house, and I also took out my own savings to buy a car for my son, whether it is when my son is a child or when my son grows up, I want him to live better.
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So I made two preparations for my son very early, if my son grows up, if he has the ability, I will stop worrying about him, if the son grows up, if he does not have the ability, even if I am old, I still have to do my best for him, as a parent, I should give everything the best to my son. After I bought a car for my son and bought a house, I arranged for my son to find a partner to marry, and my son did not have a job at that time, so I packaged a very perfect image for my son, in order to let my son get married and have children early.
Later, under my introduction, my son did marry a wife, and a year later, our little grandson was born, but the son still had no ability, and the survival of the family of three became a problem. I think my son has not suffered anything since he was a child, this age let him go out to work, not only is he not used to it, I am also distressed, at this time I want to find my daughter to take 300,000 yuan to open a supermarket for my son.
After my daughter got married, I hardly cared about her, I have already married out to be someone else's family, what is there to care about, she married out for so long, I contacted her for the first time, just for my son to take another 300,000 with her. My daughter was reluctant at first, and I told her: "You can't fail to repay your parenting grace, and you can't take out 300,000 yuan, there is only one child left in the family, your brother, can't you bear to see him unhappy?" Your brother is not doing well, do you think your parents will feel better? Do you just not care about your parents' feelings? Your parents also raised you to feed and wear for you for so many years..."
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I know that my daughter is a grateful person, so I finally succeeded in getting my daughter to take out 300,000 yuan and successfully opened a big supermarket for my son, so that my son's family of three could live a good life. After a few more years, I was diagnosed with physical problems, and my first thought was: "If I am gone in the future and there is no one to protect my son, what should he do?" "I immediately began to distribute the property, giving all the remaining property of my life to my son, so that even if I am gone in the future, my son will not have financial worries in the future.
After settling my son, I thought about my physical problems, treatment also needs a lot of money, I want to move to my daughter's house to retire, when there is any need for money, I will find my daughter to ask, if I continue to live in my son's house, it will drag my son down. I think anyway, the son-in-law is so rich, the daughter also has the ability, I let them take hundreds of thousands of dollars to treat me should not matter, I thought that this time I could easily persuade my daughter to continue to know the gratitude map, did not expect that this time the daughter just heard that I want to move over to the pension, I gave the phone to the son-in-law.
The son-in-law said: "If you move in, I will divorce, and since all the property is given to my son, why should I come to my daughter's house for the elderly?" I said aloud, "I raised my daughter, I fed her for her, I let her go to college, and as a daughter, she received so much favor from me, she should repay me for the rest of her life." The son-in-law said: "You are more eccentric to your son than to your daughter, as far as a father like you is concerned, you are also kind enough to often ask your daughter to take money, and at every turn let your daughter know how much grace you can have for your daughter, you provide her with food for her to wear for her to study is what you should do, where there is a little bit of pay for your daughter like you, you want her to return to you a thousand times, don't you yourself feel embarrassed to ask your daughter for money again and again?" ”
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What am I embarrassed about, she was born as my own daughter, she should not spend money for her mother's family, shouldn't she give me a pension? But no matter how I argue with my son-in-law, my son-in-law has the same attitude: "If you move in, I will divorce, if your daughter divorces me, I see how much money you can get from her, she herself earns almost all the money that is spent by her mother's family, I don't divide the property to her when she is divorced, she has no money to spend for you, and when the time comes, see if you hurt yourself and hurt your daughter." ”
The son-in-law said this, I am very embarrassed, I want to move to my daughter's house, in fact, in order to get money from the son-in-law, I know that the son-in-law earns much more than the daughter, if I move over, the son-in-law and the daughter divorced, then my wish to get the money will be disappointed. But if I continue to live in my son's house, I am worried about dragging my son down, I love my son so much, how can I be willing to drag him down, and now I don't know how to choose?
Conclusion:
Uncle Su's approach is really too sad for his daughter, he will always give his heartache and care to his son, even if his son has no ability for a lifetime, he also wants to help his son for a lifetime.
The father who loves his son so much is so indifferent to his daughter, fortunately, the daughter and the son-in-law have the support of the husband, in order to avoid the father's hurt and demand again, I hope that Uncle Su will wake up early and stop treating his daughter like this.