This family piece is too suffocating to watch

In the lively summer file, there is a seemingly inconspicuous but very topical movie, that is, "I Passed Through the Storm" starring Tong Liya and Wu Yuhan.

Let's look at the poster first: a wife with a blue nose and a swollen face, one hand to stop her husband, the other, still covering her son's eyes, not wanting him to see what happened.

But the son seemed to have understood something, and covered his sister's ears very "sensibly". The younger sister smiled and looked ahead innocently, as if only she didn't know what was going on between her parents.

Just by seeing this, you can understand the theme of the movie - domestic violence.

In the film, Xu Min, played by Tong Liya, is a woman who has suffered from domestic violence. On the one hand, she endured violence from her husband for a long time; On the other hand, in order to protect young children from overshadowing their childhood, it is necessary to swallow their anger.

Although at the beginning of the film, she is already looking for a lawyer to divorce her husband Chen Jun (played by Wu Yuhan).

But she was embarrassed to tell her lawyer Li Xiaomeng (played by Wang Yinglu), who is also a woman, the real reason for her divorce - her husband's domestic violence.

As a result, the first divorce failed, and the lawyer told her, "In the first divorce, as long as one party does not want to leave, the judge generally adheres to the principle of safeguarding marriage and does not grant divorce. ”

Only then did she tell the truth that she was subjected to domestic violence.

And when the relatives and friends around her knew that she wanted to divorce, they even opened the mode of "persuasion and not persuasion", and everyone was speechless:

What, "between husband and wife, it is normal to fight";

What, "husband and wife quarrel, not yet bedside quarrel bedside and";

What, "it is difficult for Qing officials to decide family affairs";

What, "it is better to tear down ten temples than to destroy a marriage";

What, "everyone came over like this, and it passed after a while";

And what, "in order to give the child a complete home, endure it" ...

In the cinema, seeing this set of classic rhetoric of the seven aunts and eight aunts, even as a man, I had a strong sense of suffocation.

Fortunately, Xu Min is not the kind of character who seeks perfection, she has achieved small achievements in her career, and her character is also resolute and brave.

So, she resisted all these "persuasion" remarks and insisted on divorce.

But to reopen for divorce within six months, she must submit new evidence or circumstances that she did not submit at the time of the first divorce.

For her, it is necessary to produce evidence that her husband has abused her.

However, domestic violence has a strong privacy and is extremely difficult to obtain evidence.

Chen Jun is precisely a domestic abuser with a lot of eyes.

To outsiders, he was a gentle university teacher. The first few years of falling in love and marriage did not reveal their nature.

However, when his wife quit her stable job against her will, changed her job, and needed more entertainment, Chen Jun's attitude began to change.

At first, it was a verbal attack, accusing her of leaving early and returning late every day and not taking care of her home.

When he came home a little later, he asked her "if you don't want this home anymore"; When she complained that she was too tired from work, she began to count her: "Whoever told you not to listen to me, you deserve it." ”

Then, it started to rise to pushing.

For the first time, Xu Min was knocked off his lips.

After Chen Jun started, he carefully treated her wounds and apologized earnestly, promising that there would be no next time. This made Xu Min choose to forgive her husband.

But as many facts have proven time and again: domestic violence, only zero and countless times.

Next, Chen Jun's violent behavior began to escalate.

From hitting her with a drying rack, to punching, to pinching her neck...

Moreover, Chen Jun came from a medical background, and every time he hit her, he would wrap his fist with a towel, causing pain without leaving a superficial wound, which would not be seen by outsiders and would not leave evidence.

Not only in behavior, Chen Jun carefully concealed his atrocities; Mentally, he also tries to control Xu Min and impose PUA on her.

Chen Jun is a typical "gas lamp manipulator", he always blames Xu Min for all the faults:

It was Xu Min who did not listen to his advice and changed to a job that could not take care of his family; It is Xu Min who works and entertains, does not pay attention to boundaries, and hooks up with other men; It's Xu Min who has a close relationship with his colleagues and doesn't want this home...

After every beating, he will also emphasize that he loves Xu Min and will beat her because he is afraid of losing her.

But his behavior towards Xu Min is obviously beyond the scope of love, and is a strong desire to control.

He installed surveillance in every room of his home to monitor Xu Min's every word and deed.

Each of Xu Min's bank cards was bound to his mobile phone number, and what Xu Min bought, where he went, and what hotel he booked were all within his monitoring range.

The more madly he suspected that she would cheat, that he would dislike him for making money, and the more frantically he wanted to control her behavior and spirit.

When this desire for control reached the level of "perversion", he even followed his wife with a bottle of sulfuric acid when she was about to sue for divorce again, ready to ruin her face.

He felt that in this way, his wife would not leave him.

And the scene where he took sulfuric acid and wanted to forcibly take away his wife happened to be filmed by lawyer Li Xiaomeng.

Although the injury was not caused, it is impossible to prove what Chen Jun was going to do with sulfuric acid, so it is impossible to use this point to prove Chen Jun's domestic violence.

But this video was enough to make Chen Jun lose his job, and the lawyer finally got Chen Jun to agree to divorce. It's just a pity that the custody of his son was still taken by Chen Jun.

But unexpectedly, after the divorce, the nightmare did not end.

Chen Jun is still following Xu Min, asking her to go home.

Even let the son kneel on the ground, hold the cardboard of "Mom, go home quickly", take a picture and send it to the circle of friends.

When she exercised her visitation rights, she repeatedly obstructed, and her son returned home late and was beaten by a ruler.

What made Xu Min even more devastated was that once she took her son to the playground and saw his son punching and kicking a strange child because of a small matter.

She stepped forward to stop him from beating someone, but her son asked, "Why not, because you didn't use a towel?" ”

Only then did she realize how bad an impact living with Chen Jun had on her son.

After her ex-husband once followed her, came to her house to make a fuss, and left her son downstairs alone, causing her son's hand to be crushed by the express car, in order to take care of her son and not let him grow up alone in the shadow of her ex-husband, Xu Min chose to sacrifice herself and returned to her ex-husband...

But what awaits her is not Chen Jun's rehabilitation, but intensification.

In the end, how this story ends, there are no more spoilers.

Overall, this movie realistically restores the plight of the victims of domestic violence. It makes people deeply realize that domestic violence is not a "family matter", but a suspected illegal and criminal behavior, and it is a social issue worthy of everyone's attention.

In 2015, the mainland passed the Anti-Domestic Violence Law of the People's Republic of China. Don't be afraid to take up the weapon of the law to protect yourself, let alone feel ashamed of it. This is not the victim's fault, and there is nothing to be ashamed of, it is the person who hit the person who is humiliated.

And if we realize that there is domestic violence, we cannot sit idly by, only when the whole society pays attention to the problem of domestic violence and resists domestic violence can we give victims more protection.

Doff