Original | Pregnancy
There are really beasts in human skin in this world.
On April 14, a video of a man abusing a baby caused public outrage, and netizens angrily rebuked: Such a person really does not deserve to be a father! I don't deserve to have children!
This 2-and-a-half-minute video, like all netizens, the pregnant mother watched it with tears and anger.
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The baby in the video was eating with his mother at the dinner table.
A strong man, who is also the father of the child, walked to the table with a scolding grin and slapped the child, and the noise was amazing.
Seeing the child crying, he not only did not stop, but repeatedly slapped the child, and even pinched the child's neck and leaned back, so that the child could not make a sound.
Watching the child's struggling little hands and the little face that was held back to the point of redness and purple was really angry.
But, that's not all.
The battered baby cried to tear his heart and lungs, and the mother on the side was also anxious to cry and call, but the man's atrocities had not stopped, and the child was strangled by the neck and cried.
The baby is still so young, as the father of the child, how can he get his hands on it!
Such a small baby, by the adult with brute force to choke the neck, a little careless may suffocate to death!
As netizens said: this is abuse, it is killing! Not a simple family conflict!
After the video was exposed, many were paid attention to by the whole network, and netizens have requested: this is deliberately hurting people! Please re-sentence! I hope that there will be no more "internal family conflicts"!
Yes, domestic violence and child abuse are never household chores!
Soon, the police intervened in the investigation, the perpetrator has been caught, according to the police report, the couple in the video due to family trivia conflict, the man Cheng Mou emotionally out of control to beat his young son, the case is currently under further investigation.
Emotionally out of control? This reason is too outrageous!
Nothing can be a reason for child abuse, adults have the responsibility to treat children well, and there is no right to abuse!
Really, not all of them deserve to be husbands and fathers!
In recent years, women and children have been subjected to domestic violence and abuse frequently, and the means have become more and more cruel.
On April 15, a woman in Anhui Province was beaten by her husband until her heart stopped, and died five days later, and her 8-year-old daughter witnessed the whole process of her mother being beaten and tortured.
After the tragedy, the family broke down and cried: regretted persuading her not to divorce, because domestic violence has happened many times.
The tolerance of domestic violence men and the persuasion of the family have pushed this poor mother to a disaster!
On January 19, Shaanxi executives beat their wives violently in front of their children, and the husband beat his wife's head with a heavy punch like a mad dog, and one punch and one punch fell on his wife's head like raindrops, and his face...
Unable to resist, his wife could only sit on the couch and tightly protect her two-year-old daughter in her arms.
The news has been exposed to only the tip of the iceberg, domestic violence from marriage to pregnancy, has never stopped, and even for children who are only 50 days old, it is also violent and abusive.
Women are abused by domestic violence, children are abused and beaten, this pile is frightening, and what is more frightening is that many children have lost their lives under violence.
In September 2021, a man in Nanchong, Sichuan Province, squeezed the stomach of a baby, and the more the child cried, the more he tore his heart and lungs, and the harder he squeezed.
But this evil deed is not all, the man also slapped the child's legs and neck hard, the whole beating crackled, and one by one stabbed the hearts of countless netizens.
In August 2020, a 2-and-a-half-year-old baby in Baoji, Shaanxi Province, was seriously injured by his drunken father, and the child was twice picked up by his father and fell heavily on the sofa, rolled from the sofa to the ground, and cried loudly...
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In the end, the child was seriously injured and could not be rescued in the end!
Tiger poison is still not hungry, and men who are violent to weak women and young children are not worthy of being called partners, not worthy of being fathers, and even less worthy of being human!
Domestic violence is only 0 times and countless times
Repeated tolerance and forgiveness are connivance for the perpetrator!
In the face of domestic violence, few mothers can escape with their children at the first time.
Some people feel that the ugliness of the family cannot be publicized, some people hope that the other party will change, and some people feel that children need fathers and need a complete family, so they choose to endure.
But domestic violence is only 0 times and countless times.
Once it happens, even if it is only a minor injury, even if he regrets it afterwards, he kneels down and begs for your forgiveness.
Don't believe him, take the child and run.
Too many examples tell us that there will be an Nth time when there is a first time of domestic violence, and never expect that the one in front of us will be the last.
An 8-year-old girl in Bao'an, Shenzhen, was repeatedly beaten and abused by her biological parents.
A 3-year-old boy in Quanzhou was beaten by his father many times, and his father was pushed into the toilet and thrown down the second floor.
Ms. Liu of Shangqiu, Henan, in order to escape her husband's domestic violence, she chose to jump from the second floor, she said: I am not committing suicide, I am escaping!
Because this is not the first time she has been abused by the family, before her husband lost money because of gambling, she beat her up and punched and kicked her, and she filed for divorce at that time.
But the husband admitted his mistake sincerely, promised that he would never do it again, and she forgave the other party with a soft heart, which had the bitter fruit behind.
Once a cycle of violence has occurred, it generally does not stop automatically.
Unfortunately, very few people can leave resolutely when domestic violence occurs.
Most people want to give each other a chance: maybe I can impress him, I can exchange for the prodigal son's return, for the sake of the child to endure, but most people, can't wait for this prodigal son to turn back!
Whether witnessing domestic violence or being abused
The damage to children is devastating!
Children who are abused and abused by domestic violence will have nightmares for the rest of their lives.
Therefore, when suffering from domestic violence, we must not choose to be patient on the grounds of "good for the child".
Because children who grow up in a domestic violence environment, those shadows will hang over the child for a lifetime.
There is a girl in Zhihu who shared her childhood abuse experience, and now at the age of 26, she still cries because of her past of being abused by her father.
From the time she remembers to the second year of junior high school, she has been abused by her biological father, and all kinds of smashing things are punished by kneeling and beating, and everything is: I will kill you and then commit suicide.
Even because he did not trust her, he wanted to drag her young to the river and said that he would throw it down, because a bowl was not washed, he had to strip his clothes and freeze for 20 minutes, which was winter in the south.
"I hate him, but I can't resist!"
The worst one was after a punch and kick from his father, covered in blood, and since then, although he has not moved, all kinds of door smashing and verbal violence have never stopped.
"I hate him so much, I can't let go until now, I can always dream of being beaten, and the terrible face in the dream is actually my father, I envy the happy friends of the family, envy that confidence and no fear!" 」
The shadow of childhood made her unable to let go, and those cruel scenes tormented her again and again, making her sleepless at night and difficult to live with herself.
There is also a hot search topic on Weibo: being abused by parents and domestic violence, will you forgive them?
After reading tens of thousands of comments, people were tearful.
Some people want to retaliate with tit-for-tat, how to treat me, how to fight back when I am old: my father slapped me more than a dozen times this year, and I am ready to pay him back before he dies!
And some people, all their lives, can not reconcile with this bad childhood experience: from childhood to adulthood, I also thought about suicide but did not have the courage, did not want to fall in love, marriage, have children, did not want anyone to enter my world, I often wonder why my parents gave birth to me.
Therefore, for the sake of the children, for themselves, the most inappropriate thing to encounter domestic violence is to suffer in silence!
Don't expect a domestic violence man to be a gentle and good father!
Don't look forward to children living in violent environments who can grow up happily!
Bottomless tolerance of violence is the greatest harm to children!
Don't compromise in the face of violence and abuse
Timely stop loss is to save yourself, but also to save the child!
Pregnant mothers want to say to all girls: in the face of violence in the relationship, you must stop the loss in time, whether it is in the love period, or in marriage, or after having children.
A man who is abusive will never be a good partner or a good father.
Don't put up with it again and again, blindly tolerating will only put yourself and your children in danger.
The well-known football commentator Mo Han issued a reminder after encountering many domestic violence: I chose to forgive when I first domestic violence is a wrong demonstration, the matter has occurred so far, silence and tolerance have not brought any good effect and results, but let the family also be hurt!
Yes, silence and tolerance in the face of domestic violence will not bring any good effects and results, only make the harm bigger than ever.
Some netizens said: All domestic violence is premeditated murder!
It is true that every year, domestic violence causes more than 40% of the causes of death in women.
Anchor Ram, was domestic violence for more than ten years, was set on fire by her ex-husband, and finally died of ineffective treatment, she was so sunny and kind, trying to live, but was killed by her ex-husband in the most cruel way in the world.
In child abuse in China, as many as 10 million children are likely to be abused and abused.
Behind these cold and cold data, there are countless children calling for help!
All mothers must remember that when the violence begins, the man's affection for you and the child is gone, and all you have to do is to turn around bravely and avoid secondary harm!
All the perpetrators will be repeat offenders and must stop the loss in time.
In a family, everything is a family affair, but domestic violence is not.
Domestic violence is illegal, when subjected to domestic violence, you can apply to the local court for personal safety protection orders, in times of danger, you must take up the law to protect yourself.
In the face of domestic violence, in addition to resolutely deciding to leave, we must also do the following to protect ourselves and our children:
Protect yourself and your children and get out of danger in time. If there is a conflict, do not provoke the other party, protect the head, chest, abdomen and other key parts, and carry out appropriate maneuvers when necessary until you get out of danger.
Injury examination and evidence collection. Timely medical treatment, go to the domestic violence firm center for medical treatment, audio recordings, videos, violent photos, medical records and other evidence, to be preserved, every scar, every threat, every insult, will become a confession in court.
Timely alarm. Keep a record of the police and ask the police to call the police.
Inform the neighborhood committee of the situation of domestic violence. Don't be misled by the notion that "family ugliness must not be publicized", remember! Domestic violence is illegal.
Call the 12338 Women's Rights Hotline. Zero tolerance for domestic violence is not just a slogan, if you are experiencing or witnessing domestic violence, you can call the police on 110, or you can call the All-China Women's Federation Women's Rights Defense Hotline 12338.
I also hope that each of us, whether it is the child's teacher, doctor, relative or neighbor, if we find that a child has the possibility of being abused and abused, do not ignore it, do not treat it as someone else's "family affair", but timely report to the police and intervene in time.
Domestic violence and child abuse are never household chores! May every child grow up happily in love!
Resources
https://www.zhihu.com/question/21427006/answer/20522735?utm_source=wechat_session&utm_medium=social&utm_oi=1144239926311739392&utm_content=sec
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effects_of_domestic_violence_on_children
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