You are not filial! The bedridden elderly property is distributed, the three children take care of each other, and the elderly make a decision

Generally speaking, parents in old age will choose their own way of pension, in the past the elderly will often choose to give the rest of their lives to their children to live with their children, live with their children, so that their pension also has enough security, but in today's life, most of the elderly in the pension problem appeared a lot of choices, in fact, not so much a variety of choices, but rather that there is no better choice, had to derive other options.

Once the old man and his son are living together, a big family a small courtyard, lively, even if they do not live together, then will live in a place, not far apart, every day there will be time to meet a face, so that the elderly pension will not have too much worry, but in today's era of life, it seems that children often leave home to work, even if they are in the same city as their parents, in fact, they will lack too much time to accompany their parents, after all, most of the family life pressure is still very large, Therefore, there will be a variety of ways to provide for the elderly, or a nursing home, or a nanny, etc., no matter which way of providing for the elderly, the most important thing is that the parents need to be satisfied, the parents are happy, and the second is to do what the children need to do.

For parents, the heart will always leave their own children, or their own real estate, or their own savings to their children, which is no objection, but when there are more children, the distribution of property will often become the most difficult thing to do in the family, because a little attention will cause contradictions between children, and even lead to estrangement of family affection.

You are not filial! The bedridden elderly property is distributed, the three children take care of each other, and the elderly make a decision

68-year-old Uncle Liu's affairs:

Uncle Liu has been 68 years old, his life has always been very stable, happy, three children have their own families, and his wife has gone through more than forty years, the relationship has been very stable, but since his wife died of illness last year, Uncle Liu's health is also in daily condition, and now he has begun to prepare for the distribution of family property.

Uncle Liu has three children, the eldest two is a boy, the third is a daughter, and now the eldest and second elder also bought a house by relying on the help of the family when they got married, the eldest and second elderly lived locally, the daughter was far married, married to other places, but the return is not very far, the current transportation is convenient, three or four hours can get home, and Uncle Liu usually lives with his wife in his own home, and every year a family reunion can only be together in the New Year, and it is rare to be all there when the usual time is also. In the past, when his wife was there, Uncle Liu did not think of bothering his children to take care of himself, but now that his wife is gone, his body is getting worse and worse, so how to provide for the elderly has been valued by the three children.

In fact, Uncle Liu has always wanted to go to the child's home for the elderly, because he feels that he is used to living at home, and he is certainly not used to it after going to the child's home, and he is not free, so he also wants to live in his own home, but the physical condition does not allow it, so he had to listen to the opinions of the children, and decided to go to the eldest son's home to live in the pension, so it passed for a year.

Now the physical condition is getting worse and worse, he also began to prepare for the distribution of the family's property in advance, according to Uncle Liu's idea, the family property is not much, only a set of rural houses, Uncle Liu originally thought that if this house can stay, it will stay, it is also a thought for the three children, if you want to sell later, then divide it equally, this is also common sense, and he and his wife have the remaining fifty or sixty thousand yuan over the years, which was also used for the elderly. Now this money is also planned to be given to the eldest son, because the eldest son has taken care of himself more over the years, but the income is not as high as the old two, and the family conditions are not as good as the old three, so he decided to give this money to the boss, which is also the best result, but unexpectedly, the three children have opinions in their hearts.

Because the house in the village has news that it may be demolished, it will compensate about 700,000 yuan at that time, not too much and not less, and the equal division is also very good, but the first dissatisfaction is the boss's daughter-in-law, the boss's daughter-in-law feels that the boss is responsible for Uncle Liu's pension, it should be divided a little more, and these years Uncle Liu and his wife's illness and medicine These are the boss back to arrange, and even usually the boss is accompanying his parents, so if you want to divide the property, you should have the boss more points, but the second brother said no, The second brother felt that when the eldest brother got married, his parents gave the most money, whether it was a bride price or a house, he helped a lot, and when he got married, he couldn't even afford to buy a house, and finally he still relied on his mother-in-law's family to buy a house, so the boss should take care of his parents more, and he shouldn't take this matter out to say things, so he has been arguing and disagreeing, and even his daughter has said that his life is difficult, and he also said that his life in the in-laws' family is very difficult.

The three families talked about their difficulties and opinions one after another, and all this behavior made Uncle Liu angry, he said:

"You are not filial! I haven't left yet, I've been arguing now, you are brothers and sisters! Is it really that important to divide more and less? Not to mention that the old house has not been demolished, I don't want to demolish, even if it is demolished, I, the father, just want you to live well, you are not satisfied with anything! ”

This quarrel has not stopped, so Uncle Liu did not continue to make a decision, after thinking about it for a few days, Uncle Liu still made a decision, bluntly saying:

"You all have your own families, the savings I have in my hands now are not much, this is left to the boss, after all, the boss is also willing to take care of me, give me a pension, this point you don't have to argue, these years the second is too busy, the third is far from home, many things are your eldest brother to help, if your mother is there, it will also hurt your eldest brother, your eldest brother's work is not as good as yours, the second brother can make money, you are not short of these tens of thousands of dollars, the third lived in the in-laws' house, at that time the dowry of 100,000 yuan, I also let you take it with your mother." , we didn't keep a penny,

You tangled the boss when we helped more when he got married, in fact, there was not much help, he helped to subsidize fifty thousand yuan, the others are your eldest brother himself borrowed, only to buy the house, as for the old house in the village will not be demolished, I don't know, if there is no demolition, it is not allowed to sell, has been kept, as a thought, you three brothers and sisters who want to go back later, go back to live, if you want to sell, discuss it yourself, if you really want to demolish, the compensation for demolition I decided to divide equally, because you are all my children, I don't want my children to suffer losses, or I feel unhappy in my heart, but if you are really not satisfied, I also hope that you will wait for me to leave, and you will discuss it yourself, but you remember that you are brothers and sisters, don't make trouble when you are old and have no relatives. ”

In the end, the three children stopped talking and agreed to Uncle Liu's arrangement.

Write at the end:

Uncle Liu's arrangement is actually very wise, the remaining property will not be equally divided so that any of the children feel unbalanced, and living in the family of the eldest son who helps the most is also what the eldest son is willing to do, which on the one hand, Uncle Liu takes care of the emotions of the boss, and the remaining house is left for the three children to decide, or equally divided, in fact, this reflects his fair attitude towards the three children.

In fact, for many elderly people, the most worrying thing after reaching old age is their own pension problems and the distribution of family property, which often becomes a contradiction faced by many families, after all, when it comes to their own interests, it often hurts feelings, so at any time do not let the elderly chill, and do not lead to the rupture of feelings between brothers and sisters because of the distribution of benefits, what do you think?