Foreword: After retirement, it is free, but there are some things to do less and not to do, what is that? See what these three old men had to say.
01 Uncle Zhong, 62 years old
Before and after retirement, I felt that life really changed a lot, and when I used to work, I felt that life was leisurely and leisurely, and I was in a very happy mood every day.
But the longer I retired, the more lonely I felt, except for the occasional morning and evening out for a walk, and at other times I was facing the four walls of the house, and there was not even a person to talk.
My wife left very early, both children are not around, each has its own family, each has its own career.
They also told me to move in, but I felt that leaving the place where I had lived for decades, not even a friend, and I felt that I was still healthy and did not want to be a burden for children, so I refused.
So in this case, I deliberately wanted to find a companion. Under the introduction of others, I met Ah Mei, who is 11 years younger than me.
My original intention was to find a partner, good health, no burden on it, Amei are in line, there is no problem with the body, only one son is working outside and supporting himself. So I feel good about getting acquainted with each other.
So we lived together not long after, she moved in with my house, and at the beginning she would cook for me, and we got along very well.
I did not treat her badly, and every month I took out thousands of dollars for her writers to use, and also to spend some money on her.
But slowly, she began to take money with me non-stop, first hundreds, then one or two thousand, and tried to take thousands of dollars.
And the reason why she took the money was for her own expenses, buy clothes, jewelry, buy mobile phones, I can't see it, I only use a thousand mobile phones, and she has to buy herself a thousand mobile phones.
If I didn't want to, she would argue and argue with me, and there would be no peace in the house. I really regret putting myself in such a big burden and annoyance, and now I've had a showdown with her and let her leave my house.
02 Uncle Tang, 66 years old
My wife and I have lived in a small county all my life, and we have two children who have become a family and have a baby, if you want to say that you don't want to do anything after retirement, you may be helping your children with your baby.
In the past few years, my youngest son had an eldest grandson, and I broke two Cokes and rushed to bring them children.
The husband and wife of the son are usually busy at work, and under our communication and consultation, it is agreed that after the daughter-in-law takes maternity leave, they will help take the child and take the child to kindergarten.
I don't do this with children, mainly my wife is with me.
But my two sons and two couples have lived together for a long time, and there are more contradictions, the most important thing is the contradiction around how to bring the child.
Daughter-in-law and wife often quarrel because of different ways of taking children, and several times they quarrel.
But slowly, he was not limited to the problem of taking children, and even the issue of the usual diet and eating began to have different opinions.
My wife and I complained that I got up early every day and was greedy, and I was not understood to help take the child wholeheartedly, and my heart was uncomfortable.
The daughter-in-law may also feel depressed, and several nights she and her son have heard them quarreling over children and family chores.
My wife and I felt uncomfortable listening to it. Our two elders worked hard to help with the children, not to be grateful and abandoned, and it was uncomfortable to change anyone.
In the end, when the child was two years old, we returned to our hometown, and the daughter-in-law also advocated sending the child to an early education class, which was more convenient.
Now every time my daughter-in-law meets us, the atmosphere is a little wrong, and my wife has aged a lot in the years with her children, and now she is often depressed.
03 Uncle Zhang, 65 years old
Since retirement, my wife and I have returned to our hometown, where the air is good, life is leisurely, and it is very suitable for the elderly.
We used to work in big cities, and the salary we got after retirement was very enjoyable in our hometown, and the quality of life was also very high.
Sometimes when I get together with old friends and classmates, it is inevitable that I will share my pension, and everyone feels envious when they hear it.
I think that when people live to be old, the happy things are nothing more than children filial piety, enough money to spend, and three or five friends to chat.
But I didn't expect that because of some of my words, it would bring a lot of trouble to my life.
My relatives and friends around me all knew that my two elders had a lot of pensions, and soon people began to ask us to borrow money.
At the beginning, it was a fellow countryman, saying that his child failed to start a business, owed some money, and wanted to borrow 20,000 yuan from me to respond to the emergency.
At that time, I looked at the old friend he had known for many years, and I lent it to him without much thought, nor did I sign any IOUs, and I thought it was impossible to run so familiar.
Later, some relatives and friends came to me to borrow money, saying that I am now living a worry-free life, the children have a job, and they want to help their old friends and their families.
I don't think it's okay to go on like this, and I'm embarrassed to refuse to borrow money, and if I don't borrow it, I can't seem to hang on my face.
But most of the money lent out has not been returned, and every time I deliberately remind it, others also say that I have such a high income every month, how can I lack money.
Now I know that money cannot be exposed, and excessive sharing of my money and life will also bring trouble to myself.
Conclusion: After retirement, what else should I do less and should not do? Feel free to leave a message in the comments section.