Have you ever thought about your life after retirement?
Although I was in my early twenties at this time, I should have been scrappy, but at some point, I actually had the idea of retirement. Think about it, it feels beautiful, there is no work pressure, there is no pressure to survive, how to live, are according to their own wishes.
Man, for what you don't get, you always expect too much. Retirement in reality is far less beautiful than expected.
Aunt Li is a cadre in the system, 55 years old can retire, originally she could apply, work until the age of 60 to retire, but when she thinks that she has worked hard for most of her life, there is no shortage of food and clothing at home, and she will give up.
Logically, she is much better than the average person, because she has a pension and can live without looking at the faces of her children. Unfortunately, there are a pair of children who do not seek progress and "nibble on the old".
In order to get her son married, she paid out of her own pocket, made a down payment, and booked him a suite. For the sake of fairness, the daughter was also prepared with an equivalent dowry when she got married.
Aunt Li lamented that her children were debts in her past life and had to be repaid in this life. If they are motivated, her life after retirement, it is quite comfortable. But for their sake, they had to cut back on food and clothing and plan ahead.
I consoled her that her parents' beloved son was far-reaching. Parents in the world are the same, heart, so and so, it's really tired.
After I got home, I talked to my lover about how to live after retirement and how to be smart. We have reached an agreement to dare to break off relations with 4 kinds of people, so that the heart will not be tired.
1. Poor relatives who turn their faces ruthlessly
Some people are born with a sense of superiority, even if they are very poor, they also look like they are poor and he is reasonable. If there are such relatives on the stall, it is really bad luck.
Because of the existence of blood relations and relatives, many times we have to put away our emotions and dare not break out in the small universe. You are obviously already very good, and you have helped him as much as you can, but the poor relatives are still not satisfied, and they are still slandering you behind your back, saying that you have not done your best.
Such a ruthless poor relative really wants to break off relations as soon as possible. Maybe before retirement, it will take into account the reputation, and then affect the work, but now that you have retired, you have no worries and can generously break off relations.
Some people may say that relatives are not two words, and they can be broken by saying a word. Even if the bone is broken, it is still connected to the tendon. Even so, if you really want to break off your relationship, even your parents and relatives can give up fiercely.
Because such relatives, too do not know how to be grateful, only know to blindly take, you do not owe him, why do you want to make yourself unhappy, life is alive, who has not yet a hurdle. Others are willing to help you, that is the love, not to help is the duty, do not kick the nose in the face.
Unfortunately, those poor relatives who turn their faces and are ruthless do not have such an awareness, they will only be selfish for themselves, and they will not think about others at all. When you wrestle and need someone to pull you along, he will stand by and laugh at you.
If such relatives do not break off relations with them, should they stay and add to their own blockage?
2. Friends with negative energy
As the old saying goes, friends have more roads to go. There is some truth to this, but it is not entirely true. Years are a huge sieve that will screen out for us, friends who are really suitable for us and have the same frequency as us.
Those friends who are full of negative energy, or break off friends early. Because in his mouth, he couldn't say anything good. Don't get in the way of face, don't be willing to break off diplomatic relations, you have to cut the mess quickly, and the pain is enough for a while.
After retirement, the whole person's mental strength will be much worse than before, and he does not want the people around him to be too indebted to say something that makes you unhappy. Not only does it not make your ears clean, but it also makes you sad.
Such a friend is not a road person, and the sooner he breaks off his friendship, the better. Some people, after retirement, feel that there are too few friends around them, and they can't bear to break off their friendships, so there is not even a person who can talk.
That depends on your choice, if you can really endure, a friend with negative energy, keep him around, just so that sometimes, someone can listen to you, whether it is worth it in the end depends on your personal choice.
The Tao is different, not conspiratorial. To put it bluntly, you are not a road person, instead of enduring suffering, it is better to severe friendship with a cruel heart, don't be reluctant to have that friendship, and be with such a person, no less than drinking and quenching thirst.
They have reached the age of retirement, and they should live thoroughly, let their hearts be comfortable, and don't find guilt for themselves.
3. Neighbors who love to chew the root of their tongues
It is said that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, and there is a premise in this, and it must be a good neighbor. It is really good to have good neighbors around you and be able to take care of each other, but if you have a neighbor who loves to chew the root of your tongue, you should break off relations as soon as possible.
Such a neighbor will only bring you unhappiness. You put some troubles at home with her and the tray, and promised not to tell the third person in front of you, but it wasn't long before the whole community knew about it and ran to you to care about you.
You suddenly want to find a hole in the ground and let yourself drill into it so that you can avoid such an embarrassing scene. Neighbors who love to chew the root of their tongues may not know what is wrong.
She just said it casually, and there was nothing bad about it, but it brought you unhappiness and made your originally peaceful life more turbulent.
In addition, they will also pass on gossip messages from other people in the neighborhood in front of you. You are in the way of face, so you have to cooperate with her and say something against your heart.
If there is no deep friendship between you, such a neighbor will still break off diplomatic relations as soon as possible. Maybe some people will not be able to erase their faces, thinking that between the neighbors, they will not look up and see each other, and it is not good to do that.
But now that you are retired, you really don't have to think too much, only comfort is the most important, away from those neighbors who love to chew the root of the tongue, how good it is to have a clean ear root.
4, always love to step on your colleagues
Before retiring, some colleagues had to endure because of their work. Even if there is dissatisfaction in your heart, you must smile and greet each other, and dare not make the relationship too rigid.
But now that you're retired, you don't have to worry too much. Originally, those colleagues who always loved to step on you and hit your confidence, it was time to break off friendships.
I once saw such a news on the Internet, to the effect that every time a young person leaves his job, he will delete his colleagues from the address book. Some people are puzzled and think that this move is chilling.
However, I can understand that the colleagues who have worked together are not friends, and since they have left their jobs, they may never meet again in this life, rather than letting such a stranger occupy your circle of friends, it is better to clean up.
If a person leaves his job, this will be the case, not to mention retirement, and he should break off relations with those colleagues who always love to step on you. Some people here may be worried, and they will worry about the problem of face.
I don't think you have to be so twisted, you know you don't like it, you don't have to force yourself, hate is hate, don't have to pretend. At the age of retirement, living freely is the most important pursuit.
As for the rest, those who have no pain in life, let it pass away with the wind, don't find yourself unhappy.
Life is only 30,000 days, all have reached the age of retirement, has reached the second half of life, should live freely.
Don't let your heart get too tired, learn to do some subtraction for your own life.
Get rid of those things that affect your mood and make you unhappy, and the rest of your life can be less sad and more joyful.