Many people think that after retirement, life is no longer busy, no matter what happens, take the handle, reflecting the style of the elderly.
The kinder the old man, the more kind he is, the more popular he is in society, and he can accumulate virtue and happiness for himself.
In fact, it is human nature to seek advantages and avoid harm, and it is the law of nature for the weak to eat the strong. Everything has two sides, don't lose your free life after retirement because you are too kind.
There's a line in The Big Bang Theory: "You're so kind, the world will chew you to the bone." ”
When people are old, they must have the bottom line of being a person, and they should not tie their lives to anyone. Kindness is very expensive, and while treating others well, you must also be kind to yourself.
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Don't help with your grandchildren all the time, learn to "talk about conditions".
Idle, take the grandchildren around, let the children make time, good work.
After helping the children, the daughter-in-law and son-in-law will also be happy, and in the future, they will be very old and unable to walk, and they will be able to get their care.
The matter of "filial piety" is mutual, and children cannot be unilaterally asked to be grateful to their parents.
It turns out that not all elderly people are suitable for bringing grandchildren. There are also some children who do not feel grateful because their parents help with their grandchildren, but think that this is what parents should do. It is not uncommon for children to make progress; there are also many daughters-in-law who pick and choose between in-laws and mothers-in-law; and old people in pain who cannot take care of themselves.
In a way, children force their parents to bring their grandchildren, which is an act of "nibbling on the old".
The ancients said: "Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and they should not make cattle and horses for their children and grandchildren." ”
Retired elderly people, to bring grandchildren, we must talk about conditions, do not have no bottom line. Who is responsible for household expenses, whether their own body can eat and drink, how to take a few years, how to arrange holidays, and how to do education, must be fully considered.
Ugly words ahead. Don't sit down and discuss when the contradiction intensifies, but predict it and have a solution when the contradiction has not yet emerged.
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Don't let people in the workplace continue to trouble you, learn to "break off diplomatic relations".
After leaving the workplace, colleagues, bosses, and subordinates are ordinary people, do not bring "rank" to life.
Usually, when we meet an old boss, we will call him "a certain director, a certain director", which is the minimum respect for people. But you don't take it too seriously.
Some people, after retirement, still put up a stinky shelf, thinking that they can arrange old subordinates to serve themselves.
For example, when the elderly are gathering, some people who have served as bosses sit in the main position, but the elders of the family sit in the position of the side, which seems "not big or small"; the old boss sits and waits for the subordinates to bring tea and water for themselves, and also arranges for the subordinates to help him buy cigarettes and order food, if the arrangement is not good enough, it will give people a face.
In the workplace, people bow their knees in order to survive, after all, the family depends on you to support. Quit the workplace, you should straighten up and go home to be a "grandparent".
For those who should crush you by the rules of the workplace, know how to respond and let him walk away with interest. After that, there will be no interest in each other.
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Don't get too close to mercenary people, learn to "drive away."
When you retire, you have a pension every month and a savings at home. A life of abundance can be enviable; there are people staring at your wallet and salivating.
As a person in your sixties and seventies, you should be very aware that money is "the root of health and happiness." Whoever comes up with money is very cautious.
If he is a person who borrows money and does not repay it, he should reject him; if he is a poor person, it is necessary to see whether he has the potential for development; if he is a person with little contact and difficult to understand, do not pay attention to him.
Businessmen who sell you things, people who pretend to send you things, must be turned away. There are no pies, only traps.
The people who can make you live a long life are all liars; the people who can guarantee that you live younger and younger are extremely irresponsible people; the people who help you make a lot of money will trap your funds; the people who flatter you are another purpose.
People's hearts are separated from the belly, and it is difficult for you to see clearly. But you can see through a little - there is nothing to climb the Three Treasures Hall, greedy and cheap to eat big losses. Drive out those who make you lose money.
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Don't take relatives and friends too seriously, and know how to "give up".
One of my cousins, after retirement, took the initiative to socialize with relatives. Some relatives who had not seen each other for many years were also contacted; relatives who went to develop in other places became familiar people again.
No matter which relative has a red and white celebration, the cousin will go to join in the fun. One after the other, the gift money sent out every year is as high as more than 10,000.
The children are worried that the cousins and cousins will take the car to visit relatives in the field, in case they get lost and deceived, the consequences will be unimaginable. After all, when people are old, they are inevitably confused, and physically, they may not be able to survive the journey.
There is a good point of view: "When people get old, they break off relations with relatives, they are estranged from friends, and they leave behind three or five confidants." ”
In this life, there are not many people who can talk to you; there are even fewer people who can help each other. After layers of screening, there are still three or five people, chatting with you, traveling together, and taking pictures of each other, it is enough.
After retirement, do not try to be lively, but enjoy the tranquility. When you meet relatives and friends who are pulling you to join in the fun, you have to refuse and let them know your "temper".
A pot of tea, a book, a pen, can make you feel the joy of "seclusion"; watching the scenery with your wife, you are "Xu Xiake".
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Of course, there is a scale for not being easy to provoke, not to be angry at every turn, to confront others, to deliberately destroy the environment, to provoke incidents. Instead, we must keep our duties, be frank, and maintain a moderate indifference to anyone.
Let go of the mask of hypocrisy, and when interacting with people, reveal the truth. Hate is hate, like is like, praise is praise, criticism is criticism... People who can understand you will naturally have fun with you, and people who don't understand you will lose it.
Being a person is expensive in the word "comfortable". To people who make you uncomfortable, why should you make them comfortable?
Be a man, compare your heart to your heart, and exchange your heart for your heart; you are not kind, and Hugh blames me for being unjust.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.