Author: Clover (Rich Book Author)
Tagore once said, "One night you burned all your memories and your dreams became transparent." One morning you throw away all your yesterday and your steps are light ever since. ”
In everyone's heart, it is inevitable that there will be some suffering and memories.
It is safe during the day and emerges in the dead of night.
The more I remember, the more I am deeply trapped in the pain of the past, and I can't forget it.
However, if you cling to yesterday, you will be trapped in the future.
Only by knowing how to forgive everything before going to bed can you wake up with a new life.
Don't dwell on other people's faults
On the "Gold Mediation" program, the strangest couple in history was ushered in.
Mr. Tang and Ms. Zhou accused each other, quarreled for decades, and repeatedly entangled.
On the mediation table, the two insisted on each other, blaming each other for the unhappy marriage for many years.
Mr. Tang blamed his wife for having a bad temper and usually did not care about himself, making his emotions lacking.
Ms. Zhou accused her husband of being irresponsible, impatient at home, and unwilling to listen to her own ideas.
In this regard, the two have been venting their emotions through quarrels, even a small thing can cause great dissatisfaction and break out into quarrels.
After decades of marriage, both were exhausted.
The two people who originally had a good relationship were entangled in each other's mistakes and did not have a happy day.
Obviously, because of love and attention, both people have high expectations of each other. I hope that by correcting deviations, the other party will become what he expects.
But the result is the opposite, and the two drift apart.
At the bottom of the show, there is a high praise comment like this: husband and wife get along, if they pay too much attention to each other and entangle each other's faults, it will make each other feel very tired.
Because just a fierce rebuttal is exhausting.
The consequence of constantly accusing and making the other party feel worthless is that they take care of all the affairs in the family.
Zhou Guoping said: "Life must have wisdom that does not compete. ”
This is especially true with a lover.
If you are always entangled in each other's mistakes and dwell on them, instead of solving the problem, you will hurt each other's feelings and fall into greater trouble.
Husband and wife argue, fight for right and wrong, and eventually only lose each other.
In married life, instead of focusing on what your partner is not doing well, you should use a magnifying glass to look at each other's strengths.
Love what they are like and respect what they are different.
When husband and wife get along, only by learning to properly forgive each other's mistakes will the marriage be more stable and harmonious.
In the relationship, there is no "right person" who is born with a perfect fit, only in the run-in, the right person is getting better and better.
Whether you quarrel or gaffe, forgive everything before going to bed, do not entangle right and wrong, and do not let negative energy stay overnight to start a new day.
Don't do emotional trash cans
There is a good saying: "Some people are like garbage cans, running around full of garbage, full of regret, anger, disappointment, constantly spreading." ”
Being with such a person will only discourage you, drain your energy, weaken your love of dreams and expectations for future life, and become a negative person in everything.
Only by learning to stay away from the negative energy of the workplace, not to be an emotional trash can, and to keep a clear mind can we improve work efficiency and have a greater competitive advantage.
More than a decade later, "The Devil Wears Prada" has endured and is still the best workplace textbook.
The heroine Andy was not optimistic when she first entered the workplace, but in the end, she counterattacked all the way and grew into the first general assistant.
Andy grew up as the first assistant, and the first thing to overcome was the practice of bringing personal emotions into the work.
At the beginning of his career, Andy collected a lot of negative energy around him, treated his work carelessly, blurted out negative words, and kept complaining to his boyfriend about his bad job and perverted boss after returning home from work, and a magnetic field of negative energy was formed around him.
But Andy didn't realize it until his colleague's words woke him up:
"Okay, then you can go. You think you're doing your best, but you're just coping, not trying.
So many people are working hard for this cause, but you don't care, but instead want your boss to kiss you on the forehead and reward you with a five-pointed star. ”
When Andy realized that emotions didn't solve the problem, her professional life ushered in a gorgeous transformation.
She no longer complains about her duties and the work she should do well, but constantly learns and actively adapts to her work, gaining insight into the ideas and needs of others in advance, and doing everything in advance.
In just six months, he transformed into a fashionista with mature behavior and thought, and won more possibilities and choices for his life.
In the workplace, our emotions are easily influenced by those around us.
If you are surrounded by people who always complain about their work and spread negative emotions, be careful to be used as an emotional trash can, because continuing to receive negative emotions will make you less positive and optimistic about your work.
There are three types of people in the workplace: people who find problems, people who solve problems, and people who create problems.
The first two are often reused for finding and solving problems in a timely manner, and the last one is kicked out by everyone because it only spreads negative emotions and creates anxiety.
Because no one wants to deal with people who are more emotional than rational, and no one wants to unconditionally tolerate the faults of others.
The essence of work is a kind of cooperation, cooperation with each other to complete the work. People just want to work with each other to solve problems as quickly as possible, not superimpose problems.
People who solve problems are always valued more than people who complain about problems.
Whoever is more reliable and who makes their work efficient and fast in teamwork will be respected and valued.
Therefore, in the workplace, you must stay away from people full of negative emotions, and at the same time, you must be wary of becoming a negative person, and never be an emotional trash can.
Don't be afraid of regrets in life
As the old saying goes, "There is no feast under heaven." ”
On the road of life, some people walk and scatter.
Too much helplessness and regret runs through life.
There is no regret in friendship than not being able to pull your former friends on the road at different stages of life.
Because the older you get, the more different your trajectory and frequency of development will be.
Just like the change in the friendship between Ralph and Yunnie in the Disney movie "Destruction King 2".
Yunni and Ralph were very good friends. As they grew older, their minds gradually matured and their interests became more and more different.
Yunni has a "racing dream", loves challenges, is eager to change, and plunges into one brand new track after another in the Internet world.
Ralph loves simplicity and happiness and dreams of a stable and peaceful life in Sweet Rush.
Because of ideological differences, the two people embarked on different development paths, and it was difficult to say a word.
When director Jia Zhangke was a child, he and his cousin were about the same age and had similar interests, so the two had a very close relationship.
Jia Zhangke also always ran to his second aunt's house.
But later, Jia Zhangke became a director after entering university, and his cousin dropped out to become a miner.
Jia Zhangke is busy making movies to realize his dreams, while his cousin is busy making a living all day long.
The two have gone on different development paths, and the relationship between Jia Zhangke and his cousin has also changed from intimate to estranged.
As the saying goes, "Confidants scattered is the norm in life." ”
Birds and fish, after all, will have their own worlds and pursuits, separated by a world and earth distance.
Our friendships change as we grow, but the best friendships are stronger because of change.
Dong Yuhui said: "Don't be afraid of regrets in life, regrets that are destined to appear can teach you to grow."
The shortcomings in friendship will make us remember the beauty of life more and cherish friends at every stage. All regrets are another fulfillment.
The years are vicissitudes, time is easy to pass, may you follow the fate and be at peace; Face loss calmly and cherish what you have.
In "You Listen to Me", Eason Chan sings: "Actually, you know, troubles will solve problems. The new one just arrives, and the old one forgets. ”
Human life, seemingly very long, is actually very short, subdivided into only three days:
Today, tomorrow, yesterday.
Yesterday's events cannot be pursued, today's things are troubled, and tomorrow's events are unknown.
Accept the shortcomings and imperfections in life, and forget the unwillingness and obsession. In order to become more resilient and optimistic, and feel the beauty of tomorrow.
Life is precious, live for yourself.
May you and I forget everything before going to bed and wake up to be born again.
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