He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
I saw a paragraph on the Internet:
"I thought that when I went home for the Spring Festival for the New Year, I could rest and relax for a few days; Unexpectedly, celebrating the New Year at home is more tiring than going to work. ”
Why?
Because of the continuous maneuvering in one blind date after another, contemporary singles have long opened a "spare tire blind date".
I saw a post on the Internet, some netizens need to go on blind dates 20 times during the Spring Festival.
What concept? Participate in at least 3 blind dates a day.
Single people are not in a hurry, but parents and relatives and friends around them are more anxious than him.
However, some people introduce you to blind dates sincerely, and some people introduce you on blind dates, but they look down on you.
How will someone who looks down on you introduce you to a blind date?
1. Introduce some people who are "obviously inferior to you"
This is the experience of a female reader.
She works as a primary school teacher in the township, is 160cm tall, and is 30 years old.
It stands to reason that this condition is very good in a small city, and she can find a career editor or civil servant with comparable conditions to marry.
She didn't have that strong thoughts about getting married, but just participated in the blind date with the mentality of trying it out.
It's nice if you can meet the right one, but it's okay if you can't.
She bought her own car and planned to pay the provident fund for another two years to buy a house on her own.
At this time, a relative came to introduce her to a blind date.
What kind of boy do you introduce?
Work in a factory, height 170, weight 220 pounds, salary 5k a month, have a car and no house.
Hearing this condition, the girl was reluctant.
But this relative is soft and hard, playing the affection card, and saying some words of guarantee, and the girl agrees to meet for the sake of face.
The moment they met, the girl was disappointed.
Appearance, personality, and her imaginary partner are simply two states.
So she politely refused.
As a result, the relatives of the person who introduced her called her directly.
A reprimand said:
"Don't think that if you are a teacher yourself, you think how good the conditions are; Although people's salaries are not high, but people's parents have pensions, don't look at other people's average appearance, and their character is better. ”
This made the girl angry and helpless.
"Is it true that in the eyes of this relative, am I really so bad?"
In fact, the person who introduces you to the object in this way looks down on you in their hearts.
Why?
Because in his subconscious, your conditions, your family, are just worthy of such a blind date.
Think about it, isn't that true?
2. Mock you, hit you, and say that you are useless
Have you ever met such an "introducer"?
They are generally relatives, friends or neighbors around you.
While introducing you to a blind date, accusing and mocking you.
Common phrases are:
"Who do you think you are? I'm 30 years old and don't find a partner to marry."
This reminds me of an example around me.
Also a single lady, 32 years old has been single.
Then a relative introduced her to someone and said:
"You're both 32 years old, do you know what it means for a woman to be 32? After the age of 30, it is worthless, and no one wants to ask for it. ”
"You got married at 32 and have a few years to have children?"
"Women should be at home with their husbands and children, full-time wives, what is the use of making more money for you?"
"Who do you think you are, do you think you're in good condition?"
Implication:
"No one wants to introduce you to anyone but me."
Who can bear hearing relatives say this?
The mud bodhisattva also has three points of fire.
The lady stunned this relative, so that the relative did not dare to say a word, and walked around every time they met.
People who look down on you will often constantly suppress you and belittle you in the process of blind dates.
Their purpose is to manipulate you by blowing your self-confidence.
Gives you the illusion that:
"You should be grateful to me Dade, no one wants to introduce you to anyone but me."
Blind date is also a quack affair.
Where there are people, you can see all kinds of things.
People who can't see you well are often people close to you.
They are jealous of you, they envy you, but they can't do anything about you.
Compare income with you? Nothing compares to you.
Than family circumstances? Not as good as your family.
Than marriage? They can only introduce you to some "crooked dates" to disgust you.
When you meet such people, stay away as soon as possible, they are not well.
From the current marriage market, the essence of blind date is a "game of maximizing interests".
Two people are like interviewing for a job, taking out their respective resumes and exchanging with each other.
The door to the door is the optimal solution, and the door is not right, and it is often difficult to come together.
Compared with love and love, people nowadays are more rational in the face of marriage.
Today's Topic:
Have you ever had such a blind date?
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