Thirty years later, look back

Author: Xu Junxia

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Thirty years ago, I was in high school. At that time, almost all of my relatives were in the same county.

My father has five brothers and sisters, all in the same township.

The third uncle worked in a township enterprise, but did not go out of the township.

The fourth uncle has been working in the county town since he was discharged from the army, and his wife and children have been living in his old hometown.

My mother has six siblings, my aunt married a doctor, my third aunt married a teacher, and my profession was different from that of a peasant family, but she lived in the same place as other sisters.

At that time, it was still the era of agriculture, relatives lived not far away, scattered in three miles and five villages, and family telephones were not yet popular.

01

My eldest aunt is older, her eldest son is the same age as my mother, her younger son is the same age as my father, her eldest granddaughter is older than me, and her second granddaughter is the same age as me.

As long as I can remember, my uncle had already retired, and his second son had taken over and became the number one in the town hospital.

Although the cousin didn't talk much, he was not a bad person and had no shelves.

Every time I went to my aunt's house as a guest, whether I followed my mother or went by myself, I would definitely go to his house for dinner.

The wife he married was more inflated, as if how big an official her husband was, she was also a big official.

Relatives generally look up to her, and she also loves to take care of her relatives' affairs, and comments on the children of her relatives' families who read books and go to school.

She has a flamboyant personality, loves the present, and likes to walk relatives. This family has died of old age, and they have changed to another family.

My cousin and she both worked in the health system, but they ended up withdrawing and the two worked in the food business for several years.

Now that he is old, he has a bad relationship with his brothers and sisters, and his brother and two younger sisters do not move around with his family.

The second generation of the aunt's family fell, and the third generation had only one granddaughter who settled in the coastal cities.

02

My second aunt died early, and when I was in college, I died of cancer.

In the 80s, the second aunt's family was one of the few 10,000-yuan households in her village, but unfortunately she did not enjoy happiness.

My uncle's family is solid, and he is capable, and I have the impression that he made a fortune growing vegetables.

The second aunt gave birth to three daughters and a son, although the son was an old pimple and entered the society after dropping out of school, he did not suffer less and suffered.

The fly in the ointment is that the family prefers sons to daughters, especially uncles.

Several sons and daughters live ordinary lives, and some of the third generation have passed the college entrance examination, and some have settled in coastal cities through part-time work.

The two granddaughters of the second aunt, the eldest is in graduate school and the younger is in high school, and after three generations of hard work, the family has the opportunity to change their lives against the sky.

03

The third aunt's family is a scholarly family, and the uncle receives a monthly salary, and is still materially richer than the peasant family that gouges food in the soil.

In addition to the eldest son's farming, the second son and the youngest daughter have all walked out of the farm, the second son has entered the town health system, and the younger daughter has entered the county factory.

The back is against the big tree to enjoy the shade, the parents have money, and the children and grandchildren are stained.

The education system has high pensions, and aunts and uncles spoil their children and grandchildren.

The third generation of the third aunt's family has three grandchildren married and had children, and only one granddaughter wants to settle in the municipality.

Rich but not for three generations, it's really not an empty phrase, not to mention eating on wages, where can you be considered a real rich!

04

My fourth aunt and my mother are similar in age, married early, and although they are farmers, their family is not a star and a half better than ours.

My uncle farmed when he was busy in the farm, and did odd jobs when he was not working, so he was a man who could not be idle.

The fourth aunt gave birth to a pair of children, and there are fewer children than in our family.

When he was a teenager, his cousin read very smartly, but unfortunately he only read until he graduated from junior high school.

The third generation of their family, the grandson has graduated from college and joined the workforce, one of the granddaughters is married and has children, and the other is in college.

The family is not short of money, even if life goes up and down, it is financially enough to withstand risks.

05

My uncle's family is a family with many children, there are five children in the family, my uncle is down-to-earth and capable, my aunt is calculating, and in my childhood memory, my uncle's life is still rich.

Better than our home.

My cousin was in college, and when he first entered society, his uncle's family had a hard time.

His uncle often wore his son's school uniform to the gathering.

The Chinese national condition has always been to gnaw the old first, and then feed back.

Fortunately, no matter how difficult the days are, they have eased up little by little.

Today, his uncle's two daughters and one son have settled in a coastal city, and he himself has gone to his children's home to retire.

The other two daughters, one settled in the county seat of Linxian County, and the other bought a house in the provincial capital.

Some of the second generation of my uncle's family migrated to the city by going to school or by working part-time.

There are not many third-generation children in my uncle's family, two at most, and as few as one.

In addition to the granddaughter and grandchildren who are currently in school, the grandchildren and granddaughters all go out through part-time work.

06

When my parents got married, my father was a veteran returning from the army with nothing, and my grandparents provided their son with only two side rooms for marriage.

Although my mother is the eldest in the family, she does not have much dowry.

The family is surrounded by disciples, starting from scratch, and there is no moderation in giving birth.

The eldest brother Chaosheng is said to have been falsely accused by his neighbors, and the younger brother Chaosheng is a real hammer.

My dad is a man of great desire, and he is also a person who is rich and secure.

One person has two sides, which is very contradictory.

In this life, parents either provide for their children to go to school, or help their sons start a family, and they have not accumulated much wealth materially.

Their greatest wealth is that they have three children, and their greatest debt is also three children.

Among the three of our three siblings, the younger brother suffered the most.

I got what I wanted when I was a student, and my parents did everything they could to support me to study.

After graduating from junior high school, the eldest brother did business at home, married his daughter-in-law, raised children, and bought a house, all of which were helped by his parents all the way.

Only the younger brother studied little when he was a student, and after entering the society, he suffered hardships that ordinary people did not endure, and he suffered anger that ordinary people did not experience.

Mom and Dad have never been lifted out of poverty, from youth to old age, and now they are only self-sufficient and have not dragged down.

The second generation of our family is all self-made, and the two younger brothers are better than me, and they both got married and had children in their parents' house.

Only when the conditions are met can I buy a house and have my own property under my name.

I had nothing, and when I first started working, I couldn't even pay $100 a month in rent.

My dad and brother both said: Where are you in your house with valuable things?

Indeed, the most valuable thing in my family is me as a person, and everything else outside my body: furniture, electrical appliances are not worth much.

The second generation of our family has entered middle age, and life is basically set.

The third generation of our family is still unknown, the second generation has done their best, and the third generation depends on themselves.

Now don't talk about my father's relatives, my mother's relatives, the second generation of our family is not in the same place, and the third generation, except for a mother, cousins do not know each other at all, they are not familiar with it.