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People are gossipy animals, one of the spices in life is a variety of gossip from outsiders, these talks will become the cost of others to socialize, both to close the relationship with others, but also do not need to pay anything more, is simply a good thing.
That's why they're keen to dig up all kinds of gossip, any one of them has the potential to be their target, and they're looking forward to hearing more exciting things from your mouth to improve their status in the gossip circle.
In summary, no matter how honest you are, you must keep 3 secrets in front of relatives and friends, which is a must-have.
One: their own real income
Money is the source of all evil, if your income is high enough, relatives and friends will put your income in their hearts, when they encounter trouble and need to use money, they will find you at the first time, let you pay money for them, solve the immediate trouble for them.
Even if they say borrow, in fact, once money is involved between relatives and friends, it is easy to have various conflicts. It is good for both borrowers and lenders to keep their credit, but if they cannot be fully achieved, it will only increase right and wrong.
If your income doesn't reach the average line of ostentation between relatives and friends, one of the most obvious results is that you will be ostracized and looked down upon by all kinds, and they will even deliberately distance themselves from you and keep you out of their circles.
In any case, telling relatives and friends about your true income is not beneficial and harmful. Smart people will either be ambiguous when faced with inquiries from relatives and friends about income, or they will say that the real income is lower, so as to avoid all kinds of contradictions that may arise.
That's the smart thing to do, and sometimes white lies actually protect your fragile relationship even better. Glazed tiles will shatter when touched, and you must be clear that the relationship between you is not actually stable because of blood relations, but will become shaky because of the different levels of income.
Two: family affairs
In the decades-long relationship with the family, it is inevitable that there will be various conflicts or some different chewy things.
People who want to share it usually like to take these things out for comment by relatives and friends as a cost in interpersonal communication, to maintain a connection with them, but in fact this is the most stupid thing to do.
Whether you share it so that relatives and friends can analyze the pros and cons for you or point out the confusion, you may run the risk of being distrusted by your family.
The neighbor's aunt's desire to share was extremely explosive, and her daughter-in-law accidentally owed hundreds of thousands of loans outside, and she took this matter out to say everyone in the village to show her indignation and hatred of iron and steel.
And soon after, word spread throughout the town. The most direct consequence of this incident is that while others are nagging and gossiping with her, they maintain a safe distance from their home psychologically and physically, and they are worried that one day, their family will extend a hand to them for help.
Family and we are a community of life, honor and disgrace together, family is good, we will be good, family is not good, a family will become a joke in the mouth of relatives and friends.
Three: The privacy of children
Colleague Sister Wang once shared her daughter's privacy with others, so that her daughter was always gossiped by outsiders with all kinds of kindness, cruelly tearing her wounds in front of her again and again, making her overwhelmed.
Because of this incident, her daughter also became a housewife who could not get out of the gate, and even began to quarrel with Sister Wang, because in her heart, Sister Wang did not fulfill her duty as a mother, and she was not willing to be close to her again.
As children, they must hate it when their families take out their privacy to share with relatives and friends. In their eyes, this may become an unforgivable sin, and even make the hearts of children more and more distant from you.
It's all because they don't trust you anymore, and when you talk about their privacy, the level of trust between you and your children will fall from high to low, and it will be difficult to remedy no matter how hard you try.
No matter how honest you are, when your children share their privacy with you, you must be strict with them, keep their words in your heart, lock them in your mouth, and they will believe you more, be more willing to share more things with you, and maintain a closer parent-child relationship.
In order to maintain a good relationship with relatives and friends, and in order not to suffer all kinds of Modo's harm, some things are best to choose a strategy that can be said or not, and it is a kind of protection for everyone. I hope you understand this truth sooner.
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