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If a certain threshold in life is regarded as a transitional stage of life, then retirement is undoubtedly the most appropriate node. Life before retirement is always related to the exhaustion of running, and life after retirement is teaching us to enjoy the calm leisure.
Retirement, as an important node in the course of life, inherits the haste of the first half of life and opens the happiness of the second half of life.
After retirement, it is not only necessary to complete the adaptation of life, but also to do a good job of adjustment and transformation of mentality.
Some people will suddenly be idle, so they always involuntarily reflect on the past and remember the past. Full of feelings need to be talked about, and half a life's feeling needs to find an audience. As a result, many people will be accustomed to going to other people's homes to visit, one is to resolve loneliness, and the other is to find close friends for their later life.
Visiting relatives and visiting the door is a habit that many people will have, and it is also a life tradition that many retirees like. However, whether you have a good life or not, remember not to visit the homes of these kinds of people, so that it is the embodiment of high emotional intelligence.
One: People who are not as good as you
In real life, people who have leisure to walk the streets or visit the door everywhere should have a good life. Even if it is not a fierce role that calls the wind and rain and makes a storm, it should be a life home that is like a fish and a happy leisure.
After a lifetime of hard work, there will always be some accumulation, no worries about food and clothing, so there is leisure to make friends, talk, and find a companion for the later life.
But in fact, this world is not everyone is the same luck, when you have begun to live happily, perhaps some people are still suffering from the torment of life, in order to beg for food, a handful of old people still have to do hard work, in order to ask for some hard money.
There is no doubt that those who are not as good as you should not be your first choice for visiting the door, first of all, they do not have time to accompany you, and secondly, your presence may also be a kind of pressure for them.
In the TV series "The World of Man", the six little gentlemen of the photon film have different fates, some people go to Beijing to become high-ranking officials, some people stay in the old street, because they are too poor to live, and their fathers are even frozen to death on the side of the street.
When a group of people gather, even if the well-mixed people do not deliberately show arrogance, in the eyes of those who are embarrassed, they are still cruelly showing off and burdening.
Don't associate with those who are not as good as you, it is a mercy for each other.
Two: People who haven't been in touch for a long time
Some people, after retirement, inevitably feel lonely, and when they think of friends who were close in the past but are no longer in touch, they can't help but feel some regrets. So with an attitude of harmony and cherishing, they will dare to ask someone to contact each other, or rush to go, regardless of whether the other party will feel embarrassed.
However, in the journey of life, everyone can actually only accompany us for a while, those friends who are scattered by time, just let him stay in time, break the tranquility, in fact, it will cause a burden on others.
Friends who have not been in touch for a long time have long been very different from each other's living conditions.
Maybe you have driven a luxury car, but the other party is still guarding the old motorcycle; or maybe the other party has already soared, and you are just an old friend when you know each other...
In either case, you'll be embarrassed if you go to the door. If the other party is not mixed well, your appearance will become a burden on others, and if you are not mixed well, then your appearance is like climbing the edge.
Treat such old acquaintances as Park Shu sang in "Those Flowers": "Some stories have not been told, so forget it." ”
Three: People who have had festivals
After retirement, some people will suddenly become peaceful, always feel that when it comes to the second half of life, they should put away their sharp edges. Adhering to the attitude that it is better to make friends than to have a vendetta, I want to shake hands with those who have had differences and contradictions in the past, and turn enemies into friends.
However, people have their own rhythm of getting along with each other, maybe you have let go, but the other party is not ready to forget, so your appearance can easily become a farce, inducing a new round of friction.
When people are old, if they really want to wave goodbye to their former reckless and conceited self, then the best thing to do is to seal this memory and then face the future more actively.
Taking the initiative to find people in memories is not only difficult to harvest, but also self-seeking, which is very unnecessary.
Retirement means that a person has to usher in a new beginning, just be yourself, and don't have to get a respite by interacting with the wrong people. Life is short, especially after retirement, life is only halfway, seize the time and fellowship with the right person, in order to be worthy of the future and yourself.
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