On November 5, 2004, Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan, who had already spread the "scandal", were engaged in Beijing, and this news was undoubtedly the headline of that day.
Why Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan's engagement will cause a sensation in the country, mainly because the age difference between the lovers is too large. At that time, Mr. Yang Zhenning was 82 years old, and his fiancée was only 28 years old, which was a yearless love.
More importantly, Yang Zhenning's identity and title are very special, he is a world-famous scientist, has won the Nobel Prize, with his identity and age, can make such a "shocking" decision, can not help but surprise the outside masses, directly triggered an "earthquake".
The reason why Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan's marriage has been criticized is mainly because the age gap between the two is too large, and Yang Zhenning's identity is too special and the degree of attention is very high, and it is inevitable that some people will look at this matter with a secular perspective.
Although Yang and Weng's relationship was greatly criticized, they both withstood the pressure and finally registered for marriage. Today, Yang and Weng are living happily and have been living together for more than ten years.
Many people wonder, how did Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan, two people with such a large age gap, go from acquaintance to love? In life, how does Yang Zhenning call his father-in-law and mother-in-law who are much younger than himself?
Yang Zhenning is a high-level intellectual, and although he has studied in the United States for many years and done research, he still knows a lot about Chinese culture. Yang Zhenning's way of calling his father-in-law and mother-in-law is very special, showing high emotional intelligence.
Yang Zhenning's love affair with Weng Fan
Yang Zhenning's first wife was Du Zhili, the daughter of Du Yuming, and the two met in the United States. At that time, Yang Zhenning was doing scientific research work in the United States, Du Zhili was a student studying in the United States, and the two met in a restaurant and had such a sweet marriage.
Du Zhili and Yang Zhenning are very affectionate, and in life, the two support each other, one outside the lord and the other inside. Yang Zhenning was able to win the Nobel Prize, and the support of his wife Du Zhili was very critical, and the two lived together for 53 years.
In October 2003, Du Zhili died of illness, and at his most difficult time, the appearance of Weng Fan gave Yang Zhenning great comfort and care. It is worth mentioning that Weng Fan looks very similar to Du Zhili in his youth, which may be a point that Yang Zhenning likes her.
Weng Fan, a native of Guangdong, studied foreign Chinese and literature at Shantou University in 1994, and during her time at the university, she was responsible for receiving Yang Zhenning and his wife who came to Shantou University to attend a physics conference.
Weng Fan's pure and lovely image was deeply loved by Yang Zhenning and his wife, and for many years thereafter, she has been in correspondence with Yang Zhenning and his wife, and has established a deep friendship with each other.
Before marrying Yang Zhenning, Weng Fan also had a bad marriage, she was married to a Hong Kong clerk, because of the personality of the two divorced after less than two years.
After Weng Fan divorced, he decided to promote himself and was admitted to the Master of Translation Department of Guangdong University of Foreign Studies. Since Du Zhili's death, yang Zhenning and Weng Fan have been in frequent contact, and in February 2004, Weng Fan received a call from Yang Zhenning inviting her to meet at Sun Yat-sen University.
After many years of not seeing, Yang and Weng chatted very closely, and did not feel constrained by each other's identity and age, after that meeting, Yang Zhenning could not forget Weng Fan. After that, Yang Zhenning would think of Weng Fan as soon as he had time and take the initiative to call to say hello.
Weng Fan also has a good feeling for Yang Zhenning, answering the phone has become a habit in her life, whenever Yang Zhenning can't call in time, Weng Fan will have a sense of loss.
Of course, falling in love can not only make phone porridge, but also requires both parties to pay practical actions. In May, when the phoenix blossoms, Yang Zhenning invited Weng Fan to play in Shi'ao, and it was drizzling that day, and the two walked a steep road, holding hands very naturally for safety.
Weng Fan found that he liked Yang Zhenning very much to hold her hand, which was the feeling of love. After the two separated, Weng Fan was thinking about a problem, she was very flustered inside, but also very calm, Weng Fan believed that Yang Zhenning in addition to being older, he had all the charm of a man, he should not back down, to this love "surrender".
In life, Yang Zhenning is full of care and care for Weng Fan everywhere, and when he learns that Weng Fan likes to take pictures, Yang Zhenning will give her a Panasonic camera and take pictures of the footprints of the two in the blue sky and white clouds. Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning are very relaxed together, without restraint, riding bicycles together, happily walking through the coconut grove trails by the sea.
After returning to Beijing from the seaside, Yang Zhenning, after some ideological struggle, still picked up the phone and proposed to Weng Fan. Weng Fan had already made preparations, and she said, "Who proposes to someone else and doesn't send roses?" ”
Yang Zhenning smiled and comforted Weng Fan, "The rose will be replenished to you next time, okay." In the midst of laughter, Weng Fan accepted a marriage proposal from Yang Zhenning, but there was a difficult problem in front of her, how to pass the parents' barrier.
To know that Weng Fan's family is well-off, and she herself is also very good, Yang Zhenning's age is longer than Weng Fan's parents, such a yearless love for the older generation is difficult to accept.
How does Yang Zhenning call Weng Fan's parents?
After Weng Fan accepted Yang Zhenning's marriage proposal, she also ushered in a difficult problem, that is, how to persuade her parents to agree to the marriage. In November 2004, Weng Fan returned to her hometown of Chaozhou, where she spoke very carefully about her affairs with Yang Zhenning, speaking very softly to avoid overstimulating her parents.
Weng Yunguang is Weng Fan's father, he has always loved his daughter very much, and his family is also well off. When he learned of his daughter's relationship with Yang Zhenning and was going to get married, Weng Yunguang was very surprised and could not accept his daughter's treatment of his marriage for a while.
Weng Fan did not choose to be tough with his parents, but was very patient to tell them the truest thoughts in his heart, hoping that the second elder could consider his own happiness and agree to this marriage.
Fortunately, Weng Fan's parents were very enlightened, and after their daughter said this, although there was unhappiness in their hearts, they finally agreed to the marriage.
With the nod of her parents, Weng Fan was very happy, and she immediately told Yang Zhenning the good news. The next day, Yang Zhenning asked his friend about his Chinese-American identity and how to handle the marriage registration, which showed that his feelings for Weng Fan were serious.
When he learned that he had to register at the place where the woman's household registration was to get married, Yang Zhenning immediately informed Weng Fan of the matter, asked her to prepare, and wrote an email about his happy event to his friends.
After receiving Yang Zhenning's letter, his friend was very excited, and the next day in Hong Kong Chinese University was very lively, many people were discussing the matter of old friend Yang Zhenning, and even the work could not be carried out normally, indicating that the impact of the marriage between Yang and Weng was still very large.
After the media learned that Weng Fan was going to marry Yang Zhenning, they continued to call her and "bite" Weng Fan deadly. Weng Fan was overwhelmed by the sudden "bombardment" of phone calls, so he stopped paying attention to these calls.
Since she wants to marry Weng Fan, Yang Zhenning must personally visit her parents, which is a ritual number that is especially important in China. On the morning of December 24, Yang Zhenning flew to Shantou with Weng Fan, and Weng Fan's parents waited for their arrival in the hotel.
When they met, smiling on both sides, Yang Zhenning took the initiative to shake hands in a friendly manner, calling Weng Fan's father "Mr. Weng" and Weng Fan's mother "Mrs. Weng".
Weng Fan's parents also did not regard themselves as elders, appearing to be very humble, they called Yang Zhenning "Professor Yang", which was the most appropriate occasion at that time.
Although Yang Zhenning has lived in the United States for many years, he also has a deep understanding of Chinese cultural customs and has a Chinese heart.
On the title of Weng Fan's parents, Yang Zhenning showed his high emotional intelligence, using the titles of "mr." and "mrs." not only avoided the embarrassment of the age gap, but also achieved courtesy and friendliness.
After some contact, Weng Fan's parents recognized this special son-in-law, as long as they can be good to their daughter and make their daughter happy, most parents will still bless it.
epilogue
Everyone has the right to pursue love and to be loved, and a pure love may not be limited by the world. The combination of Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning, although it has suffered a lot of criticism, it is really remarkable that the two can bravely love for love.
Today, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning have lived together for more than ten years, and the two love each other. In life, Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan are very affectionate, and the relationship between the two is very good, which is really enviable.
Every time she goes out to play and attend activities, Weng Fan has fulfilled her responsibility, she is the closest person around Yang Zhenning, the two hold hands, ten fingers are connected, as if declaring to the world that the feelings between them are not optimistic, and now they are living happily.