From other people's children, to humiliating China and prisoners, why doesn't Ji Ziyue have a grateful heart?
Recently, many online self-media have revisited a figure who caused heated discussions 3 years ago - Ji Ziyue.
In June 2020, Ji Ziyue, a student at the University of Chinese Academy of Sciences, glorified Japan's aggression against China during World War II on foreign social platforms, and repeatedly called Chinese "Chinese people", openly insulting his countrymen and compatriots.
A high-achieving student from a top domestic university took the state's money to study abroad at public expense, and actually openly humiliated the country?! Ji Ziyue's remarks caused an uproar, and domestic netizens were indignant and completely unable to tolerate this behavior.
Soon, the University of Chinese Academy of Sciences issued a circular confirming that Ji Ziyue was a student at the university and launched an investigation into him. Ji Ziyue found that the matter was big, and quickly admitted his mistake and apologized, saying that he would deeply reflect on his words and deeds. However, netizens did not buy Ji Ziyue's apology, believing that his insulting remarks had broken through the bottom line of the Chinese people.
In July 2020, the University of Chinese Academy of Sciences issued a notice on Ji Ziyue's disciplinary action and expelled him from the university.
Image from the Internet
After being expelled from school, Ji Ziyue did not have any reflection and repentance, he went abroad again, intensified, and continued to make insulting remarks. There are online reports that he stayed in the United States for one year after being expelled from school, and then he was repatriated due to the expiration of his visa. He was arrested by the police as soon as he got off the plane and sentenced to three years in prison for insulting martyrs and distorting history.
Many netizens can't understand that Ji Ziyue received domestic education from a young age and is a student of a prestigious university. In the public's perception, high-achieving students with excellent grades should become the pride of the country and the pillars of society, and their conduct and quality are higher than ordinary people.
But why is Ji Ziyue so distorted and extreme, not only not patriotic, but also humiliating the country? What kind of upbringing shaped him?
We have written about this incident before, and in this article today, I want to conduct a more in-depth analysis, hoping to help parents learn from it and avoid children becoming people like Ji Ziyue.
01, he is "someone else's child", but his views are distorted
Ji Ziyue's growth experience can be described as a long way, belonging to a proper "other people's child".
He was born in a wealthy family in Henan, and his parents had high hopes for him, provided him with a large number of high-quality educational resources, and strictly disciplined his studies.
Since he was a child, Ji Ziyue's grades have been among the best, and he was also admitted to the local school where top students gather, the Affiliated Middle School of Luoyang Institute of Technology. In the eyes of his classmates, Ji Ziyue's IQ is particularly high, and he can always easily enter the top three in the class, and he has won the first prize in the national chemistry competition.
But at the same time, Ji Ziyue often gives the teacher a headache in discipline, often uses the computer in the class to play games, and has been caught by the teacher several times and has not changed his teaching, and the class teacher loves and hates him. His relationship with his classmates was also not ideal, and some female classmates wanted to ask him questions, but they were ridiculed by him to the point of crying.
Despite this, Ji Ziyue was admitted to the University of Chinese Academy of Sciences with the eighth place in the Luoyang City College Entrance Examination that year. After entering the university, his grades were still excellent, and he also got a place to study abroad at public expense.
In fact, many members of the public equate "excellent grades" with "excellent character and learning" and "high character", which is a big misunderstanding. Because many people, on the contrary, because of their excellent academic performance and parents who do not understand science education, have become very arrogant and self-righteous, and have distorted three views.
Ji Ziyue, the picture comes from the Internet
Ji Ziyue is a typical example. He has had excellent grades since he was a child, and he must have been overly praised by people around him, praising him for being smart, talented, and will definitely be very productive in the future. Repeated over-praise led to pathological positive emotional experiences, and cognitive and attribution patterns became increasingly skewed.
When he achieves academic excellence, he is most likely an internal attribution model, thinking that it is all his own credit and his own cleverness, ignoring the resources provided by his parents, the teachings of teachers, and the background of the times.
Therefore, he has no gratitude to the country and society, since good grades are obtained by his own intelligence and hard work, why should he be grateful to others? In this internal attribution mode, coupled with constantly being overly praised by others, Ji Ziyue has self-righteous, unseen personality traits, and has a certain paranoid personality tendency.
And he admires foreign countries, and even hates his own country, which may be influenced by the following factors:
First, Ji Ziyue is likely to repeatedly come into contact with information that overly beautifies developed countries from books, film and television dramas, and online information, and is seriously adversely affected.
For example, some "Jingni elements" post bars and forums on the Internet, and the information distorted in them can easily mislead young people and students who are not deeply involved in the world and lack in-depth understanding of the country's history and system.
Second, during his studies, he was likely to encounter blindly flattering teachers, whose remarks had a profound adverse impact on him.
Our country has always emphasized respect for teachers, and the profession of teaching carries a moral aura. But in fact, not all teachers are worthy of this noble profession.
Due to past historical reasons and the background of the times, many teachers and university professors in China have a serious mentality of admiring foreign countries, and they will even openly belittle China in class, praise Western developed countries, and even distort historical facts.
Although in the minds of today's students, the authority of the teacher has decreased compared to the past. However, their minds are immature and their ability to distinguish right from wrong is limited, and if teachers directly make such remarks in class, they are easily affected and influenced, burying major hidden dangers of admiring the outside world and distorting the three views.
Third, as a man, Ji Ziyue loves to wear women's clothing, which is obviously influenced by LGBTQ+ in developed Western countries. He was disgusted by teachers and classmates wearing women's clothes in China, but after studying in the United States, foreign teachers and classmates praised him as "beautiful".
The two completely different reactions to China and the United States are likely to make Ji Ziyue think that domestic society is backward and ignorant, and he is more scornful of his own country's culture, and further strengthen his psychology of admiring foreign countries.
02. "Trans-dress addiction" often stems from this acquired experience
There are also many netizens curious, how did Ji Ziyue's proclivity for wearing women's clothes come from?
Ji Ziyue wears women's clothing, the picture comes from the Internet
From the perspective of precision psychopsychology, his behavior actually belongs to "trans-dress addiction", which is a kind of sexual psychological disorder. The formation of cross-dress addiction is not related to biological factors such as genetics, and is mainly influenced by acquired experience.
In our clinical in-depth psychological interventions, we have also seen many patients with similar psychological disorders. They tend to be repeatedly exposed to bad sexual stimuli while growing up, such as erotic Japanese anime.
And many Japanese anime works are permeated with the distorted three views of Japanese right-wingers, and when teenagers watch such Japanese anime works, the three views are easily poisoned.
Moreover, these children are often depressed during the growth period, and lack of scientific and correct ways to decompress, which can easily lead to the combination of bad sexual stimulation, masturbation and the need to release stress, and gradually form addictive behavior.
Ji Ziyue is likely to have gone through this process. Since he was a child, he has been burdened with extremely high expectations from his parents, and the psychological pressure is very large, but there is no positive and good way to relieve stress. Under the constant influence of some bad information, he found that he experienced excitement and pleasure when dressed as a girl, which gradually became his way of releasing stress, and eventually developed into "cross-dress addiction".
But it is clear that Ji Ziyue has never felt that he has any problem with wearing women's clothes, and is obviously deeply influenced by LGBTQ+ in Western countries, believing that this is his personal legal right.
In fact, in Western developed countries, the LGBTQ+ movement is no longer just about gay and transgender people wanting basic respect and equality. This has developed into a form of political correctness that ignores basic facts.
In developed Western countries, as long as someone says that LGBTQ+ has mental and psychological problems, they will immediately be labeled as "discriminatory" and abused. The rights and interests of LGBTQ+ groups have been infinitely amplified, and even infringed on the interests of ordinary groups, and many strange things have occurred.
For example, in many developed Western regions, men can enter women's bathrooms, women's changing rooms, and women's baths as long as they dress as women, or even consider themselves women. There is no doubt that this seriously threatens the safety of ordinary women. But as long as someone questions this, they are immediately accused of discriminating against transgender people.
Last year, there was a case in the United States in which a boy wore a skirt into a women's toilet and raped a 15-year-old girl.
Western developed countries are increasingly inclined to "depathologize" sexual psychological disorders, in addition to the influence of social and cultural and political factors, but also because the mainstream psychiatry and psychology lack in-depth understanding and efficient solutions.
Take "fetish addiction", which is a very common sexual psychological disorder. The "satyrs" who steal stockings and underpants that we see in the news from time to time are often fetish addicts. This group exists in large numbers.
However, mainstream mental health practitioners cannot find effective and humane treatment. Foreign developed countries also once adopted "chemical castration" for these patients, so that patients no longer have sexual impulses. Although patients are no longer fetishistic, this treatment brings greater psychosomatic damage to patients, and they even lose basic sexual function.
Therefore, "fetish addiction" once caused foreign mental health practitioners to feel very headache and helpless. The same is true for other psychosexual disorders, even in Western developed countries with more advanced overall medical standards, the understanding of psychosexual disorders is still at the level of explicit memory and cannot be solved efficiently.
In such cases, people with psychosexual disorders who do not have their symptoms addressed and suffer from discrimination will naturally be more active in raising their voices of discontent and fighting more vigorously for political status.
Under the premise of "political correctness" of the so-called "respect for human rights" and "respect for minorities" in Western countries, the "depathologization" of sexual psychological disorders has become inevitable.
Moreover, with the growing "LGBTQ+" community, some politicians in Western developed countries often deliberately cater to this group of people and speak for them in order to get more votes.
Originally, the "LGBTQ+" group could be exempted from social discrimination, which was the progress of social civilization. However, the blind connivance and support of the developed countries of the West is leading to more harm than good.
Although most of the "LGBTQ+" group is very kind, because they have "non-mainstream" fetishes and behaviors after all, they are often ostracized, ridiculed and bullied by the people around them when they grow up, forming a large number of superimposed psychological traumas, and gradually appear sensitive and paranoid personalities.
They are very kind, enthusiastic and sincere to their kind and people who recognize them. But once others question them, even if it is just a kind reminder, they will immediately feel insulted, and then rise up and attack them, classifying those who do not agree with their choice as "backward", "ignorant" and "discriminatory".
The excessive tolerance of Western developed society to them has also made them increasingly lose their sense of self-reflection and ability, firmly believing that this is their personal right, and will not deeply think about whether their non-mainstream choices are related to bad growth experiences.
In fact, through clinical in-depth psychological intervention, we found that the cause of sexual psychological disorders is very clear, mainly because patients suffer a large number of sex-related pathological memories in the process of growth. If these pathological memories can be repaired and patients can be guided to correct cognition, psychosexual symptoms can be quickly alleviated or even disappeared, and patients can recover efficiently.
From this point of view, we have taken the lead in entering the era of precision mental psychology, and we no longer have to blindly look up to the developed countries of the West.
02. How to prevent children from becoming the next "Ji Ziyue"?
Parents understandably want their children to become adults and value their children's academic performance. But if the child has excellent academic performance, but like Ji Ziyue, the three views are distorted, breaking through the bottom line of social morality and law, the child will encounter serious failures and setbacks, and the future will be ruined.
Therefore, academic performance is important, but children's three views and character are even more important. Parents should prevent their children from becoming the next "Ji Ziyue".
First, when children achieve achievements, parents should scientifically and timely give their children concrete affirmations, rather than excessive praise.
Parents' affirmation of their children must be specific, and they must recognize their acquired efforts, such as practicing hard, finding a scientific method after positive thinking, having the courage to try, etc., rather than praising their brain intelligence, talent, good looks and other innate parts, so as to avoid the child forming a pathological positive emotional experience.
Parents should also guide their children to see objective factors, whether there are natural and geographical factors behind their achievements, and whether there is help from others. If there is, we must be grateful, guard against arrogance and irritability, and move on with humility.
Second, nowadays the social involution is very serious, children's learning pressure is often very large, parents should guide children to find positive and healthy ways to release stress, such as sports, listening to music, outdoor activities, etc., to help children maintain a good mental and psychological state.
Third, be wary of the infiltration of foreign bad culture, if it is found that the child has contact with this, parents should actively guide in time to avoid the negative impact on the child's three views.
When minor children come into contact with foreign books, films, television, and anime works, parents should pay more attention to and screen, especially Japanese anime works.
This is not a bad criticism of these works, I believe that most of the values promoted in the works are positive and positive. It's just that there will be a small number of works permeated with bad values and even content that denigrates our country. Teenagers are easily "awakely hypnotized" when browsing such works, completely absorbing the wrong views conveyed in them, forming a distorted three views.
Finally, it is more critical that parents consciously learn a truly scientific way of family education, avoid causing a lot of superimposed psychological trauma to their children, maintain a good parent-child relationship with their children, and guide their children to have the awareness and ability of self-reflection. Otherwise, if you are bored with your parents, your parents' guidance will naturally not work, and your child's mental and physical health will be even more impossible.