Liao Yimei said: "In our lifetime, it is not rare to encounter love and sex, but it is rare to encounter understanding. ”
Marriage is the art of seeing small things. The person who loves you, hide all your love in the trivial details of time.
This is probably the original that love can span age, identity, status and power.
However, we all understand the truth, but the world's vision always seems to be particularly piercing, 18 years have passed, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning, this pair of "grandfather and grandson love", whenever it appears in front of the public's eyes, will always attract all kinds of discussion and ridicule.
18 years ago, 82-year-old Yang Zhenning and 28-year-old Weng Fan fell in love and married.
One is a famous physicist at home and abroad, and the other is just a graduate student, whether from the perspective of age or identity, the gap between the two is too big, and an uproar was set off in an instant.
If you put it up to now, self-media is prevalent, it is estimated that Weibo and major network platforms will have a rhythm of system paralysis.
The focus of the discussion is nothing more than: one is disrespectful for the old and covets beauty, and the other has other intentions and covets fame and fortune.
It even rises to the height of morality: it is harmful, it is unethical, it is deviant, it is ashamed of its ancestors...
To be honest, even in this open era, "grandfather love" is quite ordinary, but still admire Weng Fan's courage, after all, marrying a man who is 54 years older than himself, whether it is from the physical or psychological, there are really many uncontrollable unknown factors.
It is said that wealth and wealth are sought in danger. Well, happiness, too, bet right is the harvest, bet wrong is youth. From her sentence: "I chose the one with fewer people, and it has made my life so different since then." ”
It is enough to see that she is a different woman from the crowd, the facts have given her the best answer, she has taken this rare road, the choice is right!
However, in this process, there are too many thorns, after all, no one has traveled the road, rocks and dangers always coexist.
Love, there are yin and yang regrets, there are also hearts and minds of the spirit of the fit; love, there is soft language and gentle thoughtfulness, there are also all kinds of blame for the coldness.
This special couple is destined to accept the cruel test of gossip in the strange eyes of others.
At the beginning, it was said that Weng Fan Gaopan, at the age of 42, spoofed rumors about her pregnancy and had a child on the Internet, and even attracted interviews from American reporters.
In addition, the combination of old husband and young wife often leads to the vulgar ridicule of "sexless marriage", especially for a woman in her youth, such ridicule is particularly bitter and mean.
As Yang Zhenning grew older, "legacy conspiracy theories" rose and fell.
One day, a message broke out on Weibo: Yang Zhenning's property has been divided, and Weng Fan has only obtained the right to use one villa!
Anyway, the commentators only believe that Weng Fan covets property, wants to take advantage of the opportunity to ascend to the throne, etc., and does not believe that she is indeed because of love.
Whether a marriage can last and be strong is largely a game between two people, and evenly matched forces can go to the end, which is not only reflected in the background of the family, but also in the talent, character, cultivation and three views of the two people. Whether it is a rich and simple woman, it is difficult to obtain happiness in the true sense without a certain advantage.
Yang Zhenning is a titan in the academic community, and Weng Fan is not a brainless fool, and her talent of character and learning allows her and Yang Zhenning to sit on an equal footing at the same height.
Nobel laureate Yang Zhenning
In 1922, Yang Zhenning was born in Sanhe Town, Hefei, Anhui Province.
In 1945, after graduating from Southwest United University, he was admitted to the United States on a Gengzi Compensation Scholarship to study physics at the University of Chicago.
In 1957, at the age of 35, he won the Nobel Prize in Physics. When presenting the award, he said this sentence:
"If someone asks me today, what do you think is the most important contribution of your life?" I would say that the most important contribution of my life is to change the psychology of Chinese who feel inferior to others. ”
His achievements can be compared to Newton and Einstein.
He has made achievements in four fields of physics, including statistical mechanics, condensed matter physics, particle physics, and field theory, and has won thirteen "Nobel Prize-level" achievements.
The United States once selected the twenty greatest physicists in the millennium of mankind, and Yang Zhenning was impressively listed.
Yang Zhenning, Deng Jiaxian, Yang Zhenping
However, during the period of building New China, when the motherland needed talents the most, scientists such as Qian Xuesen and Deng Jiaxian returned to the motherland to participate in scientific research and invention, and only then did they have China's first atomic bomb, hydrogen bomb, artificial satellite, etc., and he did not return to China until 1971.
Therefore, many people satirize Yang Zhenning:
"I didn't come back when the country was most difficult, and now that China has developed well, it has come back to circle money for the elderly."
However, Qian Xuesen once mentioned the reason why Yang Zhenning did not return to China:
"It is the state that wants him to stay abroad, and his role abroad is far greater than at home."
In fact, Yang Zhenning's contribution to the country is also very large;
He also launched the campaign to defend the Diaoyu Islands, which rushed directly to the US Senate and comprehensively told the fact that the Diaoyu Islands were China's territory from the perspective of history, geography and reality.
He paid his own pocket in international newspapers to warn the US government not to blockade and isolate China again, which eventually led to the establishment of diplomatic relations between China and the United States.
He sold his American mansion, renounced his American citizenship, and personally donated 4 million US dollars to Tsinghua to create the Tsinghua Center for Advanced Study.
The person who can win the Nobel Prize, he is a priceless treasure in himself, why should he circle money again?
Weng Fan who repairs both inside and outside
In July 1976, Weng Fan was born in Chaozhou, Guangdong Province, with a rich family, she was a princess who grew up in a honeypot.
As a princess, as a rule, she had enough capital to be willful, however, she went early enough to arm herself as queen.
In 1994, Weng Fan was admitted to the Department of Foreign Chinese Literature of Shantou University.
Dyeing her hair, wearing suspender skirts, flared pants, etc., anyway, what clothes are popular, she is always the first to wear, the style is changeable, therefore, she has also become the hero of the school model team, which has attracted much attention.
In academics, the homework is excellent, and she is a "good child" in the eyes of the teacher, so if there is any good thing, she will always be the first to take care of her.
Therefore, when Yang Zhenning and his wife Du Zhili went to Shantou in 1995 to participate in the "World Physics Congress", the excellent Weng Fan was recommended for the position of receptionist.
Perhaps it is the fate of the underworld, Yang Zhenning's wife Du Zhili first saw Weng Fan, she was full of love, she never knew, decades, after she left the world, the second half of her husband's journey, it was this girl who accompanied her to the end.
Weng Fan also took a photo with Yang Zhenning and his wife, and also asked for contact information. That year, Weng Fan was 19 years old.
Years later, when he saw this photo again, Yang Zhenning found that the girl's eyebrows were seven or eight points similar to that of his wife Du Zhili when she was young.
Weng Fan, who has been smooth sailing since childhood, has the romantic feelings of a princess in his bones, and after graduating from college, he met the first Prince Charming in his life, a small clerk in Hong Kong.
For true love, she gave up her glamorous job and ran to Shenzhen with her boyfriend, and soon got married, and then became a full-time wife.
However, this marriage lasted only two years, and it turned out that the man she loved was a domestic violence maniac. A girl who has seen the world can go to the soup when she has love, but the love disappears, and she knows how to stop it in time, and she decisively divorces.
After the divorce, in 2002, Weng Fan was admitted to the Translation Department of Guangdong University of Foreign Studies and became a student in the master's class.
The red line of fate quietly tied Yang Weng and the two together
Yang Zhenning's first wife was a student of his, and initially it was only a simple teacher-student relationship.
In 1945, Yang Zhenning went abroad to study, and after four years in the United States, he met Du Zhili in the only Chinese restaurant in Princeton.
"I didn't know that When Du Zhili came to the United States, I accidentally walked into that hotel. If I arrive early or late, I will miss the opportunity to meet Du Zhili. If we can't see it, we can't talk about a lifetime of marriage. But the god of fate arranged for us to meet at that place on that day, which cannot be said to be a miracle. ”
This foreign encounter made the feelings of the two people heat up rapidly, and a year later, the talented and beautiful people entered the palace of marriage together.
The couple walked through 53 years of happiness hand in hand and raised three children.
In 2001, Du Zhili became seriously ill with cancer, and in 2003, he unfortunately died.
During that time, for Yang Zhenning, it was the loneliest! He was like a lone guard, a team of men recruiting himself. Read, eat, sleep, be alone!
One day, he flipped through a picture of himself and his wife with a young girl.
Just at this time, Weng Fan's letter of greeting arrived unexpectedly, and the two contacted again. Coming and going, in fact, they have already developed different feelings in each other's hearts.
Just waiting to break this layer of window paper at the right time!
It is said that the master of love knows how to understand such a truth: if she is not deeply involved in the world, take her to see the prosperity of the world; if she has experienced vicissitudes, please take her to ride on a carousel.
Yang Zhenning took Weng Fan on a sightseeing tour together:
The phoenix blossoms in Hong Kong, and Yang Zhenning invited Weng Fan to play in Shek O.
Shi'ao mountain color
The waves of the Guangxi Beihai were blown up by the summer wind, and Yang Zhenning took Weng Fan on a trip to the Beihai, riding a tandem bicycle and laughing wildly on the forest trail.
After experiencing the landscape and water, Yang Zhenning proposed to Weng Fan after traveling in the North Sea. The two people's lifelong events are fixed.
Perhaps the daughter experienced a painful marriage, or perhaps Yang Zhenning was too sincere to impress Weng Fan's parents, a difference of 54 years, the son-in-law is older than his father-in-law, but he did not expect Weng Fan's parents to gladly agree:
"Xiaofan is willing to make sacrifices to take care of Professor Yang's later life, which is a virtue and an honor! We understand and support our daughter's choice. ”
The word "sacrifice" actually hides the father's faint helplessness.
The romantic life of an old man and a young wife
Zhang Jiajia has this description in "Passing Through Your World": You will whisper softly on a bridge: I hope to have someone like you. People as bright and refreshing as this mountain morning, like the sun on the road to the ancient city, warm and not hot, covering all my skin.
From the beginning to the night, from the mountains to the study, the answer to all the questions is simple. I hope that there is a person like you, who will carry out the road sign of the future and repeat the life several times.
After marriage, Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan lived such a life, in addition to the irreversible age, the two lived a long-term romance that young people could not reach.
Weng Fan changed his habit of staying up late to drink coffee and became early to go to bed and get up early. Breakfast is made by Weng Fan himself, omelette milk bread, and there is no difference between it and ordinary people's homes.
In the evening, the two of them walked on campus, always intimately interlocking with each other, and when he walked slowly, she accompanied him slowly. Sometimes, they also stop and play tai chi together.
Yang Zhenning's ears were not hearing well, Weng Fan stood quietly next to him, and as soon as he looked back, she slowly said it to him again in her ear.
When going out in winter, Yang Zhenning does not love to wear scarves, Weng Fan is like a child, give him a scarf and clothes, and then let him go out; when going out to play, walk for about ten minutes, Weng Fan reminds "Mr. Yang, take a break", and then find a stone, take a handkerchief to wipe the ash, let him sit there for a while.
He reads in the bird's nest, she plays the piano next to her, and the two of them share a room, although they don't say anything, they accompany each other, which is the most peaceful and happy time.
They would often write poems to each other: You are the last gift of God's gift, to my old soul, a joy to return to youth.
The writer Suzen said:
"The most extravagant person in the world is the one who is willing to spend time with you." Everyone's time is valuable, and to give it to you is equivalent to giving your own world to you. ”
Both people are willing to spend time for each other, wait together, accompany each other, can you still say that they are not love?
More than ten years after marriage, Weng Fan said: "I feel that my life is calm and stable, and I enjoy it. He created a very pure world for me. ”
Yang Zhenning said in an interview: "If I hadn't married Weng Fan, I would have felt that what happened thirty or forty years later had nothing to do with me; now I know that thirty or forty years later, through Weng Fan's life, I have a very close relationship." ”
"At the beginning of your relationship, you have to consider whether you like this person or not, and after getting along for a long time, you have to consider whether you like yourself at the moment." 」
From the two people's praise for this marriage, it can be seen that they are very satisfied with the holy lake after marriage, and they continue the length of their lives with marriage.
After getting married, Weng Fan did not lose herself, she studied for a doctorate and did her favorite architectural career; while Yang Zhenning, who is more than 90 years old, still works hard and fights in the front line of physics research.
What is love? In fact, love is to put it bluntly, it is the combination of the soul, the consistency of feelings, and the sublimation of the spirit.
It is that men and women understand each other and are loyal, respect each other and be loyal, support each other transparently, care for each other tacitly, learn from each other's strengths, comfort and considerate, know cold and know heat.
Love is a thick magazine, women are the pleasing cover of this magazine, and men are the deep and strong foundation of this magazine. There is a thick story sandwiched in the middle.
After 18 years, Weng Fan has really lived a very happy life, do you think?