"Disappearing Her" brings a reminder to parents: tell your daughter that some men can't want it anymore

I went to see "Gone Her" with friends over the weekend.

A seemingly happy marriage is all conspiracy; Intimate and perfect husband, step by step full of calculation, seemingly bloody stories are more terrifying in real life.

The incident of a Thai pregnant woman falling off a cliff is even more chilling.

The friend is ready to take her daughter to brush it again, hoping that her daughter can understand how terrible gamblers are after watching the movie, hoping to help her choose a mate in the future, and can stay sober and calm in love and marriage.

As parents of girls, we all hope that our daughters will have a considerate and warm husband and a happy and warm family in the future. If the daughter's emotional life is unhappy, this is the most painful thing for parents.

However, girls are more emotional than rational, often influenced by feelings, in the face of love, girls are easily blinded and cannot see each other's shortcomings.

When you enter marriage, you can only recognize the true face of the other party, which will only leave endless scars.

Zang Hongfei said on "Strange Words": Marriage is a one-way trip to death.

An unhappy marriage will only end up in a loss, so if there is a daughter at home, we must do a good job of emotional education for her in time, telling her that if you encounter these types of men in the future, you must stay away.

People who are emotionally unstable

In the TV series "Please Call Me Director", Ning Meng was finally with the "male god" senior. The senior is handsome in appearance, with a high education background in studying abroad, outstanding ability, and served as a company executive at a young age, and was Ning Meng's "male god" when she was in college.

After the two were together, the senior was really gentle and considerate, which made Ning Meng feel very happy.

However, because of a small misunderstanding, the senior actually slapped Ning Meng the street, which made Ning Meng completely chilled. Quickly chose to break up.

However, in real life, too many girls choose to forgive in the face of love and violence.

People with violent tendencies are best at apologizing with a handful of snot and tears. They just see your soft-hearted characteristics and hold you in the palm of their hands.

A friend of mine, during a trip with her boyfriend, found that her boyfriend was very emotionally unstable, and a little thing would conflict with others, and once he started a fight, ignoring his girlfriend's safety, and after returning from the trip, his friend proposed to break up.

Years later, when a friend heard that the boy had abused his wife after marriage, he even went to court, and had to be glad that he had made a decisive decision that year.

Boys with violent tendencies can be reflected in their usual life: their emotions are very unstable, impulsive and irritable, like to quarrel and cause trouble, like to drop things, extremely destructive, a little thing will explode, if there is any, please stay away.

The All-China Women's Federation has compiled a set of statistics: 24.7% of households in China have some degree of domestic violence. On average, every 7.4 seconds, a woman is beaten by her husband. Domestic violence kills more than 40% of women's homicide! Every year, 157,000 women commit suicide, 60% of which are due to domestic violence. After suffering an average of 35 domestic violence, the victim finally made up his mind and chose to call the police.

Remember that there are only 0 and countless times of domestic violence!

Your soft heart will only increase your connivance against them and make them worse! So, if you meet, go around.

People who are contaminated with bad habits

In the movie, Zhu Yilong played He Fei went to the point of no return because of gambling, calculated marriage, and murdered his wife, which is simply the devil.

In real life, there are too many examples of people who have broken their homes because of pornography, gambling and drugs.

A friend's relative got a large amount of demolition fees and several properties after demolition, but because of his addiction to gambling, in less than two years, his belongings were cleared, and he owed more than 2 million gambling debts, and finally his wife was separated.

Don't try to use your love to impress a person who is tainted with pornography, gambling and drugs. He had already lost his humanity and turned into the devil.

In order to help her boyfriend quit drugs, some girls did not hesitate to test drugs and eventually became addicts; Some girls forgive gamblers again and again, and even sell themselves to help their boyfriend pay off gambling debts.

Remember, being with someone like this will only pull you into the dark abyss.

Boys who like PUA

Peking University girl Bao Li finally chose to commit suicide because of her boyfriend's PUA.

In this relationship, the boyfriend carried out absolutely dominant mental control, abusive accusations, mental destruction and personality suppression on Bao Li. After a year of mental abuse, the collapsed Bao Li finally chose to commit suicide.

Most girls have been educated since childhood to "be obedient and sensible", they are accustomed to putting others in a more important position, especially in families with patriarchal tendencies, girls receive stronger mental oppression, so they are always in a humble position in their feelings, it is easy to be brainwashed by the other party, and the problems are attributed to themselves.

Tell your daughter that once you find that the other party likes to belittle herself, mind control, or often make some unreasonable or even perverted requests, be sure to refuse and withdraw immediately.

The truth is that even if we repeatedly tell our daughters to stay away from these kinds of men, love often washes away a person's mind, so we must avoid our daughters becoming love brains in our usual education, and we must learn to carry them clearly.

Parents should give enough love

A girl who lacks love, others can move her with just a little thing, and even give everything.

Girls who lack love are especially afraid of losing, so although they are not equal in their feelings, they are used by each other's calculations, and they are treated violently, and they are reluctant to leave.

Therefore, for girls, we must give enough love.

Let the child have confidence in his heart and know that even if he loses love, I have a lot of people to love; Understand that when you are in a low point, there will always be family to accompany you and hold you.

Such a girl is not afraid of loss and does not entangle too much with rotten people.

The father is the guardian of the family

For her daughter, her father is the guide to her emotional world.

The girl's understanding of love and the appearance of the family in her mind all come from the father.

If the father has responsibilities to the family, takes care of his wife, loves his children, cleanses himself, and lives hard, then his daughter will naturally not be moved by a little love from others when she grows up, and stay away from those who do not respect themselves and are contaminated with bad habits.

They will be more aware of love and marriage, and they will know better what kind of people are good kings.

We must acknowledge that women are the weaker side in gender relations. If you love the wrong person and enter the wrong marriage, the harm to the girl is fatal, how can you not choose the wrong person? It is something that every girl's parents need to think about and value!