"Long Moon Ember Ming" understands the love and marriage tragedy of the night mulberry wine, and feels heartbroken
Yi said, seriously chase dramas, focus on drama criticism and taste life, I hope you don't have to wear armor, you can also resist thousands of life difficulties.
I still want to talk about the night and mulberry wine, not only the tragedy of love, but also the sadness of marriage, from the whole thing, simply attributing the cause of the tragedy to a person's fault, are sorry for the richness that this drama wants to transmit.
This matter is like a Rubik's Cube, every turn will bring more changes, and whether the six sides of the color can be put together, there is also a strict algorithm, and our life is a single trip, no one can be an unknown prophet, even the god of war like the night, there will be regrets and regrets.
Ji Ze can see the past and the future, but they can't say broken, even if they have a good relationship with the night, as Chuhuang said, their little life still has to be lived by themselves, and they can't say broken. This is the difference between Ji Ze and his apprentice Pang Yi, Pang Yizhi said that there are too many broken things and many obsessions, so he can't become an immortal and live hundreds of years after all.
The love and marriage of the night and mulberry wine actually exposed many practical problems, let's talk about three more heart-wrenching problems.
The first problem: the sense of proportion of raising a daughter
Many people say that mulberry wine is silly white and sweet, and I can't agree. From beginning to end, the so-called silliness of mulberry wine is just her kindness, and the kindness of mulberry wine is not blind, it can only be said that this kindness is less sharp.
It's not mulberry's fault, a kind person is always good, everyone likes to get along with good people, doesn't it?
Sangjiu is a girl who grew up surrounded by love, which is a typical case of a rich daughter, but this rich raising lacks something, which Sangjiu's father did not realize, that is, he overprotected his daughter.
There are water tribes in the Mo River who are mussel spirits, and Sangjiu's father said that their mussel spirits have always been an indisputable corner of the world, and even Mingzhe protects their lives. This also cannot be blamed on them, this is their rule of survival. Therefore, the entire mussel spirit water tribe is relatively free of too complicated interpersonal relationships and power struggles.
They are non-aggressive mussel spirits, and Sangjiu is the princess of the mussel spirit family, although her mother died early, she has the love and care of her mother, as well as the favor and protection of her father and brother. So, you see that Sangjiu is a loving girl, and in her cognitive world, all people are people who think about others and will get along harmoniously.
Therefore, Tianhuan has been hostile to Sangjiu from the beginning, but Sangjiu can't feel it, and even she has never wondered, what is the relationship between Tianhuan and the night? Why can Tianhuan also live in the mansion of the God of War.
Everything is a double-edged sword, and the perfection and purity of mulberry wine will make many people like it, but it will also make many people think that she is stupid. People who look at her stupidity, that is, the people who are her opposite, have a sense of superiority of immortals in their hearts, and evil thoughts in their hearts, and they will find many of Sangjiu's behaviors incredible.
It's not that everyone likes it, but Sangjiu's kindness has no edge, and she loses the ability to protect herself, and she is unguarded and defenseless against people.
Therefore, raising a daughter can be petted, but not overprotective, but also not arrogant, look at Tianhuan to understand.
Tianhuan is the holy daughter of the Teng Snake clan, and her status in her clan is the same as that of the princess of Sangjiu, and Tianhuan and Sangjiu, like Sangjiu, seem to have lost their mothers at an early age and lacked maternal love.
Looking at what Tianhuan did, it was certain to be pampered by his father, but he did not have the love and care of other relatives like Sang Jiu, only the strict hierarchy of the Shangqing God Domain. Everyone did not love the Holy Lady of Heavenly Joy, but feared her because she was the daughter of the God of War.
It is inevitable that Tianhuan has been arrogant since childhood, this is not to say that Tianhuan is not wrong, she must be wrong a lot in the whole thing, but she also suffers from herself. It's just that her fault lies in another problem.
Let's first summarize the first question, the sense of proportion of raising a daughter can be rich and pampered, but it cannot be overprotective, let alone arrogant.
It is still that sentence, kindness with sharp edges, in order to protect yourself and make yourself beautiful.
The second question: how to love without being right
There is nothing wrong with loving someone, what is wrong is that when you can't love it, you have to force others to continue to entangle, that is wrong. Tianhuan counts as one.
You can say that Tangtai Ember is also ah, after Li Susu changed the evil bone and disappeared, Tangtai Ember's crazy appearance of not letting go, and went to the Netherworld River for five hundred years. At this time, Tangtai Ember does have the obsession of not accepting reality, but he is not in love, he is gaining and losing, and Tianhuan is not the same.
Love is basically unilateral love, and it is immersed in their own emotional dedication and cannot extricate themselves, and even self-touching.
Tianhuan is like this, she has known the night for a long time, and she should have been in love for a long time, but she has never thought about what the night thinks, which is the reason why she has not been able to enter the heart of the night.
The grief of losing his robe in the dark night can only stand on the spiritual platform to heal alone, but Tianhuan reminds him not to get cold and let the night go back.
Tianhuan made soup for the night all day to replenish her body, but she never asked if she needed her soup all day? That is to say, Tianhuan loves the night, or takes himself as the center, rather than wanting to enter the heart of the night, truly loving the night.
Therefore, Tianhuan's love can only move itself, but it cannot move the night. This point, Tianhuan can not understand after all, because as mentioned earlier, she has been arrogant since she was a child, and she is self-centered everywhere. In the end, she likes the night, but also her sadness, the night is not suitable for her at all.
The night is cold to her, it is impossible for Tianhuan not to know that she has so many scheming, and she can also see the gap between the night and mulberry wine, and she can also make up this gap into a black hole that cannot be filled. How could such a scheming person not know that the night did not like her?
Tianhuan knew, but she was unwilling to accept this fact.
Originally, love is something you want to do, but some people will think that I love you, you must respond to me, otherwise it is to deny me as a person, and I am a failure. This sense of failure can make people more reluctant to accept the reality of not loving.
Tianhuan is like this, step by step to the abyss of sin, she cannot accept a person who accepts her father's favor and does not accept her love.
How do you feel when you see this? There is also alms and a sense of superiority in Tianhuan's love, and perhaps it is this sense of charity and superiority that makes Hades stay away from her.
Love is equal and mutual, you can confess bravely, you can also say your love out loud, but don't move yourself, feel that you are in love with others, that is to give, that is just you push open the door of love.
As for whether others want to walk in with you, that is the other party's business, acceptable or not.
For the matter of love and not being able to, if you lose your sense of boundary, it is your own sorrow, and if you are entangled like Tianhuan, it is a disaster for yourself and the other party.
Even the God of War can't hide from the night.
Love can be persistent, but that must be a matter of two people working together, and one person's love is better to turn away and leave the last decency in each other's hearts.
The third question: the importance of emotional value
What is emotional value? It is the ability to influence the emotions of others, emotions have positive and negative, here refers to positive energy.
Sangjiu is a person with a relatively high sense of emotional value. You see her, although when she first got married, she didn't know anyone in the Shangqing God Domain, and even her husband made a three-chapter covenant with her at night.
This point cannot be said that the night is wrong, it can only be said that the night at this time does not know anything about Sangjiu, and the forced marriage of Sangjiu's father has indeed left a lot of shadow area for the night. It is also natural to be wary of his daughter.
Did you find it? Not long after, when Sang Jiu was practicing archery, there were many fairy maids next to her, and even the night would come to teach her archery. It shows that in the Shangqing God Domain, more and more people like to get close to mulberry wine. People with a high sense of emotional value are like this, and people will like to spend more and more with them.
Why? Because people with a high sense of emotional value can provide each other with comfortable and pleasant emotions, give the needs behind the emotions, and make people have a sense of satisfaction.
This is the truth of the good saying that winter is warm.
In love and marriage, mulberry wine gives enough sense of emotional value in the night, but the night does not, which is why many friends say that the night does not have a long mouth.
Before knowing Sangjiu, in addition to the battle between gods and demons, it was the righteousness of Roze. It is mulberry wine, which lets the night know that the fairy fruit that is ignored every day can be eaten; It is mulberry wine, so that the night knows that looking at the stars is also a small luck; It was mulberry wine that let Hades know that there were many other things to do besides going to work.
Why did Hades yearn for the life of the small bamboo forest, because the small bamboo forest was the place where he healed when he was most painful and difficult.
The god and demon war ten thousand years ago was quite tragic, we can count that the gods at that time were twelve gods and demigods, and the demon god, the demon god disappeared, and the entire demon domain was also sealed, but the Shangqing God Domain also suffered heavy losses. The town of Ji Ze guarded the abyss, and the Chuhuang and other gods were destroyed.
What makes Hades even more sad and unacceptable is that Chuhuang was protecting him at the last moment, and the gods gave him all the gods after the fall, in exchange for his survival.
That is to say, this battle of gods and demons, he lived the night alone, he was originally holding the heart to sacrifice himself to fight, but everyone was gone, only he was alive.
Sang Jiu not only saved the true body of the night, but more importantly, sewed the heart of the night. The blindness of the eye in the dark night and the regain of sight can be seen as a metaphor. We all know that the eyes are the windows of the heart.
In the small bamboo forest, mulberry wine let the night know that happiness is to concentrate on ordinary human things.
However, the night did not give mulberry wine a sense of emotional value. Many things about mulberry wine in the dark night can be found in real life and in many couples getting along.
Sangjiu suffered from the pain of extinction, but the night did not know the psychological needs of Sangjiu, and could not provide the appropriate sense of emotional value, so Sangjiu's already unstable demon path was more likely to fall into demons.
In the middle of the night, there was only one time to give Sangjiu a sense of emotional value, that is, he refused to see Tianhuan, who had confessed his sin, and at that moment, Sangjiu saw a kind of fairness, but it was quickly changed this result, which is also the reason why Sangjiu was more emotional and unwilling later.
A person does have the ability to control his emotions and choices and cultivate a growth mindset, but love and marriage are two people's affairs after all, and interactive behaviors are needed to continue to connect with each other, so it is particularly important to provide a sense of emotional value.
Tangtai Ember and Li Susu have both arrived in the immortal world, only then have they learned to provide each other with a sense of emotional value, and love is no longer screwed.
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