The eyes are full of children's shortcomings, and it is often the parents who have problems

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"Go do your homework!"

"Why make such a mess at home!"

"Please put your clothes right, don't be crooked, you are so old, are you still a child?"

"Why are these written wrong again!"

"Don't play, just know to play every day!"

"Don't grind, hurry up!"

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When children are older, do they often talk to children like this?

You know, when they were little babies, they really looked how cute.

Even if it is sabotage, I feel like a smart little trickster.

However, when the baby is older, such as in elementary school, all this starts to change.

There are many mothers who say that they urge their children to write homework almost every day.

Urge children to sleep, urge children to get up, urge children to go out, urge children to write homework, urge children to sleep...

Day after day.

I don't think there is any merit in them.

Is that really the case?

One mother left a message saying that one day, the child came to her side and asked cautiously: "Mom, can I go to the same teacher to play for a while?" ”

"Did you write your homework?" Don't your classmates write homework? ”

Then the child stands there angrily and does not write.

"Don't go quickly, hurry up!"

Another time, the child caught a praying mantis and went home and happily showed it to himself.

"Mom, look, this is what I just caught on the road, I'm going to make a specimen, you see these serrations of it."

"I don't have time to look, you go and do your homework."

"Take a look!"

"I know, I said not to read, you don't grind, always find reasons to delay time, don't write homework."

One day the child cried very sadly and said that his mother had changed.

In the past, I was always willing to accompany myself to catch ants and butterflies.

Will take himself to play, not fierce.

"Because you grow up, you have to learn!"

"Won't you accompany me when I grow up? Are you happy if you keep learning? ”

She said she was shocked to hear her child's words, began to reflect on the problem, and found that she had missed a lot of good times for her child.

Over the years, children have been forced to give up these precious childhood years.

You know, an adult certainly won't cheer for catching a praying mantis.

But children will, and that's what children are.

But in the eyes of adults, they feel that children are not doing their jobs - they do not spend their time studying.

My aunt had her birthday the other day.

The daughter, who was about to take the high school entrance examination, went out early in the morning.

The old people at home said that the child really did not understand things, and the mother also went out to play on her birthday, and did not go home for lunch.

Others say that they go out on weekends and don't review their homework.

I also feel in my heart that she is really playful, and if she works harder, she can go to a better high school.

In the evening, when it was almost dark, I finally returned.

He was carrying shoes he bought for his mother and a cake he had made.

What a nice child.

But uninformed adults will jump to conclusions, saying that she is playful and insensible.

I'm also sorry for what I thought.

I told my grandmother how good it was to see her strengths, wasn't it?

Let's not always talk about the shortcomings of children.

Moreover, many shortcomings are not shortcomings in themselves, but misunderstandings caused by us adults not understanding children.

Let's say you're full of your child's shortcomings.

That must be something wrong with the parents.

You will find that most parents have self-righteous problems.

For example, sometimes, children are indeed brushing questions with their mobile phones.

Unsuspecting adults will determine that the child is playing with a mobile phone.

Maybe he is playing sometimes, but when he is not playing, you also say that he plays, and he will definitely be anxious with you.

Say you don't trust him.

So, parents have to overcome this self-righteousness.

By what?

Rely on respect for the child, and the other is to read the child.

Parents who see the needs of children, parents who see their hearts, and adults who retain their childlike hearts can understand their children better and raise them better.

Feng Zikai "Raise a child, as long as you teach him to be a child forever, that is, never lose his child's heart."

In the face of children's works or behaviors, why not appreciate and experience, but force the child, urging him to give up such feelings in a hurry, and write homework and study.

Isn't the experience of life learning?

Many mothers have asked me whether first-grade children like to read funny books, or third- and fourth-grade children like to read electronic books, whether to ban it.

Do not rush to prohibit or interfere with your child without experiencing or understanding it yourself.

For example, what is the content of the books that children read, can you find some time to read them?

Then make a judgment, if the three views in it are not correct, contain violence or other content that is not suitable for children to read, then it must be intervened.

However, when you really have the patience to read it, many times you will find that things are not what you think.

A child's growth is only once, and it is irreversible.

It can be said that the love and respect received in childhood is the light in the future life

Taiwanese essayist Lin Haiyin once said: Everyone's physical childhood will eventually disappear, but the childhood of the soul will always accompany life.

This sentence very aptly expresses the impact of childhood on people's lives.

Childhood is not far away, and every day we grow up with our children is the childhood that children are experiencing.

In the future, how will children reminisce about their childhood?

Is it constantly questioned, attacked, or respected and understood?

It tends to affect the child's life.