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The woman sued for divorce, and the man said that he only had 100,000 yuan in savings. The court investigation found that the man's annual income was as high as 3 million, but the wife, who was a housewife, did not know about it.
This scene is very similar to the scene in the TV series, and it is the real situation of a divorce dispute case announced by the Beijing First Intermediate Court.
In the end, the court divided the joint property of the husband and wife according to the law, and the woman divided 60%.
With just one announcement, it is naturally impossible to explain the causes and background of this divorce incident.
But think about it, a housewife took the initiative to appeal for divorce, did not know how much money her husband earned, and the husband actively hid his property, the life of these two couples is not much better.
One stone stirred up a thousand waves, and this incident once again made stay-at-home housewives/stay-at-home moms the focus of controversy.
Many women leave the workplace and become full-time housewives after marriage, for one reason or another.
According to the simple and crude method, full-time housewives are divided into two types, one is rich and the other is not.
Rich full-time housewives, some of whom have their own money, spelled out the gold mountain before marriage, even if they do not work after marriage, the income of the gold mountain and silver mountain is enough;
Some of them have money in their mother's family and give a mountain of gold and silver, while others have money in their husbands, and they can use it casually at home.
Regardless of the reason, anyway, rich housewives have capital in marriage, do not have to rely on people's noses, do not worry about money, and can enjoy life slowly.
Housewives who have no money have no savings, their mother's family has no backers, and their husbands do not hand over their money, in short, they have no money, and they have to work at home themselves.
In this way, the same housewife, who has no money, is much more miserable, and it is a real high risk.
Marriage is in, full-time housewives who have no money still have a place to stay, once the man changes his mind and the marriage is gone, there is no money and no assets on his body, and there is basically no way to fight back.
The husband and wife who fought the divorce lawsuit, the man said that he had 100,000 deposits. If he is more ruthless and transfers the marital property away by those seemingly legal means in the TV series, this divorce lawsuit will be more difficult to fight.
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A few days ago, there was a hot topic on the hot search, can you accept a girl who has been funded for 8 years to be a housewife?
A blogger posted on social platforms that she sponsored a poor girl for 8 years, watching the girl go from junior high school and high school to college.
When she felt that a girl who graduated from college could finally work hard, she learned that the girl had no plans to go out to work and fight for her career, but wanted to quickly find a rich man to be a full-time wife, have more children, and change classes by marriage.
The sponsored girl happily prepares her wedding to a financially free man 13 years her senior, saying she just wants a chance to change her destiny.
The blogger is in a bad mood, she can't accept that the girl who has been saving money and funding for 8 years aims to become a housewife.
She had insomnia, and she wondered why she couldn't sleep? Is it because the girl's present is different from what she imagined? What right does she have to envision other people's lives?
Some netizens expressed their understanding of the blogger's mood and saved money to sponsor the girl's schooling, hoping that she could change her fate and see a bigger world through hard work.
The result? People want to change class by getting married, marry a rich man, have more children, and buy more luxuries.
At first hearing about being a full-time housewife, I was blinded by the kindness of an enthusiastic blogger who sponsored her to go to school for 8 years. I already knew that I wanted to be a full-time housewife, so I might as well leave the opportunity to go to school to someone else.
But then again, without the funding of enthusiastic bloggers, girls may go out to work early, find a young man to work with, get married and start a family, and have no chance of being favored by financially free men.
From a funding perspective, bloggers' funding does help girls. Just like she wrote it herself, she also has no right to imagine other people's lives.
No one can predict what the future of this girl who chooses to get married and have children as a full-time housewife will have. At least in the moment she made her decision, she felt that she was right.
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I remembered Zhang Guimei's hatred after learning that her student had become a full-time wife.
"The family is so difficult, we provided you until now, and you are a full-time wife.
After a long time, you and he will have no common language, you will be eliminated by society, you can't help his career, you don't have the ability to come up with ideas, and the original level of grinding is lost. “
As President Zhang Guimei said, what I am most afraid of is to work full-time at home for a long time, have no common language for a long time, be eliminated by society, and have no ability to go out of the house.
For some people, being a full-time housewife/stay-at-home mom is an active choice, or it's good for the whole family, or they don't want to go to work.
But for some people, this is a last resort, the children are not taken care of, the home is not cared for, and there is no other way but to stay at home full-time.
In any case, becoming a full-time housewife, if not holding a mountain of gold and silver in her hands, is equivalent to pinning your future on men.
Meet a good man, smooth sailing. When you encounter someone who is not Shu, you can only break your teeth and swallow it in your stomach, which is really a reincarnation.
I think ah, for whatever reason you became a full-time housewife, you have to leave yourself a way back.
This back road can be to hold the economic power of the family and be the real family head; It can also be to improve oneself and give yourself the ability to go out of the house and support yourself at all times.
It's easy to say, but it's even harder to practice.
The economic power of the family, the considerate man will take the initiative to give, giving full-time housewives more security. When you run into something you don't want to give, a full-time housewife will only be harder.
The ability to support oneself requires full-time housewives to take care of their children's spare time and take the initiative to learn to improve themselves, which is a challenge to both physical strength and energy.
This latter looks like two options, but it is actually either 0 or 2. Those who have the ability to grasp the economic power at home often have the ability to go out of the house and support themselves. If there is nothing, there really is nothing.
Finally, I would like to say that whether it is full-time or career, marriage should be a safe haven and should not become a battlefield for intrigue.
If you can't understand each other and support each other, then simply, it's good to live by yourself!