People do not see through until they are seventy, and when they are old, the more they live, the more "humble" they are, and their later years of life are very low

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A writer once said that this is a world that only looks at values and not at feelings.

The word value often appears in the field of "business". But why do we measure a person by value, isn't that "commercializing" a person?

It is regrettable to say that since the development of the Industrial Revolution, human society has gradually become dominated by "material". And people, using materials, create value. That person, of course, can also be measured by "value".

In the world of mercenary interests, it is a sadness to always look only at value.

In the case of the elderly, why do they live unhappily, why are they afraid all day? I think it all has to do with the loss of human value.

When we are young, we can make money, our health is also very good, and we have a certain confidence and strength, so who dares to bully us? This is the embodiment of the full value of human beings.

However, when we reach a certain age, our health is not good, the savings in our pockets are getting less and less, and our spirit is also declining, then we will only be rejected. This is the embodiment of the decline in the value of human beings.

When people get old, they will only live more and more humble. In the midst of humility, we can gradually see through the true face of this so-called "family affection".

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A 70-year-old man lamented that the affection in his later years was very low.

Uncle Liu in the town is 70 years old this year, and he has long become a "widowed old man" who is sick in bed, and even his wife has moved to his son-in-law's house, ignoring himself.

In fact, Uncle Liu has two sons and a daughter under his knees. The eldest son is not bad, and the couple often sends him food and drink, so that he can at least feel a little warmth.

However, the second son and the younger daughter are different. The second son and his wife did not take care of Uncle Liu for a day, and as soon as they smelled the smell, they were sick to their stomachs and ran away, unwilling to stay by their father's side at all.

And the third daughter? Because she had to take care of her mother, she had to give up on her father. In the end, both siblings put the responsibility of taking care of their father on the eldest brother.

Seeing his father's misfortune, in fact, the eldest son could not do anything. His and his wife's monthly income is not enough for ten thousand yuan, the children also have to study, and the daily eating and drinking degrees also cost a lot, and the pressure is very high, and it is difficult to give his father a better life.

Whenever he saw his eldest son, Uncle Liu burst into tears. Because he knew that in this world, he only had the eldest son, a relative, and the others had left him.

The saddest thing in life is not how much we fail when we are young, but when we need to be taken care of in our later years, we can't find a truly reliable person. This is the great misfortune.

03

There is an old folk saying: "There is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time, and there is no virtuous wife in the long-poor family." ”

People are old, sick, unable to take care of themselves, who knows, abandoned by their children. And the wife? It is very likely that they will also leave themselves, and the great calamity will fly separately.

Why do we often say that "human nature cannot stand the test"?

It is because human nature is such a thing, too fickle, too hypocritical. In this moment, we have value, and everyone comes to us. And the next moment, we have no value, and I believe that these people will leave us.

A famous person once said that when I didn't have any money, I found that I was surrounded by bad people. And when I had money, I found that there were good people around me.

In the same way, when we are young and strong, we find that children are filial piety and partners are good matches. And when we are old and sick, we will find that filial piety is increasing, and the so-called good match is not necessarily so loyal.

Just like Uncle Liu above, he was originally an ordinary farmer who never did anything bad in his life, but his old age was still unfortunate.

This is related to his illness in bed, but also to the fact that he has lost his original value and made his children dislike him. Perhaps, many things in reality are crueler than we think.

04

When people are old, the more they live, the more humble they are, so we must be mentally prepared.

The idea is to work well before the age of 55 or 60, and when you are 55 or 60, you will go home and live a comfortable and happy life.

Will the joy of heaven really appear? Will a comfortable and happy little day really come to us?

Three words can be summed up, not necessarily. All the joy of heaven, all the comfort and happiness, are conditional. Without certain conditions, then it cannot be achieved.

Without a healthy body, children and wives may leave us; without certain assets in our hands, the older and lonelier we are, the more we are looked down upon; if there is no certain value in being human, then we can only live a humble life.

What's more, in today's day and age, children even have problems supporting themselves or taking good care of their families.

In old age, we need to be prepared in these three aspects.

The first aspect is to take good care of yourself, especially to take good care of your body; the second aspect is to hold money in your own hands; the third aspect is to reduce the expectations that should be had.

People, only the more they expect, the more disappointed. That being the case, we might as well reduce our personal expectations. Know that without expectation, you won't be hurt more. That's all.

Wen/Shushan has deer