01
The first fifty years of life were the experience of youth and strength. After reaching fifty, people gradually live a life of old age and flexurality. The first half of life is not easy, and the second half of life is actually even more difficult.
In this regard, I believe that many middle-aged people will be confused, do we not pay attention to "first bitter and then sweet"? Why is the bitterness of the first half of life still not exchanged for the "sweetness" of the second half of life?
Because not everyone can live a "sweet" life, and not everyone can survive from pain. Everything needs to look at the "conditions".
There is a saying that is very realistic, life only deceives the poor, and Buddhism only crosses the rich.
Because poor people lack money, resources, and no chance of making a splash, they will only live more and more painfully, and even be bullied by life, and they will not find a way out.
And what about the rich? Because they have money and power, abundant assets, and countless kinds of resources, how far will they be? Luxury happiness is the embodiment of the life of these rich people.
In this world, no matter what we do or what kind of life we live, we need "conditions."
And those who are close to fifty years old and have been living poorly often lack these hole cards.
02
People who live poorly do not have stable "jobs".
From the perspective of Maslow's five major levels of needs, the physiological level and the security level are often the lowest level of people's needs. Without this lowest level of need, then we cannot pursue a higher level of happiness.
The physiological level is actually very easy to understand, that is, food, clothing, shelter and transportation. As long as you have no problems with food, clothing, shelter and transportation, then your physiological level will be successfully solved.
The level of security is work. Only when we have jobs can we have income. If we don't have a source of income, then the level of survival will be problematic, and even the physiological level will be affected.
For people, have a stable job, do not worry about when they will lose their jobs, and have a stable income. This can make people feel basic happiness.
However, in today's industry, when the industry is not good and layoffs are gradually becoming the norm, how many people can have stable jobs? I think that people who have stable jobs are just a few.
People are unemployed in middle age, and people cannot find work in middle age, which is the source of sadness and misfortune.
03
People who live poorly lack "helpers."
In a family, the most uncomfortable thing is that "it is difficult to support alone".
Take a middle-aged man, for example, if his wife is not working and is a full-time wife, then he has to desperately earn money and support a family with the efforts of one person.
Parents are old and need to spend money to take care of. When children grow up, they also need to spend money to invest. And daily food, clothing, shelter and transportation also need a lot of expenses. When all the pressure is on a person's shoulders, believing that person is not far from collapse.
The so-called "chopsticks are easy to fold." "It is very difficult to maintain the livelihood of a family entirely on the income of one person. It's okay to stick to it for a while, but if you stick to it for a long time, it's hard.
To put it bluntly, when you have a job, you can support a family alone. And when you don't have a job, doesn't the family lose? Who can you count on?
Here, if we want to say that in the family, one cannot let a person take on the responsibility of supporting the family, but every member of the family needs to contribute his own part.
Only when people are united, you help me, and I help you, can we successfully pass the middle age.
04
People who live poorly can't see "hope."
It has been said that people who lack hope are like soulless zombies, with unfocused eyes and no vitality.
The reason why people live in this world and persevere is because we all think that "hope" is in front of us.
It's just that not everyone can see hope, and not everyone can have hope. When people have reached a low point and cannot see the future, what hope does he have?
Especially in middle-aged people near the age of fifty, the pressure on their bodies is extreme, and no one can tell, let alone understand themselves. Isn't this forcing yourself to a desperate situation in life?
In "A Generation of Grandmasters", Ip Man once said: "I have seen mountains, only to find that the saddest thing is life." ”
Life this mountain, too high, like towering into the clouds, not to mention ordinary people are difficult to climb to the top, may even look up at the peak, feel hard.
So the moment the flame of hope is extinguished, misfortune comes.
05
People who live poorly lack "health."
A person, for whom the most important thing, I think, is "health".
When you are young, you make money in order to live a good life. Who knows that if the body is overdrawn and the body is on the verge of being broken, then it will be full of diseases and make people miserable.
Unemployment, that is not a desperate thing. Getting sick is the nightmare of middle-aged people.
I have seen some middle-aged people who have not yet reached the age of 49 and left, leaving their lovers and children behind, and their parents can only send black haired people to white-haired people.
There are also some middle-aged people who suffer from chronic diseases, not only to spend money on treatment, but also the disease can not be cured, only with time to worsen. It cost money and it can't be cured. This is sadness.
When people reach middle age, they should not overdraw their bodies. Without health, even if you are given a hundred million, it may not make sense. All happiness is rooted in health, because it is the foundation.
In the future, grasp the money well, do your duty, exercise well, see the hope, then life will be complete.
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