Everyone wants to get married with the person they love, to grow old, to raise children together, and to work together to grow old.
But life won't be as we wish, especially when it's not easy to meet someone we like, let alone love each other.
Some people choose not to get married, preferring to be single rather than settle down, but some people are forced by reality or follow the wishes of their parents, and many times they will always make different behaviors from their own choices.
Then in life, marrying people you don't love is not a minority, but you can live a life with a casual partner, and only you know the warmth and coldness of it.
Many people say that it is not happy to marry someone they don't love, but in fact, there are still several situations of marrying someone they don't love:
The biggest possibility is that you will regret it.
Why the biggest thing to say is regret, because most people always have obsession with what they can't get, think I don't love him, it's difficult to really appreciate and respect each other in their hearts, then there will be a lot of hidden dangers after marriage.
There is no way to communicate well, there is no way to support each other, more is mutual dislike and accusation, then it is difficult for each other to continue.
Because it is more difficult for two people who originally have no feelings to become better, it requires both people to be wise and know how to cherish.
If you add that the two people have different thinking and life concepts, it is easy to become the fuse that intensifies the contradiction in the relationship after marriage.
So all kinds of trivialities will make you can't help but think, "If you hadn't married him in the first place, wouldn't it be different?"
If you can be very happy if you find someone you like, once such a thought sprouts in your mind, it is difficult to become integrated.
The second may be to fall in love slowly.
Although it is a blind date marriage, the two people will not love very much, but it cannot be said that there is no good feeling at all, otherwise it is impossible to walk together.
At least one aspect of the other person was attracting you at the time, and you did the same to him.
That being the case, if two people can slowly discover each other's strengths and feel that he is also good, when one person throws the olive branch of marriage, the other person takes over.
It will become sympathetic, especially when things are encountered, if you can support each other, then this inner gratitude will arise spontaneously.
Until he thinks he is also good, maybe the two people will slowly rely on each other, fall in love with each other, and even germinate, "if you know each other earlier, it would be better" feeling.
Two people like this are actually unattainable, both people know that marriage needs to be managed, and they know that their decisions affect the direction of marriage and also affect their own happiness.
Undoubtedly, meeting such a partner is a great blessing in life, because both people know that since they are together, they must analyze it well.
Of course, marrying someone you don't love can also be very flat and become a family affection.
Although some are not as extreme as the first two, their lives will be more flat, and they will feel that there is no love, as long as they can get along peacefully, it is also a good thing.
As long as there is more tolerance in the days, it is also possible to live on, and in the end, deep feelings will be produced, which are more of a family affection and a kind of dependence.
In our father's generation, there are more, and it is good to live a down-to-earth life, there is no wind and snow, but some are at ease and steadfast.
Some people say that marrying someone you don't love, from the beginning you are disgusted, then you can not enjoy the process, but also continue to deal with the contradictions and conflicts that continue to appear in the process, and finally look at each other, physically and mentally exhausted.
In fact, there is a situation of marrying someone you don't love for a long time, and there will be a situation of looking at each other and hating each other, and it depends on yourself whether you make this choice or not.
Because so many people who marry deeply loved ones may not be complete in the end, they will also encounter marital betrayal, trivial quarrels, and even divorce.
Marriage is up to the two of you to decide how to go and how far you go.
Love only comes from good feelings, but it needs to be carefully managed to maintain a lifetime.
We have seen many partners, at first we did not love much, but after many years, we have been dependent on each other, and we have also seen that we have begun to love very much, and finally turned against each other.
Maybe it feels good to love each other at the beginning of marriage, but after experiencing it, you understand that mutual tolerance and understanding, love and responsibility can make the marriage last.
Love is not only attraction, but also responsibility.