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It is said that family affection is the most difficult to give up, but some relatives are dependent on blood relations, calculating and taking advantage of everything.
Liu Dan (pseudonym) has such a brother.
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Liu Dan's brother Liu Qiang (pseudonym), is already more than 50 years old, but all day idle, idle, not even a serious job, almost every day to drag the family to his sister Liu Dan's house to rub rice, Liu Dan look at his brother's affection, and did not think about anything, but just do a little more, fill in a few more pairs of chopsticks, husband Xu Jun (pseudonym) to see his wife indifferent is not good to say more.
Over time, Liu Dan's family has also become accustomed to it, and Liu Qiang's family feels that it is deserved, but Liu Qiang's attitude is really unpleasant, and even his own sister can't look at it.
Every time I came to dinner, I came empty-handed, and when I left, I had to take some with me, Liu Dan said on his lips: "What is this called, even eat and take!" "But every time I still bring some fruit home for my brother." Once Liu Qiang's family came to rub rice again, Liu Dan dealt with some of his own things, went home late, and then went to buy vegetables and then cooked rice, and the time for dinner was delayed. Liu Qiang sat on the sofa watching TV while bumping melon seeds, and from time to time he had to urge Liu Dan, and his son Liu Wei had also been noisy and hungry, thinking that Liu Dan was cooking late.
At this time, Xu Jun came back from work, as soon as he entered the door, he saw Liu Qiang's family sitting on the sofa watching TV, the ground and the coffee table were all falling melon peels, and then looked at Liu Dan's busy appearance in the kitchen, the anger in his heart suddenly surged up, but because of Liu Dan's face, he could not say anything, and he went into the kitchen with anger and helped Liu Dan cook dinner together.
Dinner was ready, Liu Qiang's family also moved their butts from the sofa to the dining table, there was no meaning to help serve dishes and chopsticks, Liu Dan had already seen it strangely, who let himself stand such a brother.
During the meal, Liu Qiang suddenly opened his mouth and said that his son had been dating a girl for more than two years, the two were ready to get married, the girl they had seen, there was no opinion, said a few days to let the son bring to Liu Dan and his wife to see.
Xu Jun frowned as he listened, feeling that Liu Qiang had something to say, which was definitely going to borrow money again. Liu Dan didn't think about it so much, and directly said: "Okay, which day to greet in advance, I will prepare meals!" At this time, Liu Wei suddenly said, "Hey! Her mother said that if we wanted to get married, I must first buy a house. ”
Speaking of this, several people did not make a sound, Liu Qiang took a look at it, and quickly said: "Our family does not have a few money, but we can't afford to buy a house." Otherwise, ask your aunt to borrow some money, you pay a down payment, after marriage, the two of you work well, and then return the down payment to your aunt. Do you see that work? Liu Dan. ”
My brother asked himself to borrow money, which was not the first time, but the money lent out was not returned at all. Liu Dan is always embarrassed to look for Liu Qiang for face, and then there is not much money borrowed, each time it is hundreds of thousands, for this little money hurt the family affection is not worth it, so the money borrowed before this will not be gone.
But this time is different, borrowing money to buy a house is a big deal. If this is lent, what if it is not returned? Liu Qiang looked at Liu Dan and then at Xu Jun, knowing that they were hesitating, and immediately said: "You can rest assured, I will ask Liu Wei to write you an IOU, sign it and press the handprint." ”
Liu Dan looked at Xu Jun, and she knew that even if there was an IOU in hand, Liu Qiang's family still had the ability to play with Lai and not recognize the account. Liu Dan reluctantly asked, "How much do you plan to borrow?" Liu Wei was happy with this question, and immediately replied: "200,000!" Auntie, you can rest assured, I will write you an IOU, and I will definitely pay you back this money! Just help your nephew. ”
Liu Dan did not speak, Xu Jun saw that Liu Dan was quite embarrassed, so he agreed for Liu Dan, he turned around and went into the house to get money, together with a paper and pen, let Liu Wei write down the IOU first.
Liu Wei quickly wrote down the IOU, signed it, pressed the handprint, and reached for the money, but was stopped by Xu Jun, "I'll look at this IOU first." Xu Jun picked up the IOU and looked at it, and suddenly he started a fire, threw the IOU to the ground, and said, "It's too much!" We don't borrow this money! ”
Liu Qiang immediately stepped forward and quipped, "What's wrong?" How did all this change again? Is this IOU written incorrectly? It turned out that Liu Wei wrote on the IOU that "today I borrowed 20,000 yuan from my aunt", Liu Qiang immediately said: "You see your family conditions are so good, your son's salary is high, this 200,000 is not nothing for you, our family is different, there is no savings, the son's work is not good, it is difficult to talk about an object to get married, people also ask to buy a house, you do the aunt, spend some money on the nephew, pay a down payment What is wrong?" Besides, this is not much money. ”
Liu Qiang's words, can make Xu Jun angry enough, the two quarreled, these years Xu Jun has been tolerating Liu Qiang, he has nothing to do all day and does not want to make progress, every day to drag the family to the house to rub rice without saying, but also always borrow money, said nice, is to borrow money, in fact, under the slogan of borrowing and then ask for money. Xu Jun understood that he was clearly asking for money this time, but he wanted to play this kind of cleverness, at this time Liu Dan suddenly spoke: "Don't argue!" Brother, you go, we don't borrow this money, our money is not blown by the wind, no matter how good the conditions are, it is also the hard work of our family of three, no matter how high my son's salary is, it is also his hardships and fatigues, I can't pit my son for my nephew. Before, Lao Tzu pit me, and now I have changed my son. I don't want the money in the past, you always say that your conditions are not good, there is no money, instead of complaining about people like this, why not go find a serious job? Also, don't come here in the future, I won't do your meal! ”
Liu Dan said in one breath the words that he had been enduring all these years, and when he finished, he opened the door and blasted Liu Qiang's family out, Liu Qiang scolded Liu Dan for having no conscience, and also severed relations with him, while leaving Liu Dan's family.
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In our lives, there are many relatives like Liu Qiang, who are carrying out long-term squeezing under the guise of blood relatives. Some people think, it's okay, it's all their own people anyway, but if one day, when you need his help, will he reach out to you?
Family affection is rare, but in order to maintain family affection, it can not be blindly used and squeezed, we should think rationally and reasonably distinguish these relatives.
Through this story of Liu Dan, let us know what is the real relative.
One: Not all close relatives can be regarded as relatives.
Now in many reports, such as brothers and sisters fighting lawsuits to fight for real estate, it is simply innumerable, and some people even say that their brothers and sisters have become heinous and heinous sinners for the sake of the house. What else is this about affection?
With the development of the times, there are more and more one-child families, like the past a family with 4 or 5 children, now there is no more, the younger generation of us, there is no brother and sister, that kind of blood and relatives relationship is enviable, but also this generation, the contradiction is getting deeper and deeper, in the final analysis, the reason is money.
The older generation of parents left the property, 4, 5 children scrambled, this is already the norm, in the moment when they fight for the property, they are no longer close relatives, more like enemies. They don't remember the affection they had been dependent on since childhood, only that the house had to belong to them.
This situation is sad, when everyone tears their faces, their previous blood and kinship are broken, and they are no longer relatives.
Two: There is only one kind of relative in this world, and that is those who care about you and feel sorry for you.
An emotion, whether it is affection or love, should be pure, not mixed with any impurities, only the heartfelt emotions are sincere, once mixed with the elements of money, then this emotion is hypocritical.
Family affection is the sublimation of all emotions, friendship can be sublimated into family affection, and love can also be sublimated into family affection. Some people, you once did not have any relationship, starting from strangers, slowly became girlfriends, good brothers or partners, since then there are more such a vital number of people in life, you are not related by blood, but close like a family, their care and love for you is always seeking returns, there is no deceit between you and me, this kind of person is our life without blood "relatives".
And like Liu Qiang in the previous story, he has a close blood relationship, but he does not calculate all the time, and those who take advantage are not relatives at all. They will only take infinitely from you and will not consider your feelings at all. When encountering such relatives, we can't blindly connive because of the so-called family affection, over time, we will suffer losses and grievances, the other party will feel that it is deserved, once one day it becomes more intense, when the request is rejected, we will also say that you do not miss family affection, ungrateful.
In fact, relatives are not necessarily people who want to be related by blood, as long as they are sincere and sincere, they care about you from the bottom of their hearts and hurt you, even if there is no blood relationship, then they are also your relatives.
Text/No Pen