I heard such a story, the two brothers were at odds, the younger brother complained to his relatives everywhere, saying how ruthless and unjust the brother was, but the relatives respected the younger brother.
The fuse of the contradiction between the two brothers is really not worth mentioning, the younger brother wants to buy a house for his son, the money is not enough to borrow money from the brother, the brother said that he just bought a house for your nephew, there is not much money in hand, it is really sorry, can only make up twenty thousand for you.
The younger brother felt that his brother had only lent him such a little money when he opened his mouth, and he turned his face on the spot and made a big fuss at his brother's house.
He also called his relatives to let people help evaluate and judge, pulled out the matter of Chen Sesame's rotten grain, said what he bought for people in which year his brother was hospitalized, what gifts he gave to his nephew when he went to college, etc., accusing his brother of being stingy and impersonal.
In fact, the brother is not a stingy person, and the brother's affairs are rich and powerful, but as long as it is not as good as he wants, no matter how good he used to be, he only stares at the "bad" place.
Not only for the older brother, but also for other relatives, so the relatives do not like to associate with the younger brother.
The younger brother often complained about his own life, did not have a good day, was born of a mother, why did the brother live better than himself.
The atmosphere of the older brother and the stinginess of the younger brother are clear at a glance. As the saying goes, character determines destiny, and fate is related to nature, but it is not something that cannot be changed. This story also illustrates this point.
Unfortunately, many people still do not understand this truth after living most of their lives, too calculating, too easy to drill the horns, and lack of gratitude, a little unsatisfactory to feel that the whole world is sorry for him, but never know the reason from themselves.
If a person wants to live more and more smoothly, he must learn to be an atmospheric person, less careful, and his mood is smooth, and his life will of course get better and better. People who live more and more smoothly are generally very atmospheric in the following three aspects.
Treat loved ones with atmosphere
In this world, partners, children, parents, siblings, in-laws, relatives, etc. constitute our important social relationships and are people who can provide us with emotional support.
These people we collectively call "relatives", because of the existence of relatives, we are no longer afraid when we encounter difficulties, no longer cringe when we encounter injustice, and someone talks about sad things when we encounter them... The more emotional support we receive from our loved ones, the stronger the inner sense of well-being.
As the saying goes, home and everything is happy.
With relatives, the atmosphere can be angry.
One netizen shared her relationship with her in-laws. In the early years, because of trivial matters and the mother-in-law was not good, vowed not to let the mother-in-law see the child, every New Year's Day only the husband went back alone, every time he returned from his parents' home, the couple would definitely quarrel and cold war.
She knows that it is not easy for her husband to be sandwiched between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but she can't pass the psychological barrier, and every time she thinks of her mother-in-law, she has anger in her heart, although her mother-in-law constantly shows kindness and sends her various hometown specialties.
Icebreaking happened during the birth of the second child, the mother said that she would come to help take care of her, but she broke her arm a week before giving birth, and the mother-in-law took the initiative to call her after she knew, let her relax her heart, and asked her if she would like to take care of her if she went to take care of her.
Seeing that her mother-in-law put her posture so low, she was embarrassed to refuse, so she promised her mother-in-law to come and help.
Who knew that after the mother-in-law came, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law got better and better. The mother-in-law apologized to her, saying that she had not considered her feelings before, and she accepted her mother-in-law's apology and also apologized to her mother-in-law.
Female netizens said: After reconciling with my mother-in-law, my relationship with my husband has also become closer, my husband has become more concerned about the family and more caring for my feelings, and my relatives in my husband's hometown have also taken the initiative to send us specialties. Because of these relatives, I feel more love and warmth.
The harmony between relatives is reflected in our hearts, and the most intuitive feeling is that happiness is enhanced.
The more tolerant and angry we are toward our loved ones, the more positive feedback we receive. This sense of happiness makes us full of confidence in life, full of kindness to our surroundings, and our hearts are more spacious, of course, the more we live.
Treat yourself atmospheric
One of the common characteristics of those who always feel that their lives are bitter is that they are not atmospheric enough, they are not willing to invest in themselves, and there is a feeling of "I am not worthy" in the subconscious.
Especially in housewives, they often adhere to the view of "self-denial", as long as the husband and children eat well, dress warmly, and sleep comfortably, it does not matter how they are.
But as a social animal, people inevitably have to deal with others, talk and listen in their interactions with people.
Those repressed spiritual needs are stimulated in the interaction with people, and the other party talks about his family and his marriage, and he will always unconsciously compare it with his own better than himself.
If the husband and children do not understand gratitude, the stronger the psychological imbalance, lamenting that the efforts for the family are not worth it, and feeling that they have not married a good husband... Over time, she has become a "resentful woman" in other people's populations.
Women who treat themselves with an atmosphere are more open-minded and easier to achieve happiness in the face of marriage.
They don't feel that marriage is a person's giving and tolerance, they see their own needs more clearly, and they know how to love themselves.
They have a stronger sense of self-identity and do not define themselves as "devotees", so they live more open-mindedly and soberly.
It is really not easy for people in this life, whether women or men, if they want to live more and more smoothly, they must be atmospheric to themselves.
Take good care of your body, that is the foundation of your survival;
Take good care of your emotions, that's the source of your continued happiness.
Treat villains atmospheric
What do you do when you meet a villain?
Many people can't contain their temper, but when they encounter villains, the angry ones will come up, have to compare with people, win the mood is comfortable, lose the secret wound God how they can't even clean up the villains.
When you meet a villain who wears small shoes behind his back in the unit, he can't swallow that breath in his heart; when he interacts with people and encounters a villain, his sincerity is trampled by the other party, and his heart is also unable to let go, always thinking of one day to take revenge.
The result of fighting with villains is that your life is disrupted by villains, your life is a mess, your emotions are often in negative energy, and it will affect your relationship with family and friends and affect your work.
When you meet a villain, the more calculating you are, the more likely you are to fall into the trap of the villain.
The best way to deal with it is to be atmospheric, not to fight with the villain, the villain feels that you do not accept the move, and there is no interest in finding you trouble.
Arguing with people is easy, but being kind to people requires a great heart and pattern.
The former makes you look like you hate, and the latter makes you live like a villain who can't climb high.
Be an atmospheric person, don't get entangled with the villain.
Listen to the ugly words, even if you know the person of the other party, it is better to stay away from this kind of person in the future; the loss you have suffered has become your lesson, and the next time you encounter something similar, you will have a number in your heart.
Treat the villain more atmospherically, not to forgive the villain, but to let yourself go, compared to fighting with the villain, there are more important things in life that are worth doing.
Your atmosphere, win is your own.
In this society, people who are atmospheric and do things are more able to eat and live more easily.
The poet Victor Hugo said: The ocean is the widest in the world, and even wider than it is the sky, and the human mind is better than everything.
Atmosphere is an open-minded attitude towards life.
The more angry people live, the more things they can tolerate, the wider the road they can take, and of course, the more life is smoother.
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