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After my mother-in-law came home, I enjoyed taking care of my children

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A friend learned that I recently brought a baby alone and specially sent a WeChat greeting: Do you bring it yourself? That's not very hard.

At about 6:00 p.m., the two children were running and playing happily in the living room, and I closed the glass door of the kitchen and cut very difficult shredded carrots on the cutting board. There was no tiredness at all, but there was a bit of joy, and the knife that cut the shredded radish played a concerto of youth in a trance.

Heat the pan, pour oil, shredded radish into the pan, and stir-fry quickly.

"Fortunately, I'm enjoying taking her by myself now."

Yes, it's enjoyment, just like I stir-fry shredded carrots are so silky at the moment.

I thought I couldn't eat it, the day after my mother-in-law came home, I planned to send my sister to the nursery, but then there was no way to reluctantly I had to take her by myself, last week I was quite busy, to shoot videos, and I had to prepare courseware to give a 20-minute lesson. The week passed in such a hurry, quite smoothly, and there was no panic.

My mood is quite stable, and I can't help but be a little louder when I tutor my brother to write homework.

After my mother-in-law came home, I enjoyed taking care of my children

The two children occasionally think of grandma, after I took my sister to bring my brother back, the moment the door was opened, my brother would deliberately shout "Grandma, I'm back", there was an empty echo in the room, no one answered, mixed with a trace of loss, and the brother immediately smiled: Grandma, go back to my hometown.

My sister was also very adaptable, which was beyond my expectations, which also disappointed my grandmother a little. Grandma was particularly uneasy after returning to her hometown, worried that her sister would find her, and I told her directly: Don't worry, my sister is very good, she didn't look for you at all.

For a two-year-old child, she still doesn't know much about what "missing" is, what is there to think about when she is next to her parents, mothers, and brothers, eating well, dressing, playing, and sleeping well.

My sister's emotional change towards my grandmother made me more determined to bring the baby myself.

I thought that the child could not do without me, but in fact, I could not do without her.

After my grandmother went back, my relationship with my sister warmed up "linearly". In fact, in the first few months of grandma's life, there was a not very good phenomenon, I also tried not to be angry, my sister stuck to her abnormally at night. Grandma sometimes doesn't pay attention to her words and will say things like "whose baby are you, you are grandma's little baby, who are you closest to" to her sister. Of course, I won't be angry because of these "elders teasing children" words, but I still feel a little uncomfortable in my heart.

Especially when my sister doesn't want me, and I have to sleep with my grandmother to find my grandmother.

For several nights, I held her to put her to sleep, but she broke free, crying in her mouth: I want to find grandma, you let me go.

After my mother-in-law came home, I enjoyed taking care of my children

Your own daughter suddenly doesn't want you, can you not feel bad?

I also wrote before that "my daughter doesn't want me, I'm not angry", but that was just prevaricating myself for the harmony of the mother-in-law relationship. For a moment, I will be very disappointed and feel that my daughter has been "robbed". How good is my sister and grandma? The first thing I do when I get up in the morning is to look for my grandmother.

My sister is very sticky to my grandmother, but my mother-in-law is not very willing to hug her. I also generously talked to her about letting her put her sister in her arms to sleep, and she said helplessly: Follow me during the day, and follow me at night, I don't have a good time all day long.

Listening to her, I wondered: How tiring is it to take children? Our family does not need her to do any housework, at most cook a meal, make egg soup in the morning, eat at noon, and then I often go to the café and am not at home, and I will have a serious meal in the evening. Dinner doesn't have to be for me and my children, it's more about her and my husband.

When the weather is good, she takes her sister out for a walk twice, and at home she brushes her mobile phone and her sister watches baby Jojo.

After picking up my brother at five o'clock in the afternoon, both children were mine, and she either skimmed short videos or made video calls with friends.

I took my two children to the slide myself, and I didn't feel too tired. And the dishes are more bought by me, in the past, my sister may be really tired for a few months, but now that my sister is two years old, she doesn't need to hold it so much. I later found out what was going on: because she was too careful with her, she hunched over the slide for fear that her sister would fall. (In fact, there is no need, my sister is older, not a child)

Of course, I didn't tell my mother-in-law this, I just thought she was not in good health and it was easier to get tired.

There is a question on Zhihu: living with in-laws, will it be depressing?

I personally felt the answer: even the smoothest relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be very depressing.

I have lived with my mother-in-law for most of the year, and I haven't quarreled once overall, but there will still be a lot of small frictions, and many times I can't understand why she is angry for no reason, and then she doesn't take the child and throws me face.

It was almost the New Year, and for two days she locked herself in her room, and when she came out to go to the toilet, she was also very loud, especially the sound of closing the door was extremely loud, and her face was expressionless. She ignored me, ignored the child, and completely stopped picking. My brother was on winter vacation, and let the two children knock on her door, and she didn't come out.

I was speechless, the point was that I didn't know why she was so angry.

How do I face her low air pressure? I can only hold on to pretend that I can't see, I should talk and laugh, she is like that, I can't ignore the child. The mother-in-law is angry all her life and directly does nothing, I can't, who let me be the mother of the child?

She ignored me, I sent my husband WeChat to let him rush back and ask her what was wrong, I called for food at noon and knocked on the door to call her out to eat. On the 28th day of the lunar calendar, I also specially found a shop to take her to eat seafood, and she didn't say a word all the way in the car.

I couldn't help it during the meal, and asked her very bluntly: Is it delicious? Is something wrong with you, in bad health, uncomfortable? Are you tired with children?

She shook her head and didn't answer much.

How else can I get along with her?

I asked her if she wanted to buy clothes or go out to play, but she still had a cold face. And so on and so on, every time her negative emotions break out, I can only wait for her emotional low period to pass, regardless of her, she will be fine.

In addition to her liking to sulk, and when she is angry, she is especially fierce to the two children, and my son sometimes likes to pester her, and she comes to the phrase "find your mother". At night, she was impatient to push her sister out the door, but the problem was that her sister wanted to find her in those days. I was also worried that she wouldn't sleep well, so more often my sister slept with me, no matter how late it was, I never complained.

I also used to complain to my husband:

I'm worthy of your mom enough, and she shouldn't and shouldn't have reason to treat me like this. I don't owe her, everything in our family now is more dependent on my hard work, and I am not grateful to throw my face, what is the matter. What daughter-in-law is as capable as me.

Whining is complaining, it's not worth being on the line, I can have a tantrum with my husband, but I really haven't had a tantrum with her.

It's all very small things: for example, what clothes to wear for my daughter, she will be very assertive and think that she bought well, and you feel very uncomfortable with the feeling that your mother is being frightened. Say that cutting my daughter's hair will cut it, without asking me what I think. The point is that I can't refute anything yet, and once I refute it, she's very small, and it's especially easy to think about it.

My husband and I also care about her feelings everywhere, for fear that she will be angry.

In case she sulks, her blood pressure rises, she doesn't sleep well, and then the gains outweigh the losses.

I also know that my mother-in-law is a very good person, but people are complex, and kindness does not mean that you can get along everywhere. Because she has no education, and she still gets along with her, it feels like walking on thin ice for most of the year, and I can only try to persuade myself not to think so complicated.

Perhaps, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, this sentence is not wrong at all.

After my mother-in-law came home, I enjoyed taking care of my children

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I also enjoy taking care of my own children, because I listen to me in everything, and I don't have to think about my mother-in-law's feelings anymore.

I now have absolute autonomy in matters related to my two children.

She is in charge of what clothes to wear for your child, and when you buy clothes for your child and she dislikes it and says that it is not good-looking, you will feel offended. There is also a daily must ask the child if you like grandma very much, you are the closest to grandma. I'm either careful with my eyes, or you feel harsh when you hear these words.

She was just a child, and it was necessary to ask her this?

Or maybe it's trying to prove something.

So for a while I would complain to my husband: it really doesn't work, just let your mother go home, in fact, she really didn't help me much. The child is still mostly mine after five o'clock, and on the weekend she rests the child is also mine, sometimes I am at home during the day, the child comes to me in a while, I still bear most of it, in fact, it is me who is really tired.

Especially when the mother-in-law is depressed and unwell, both children are mine.

I sometimes admire my self-regulation of emotions, and I can pretend to be like that without getting angry.

I can ignore my mother-in-law's emotions, she deliberately loud in front of me, I can pretend not to see.

I can also ask her with a smile: What's wrong with you, is there anything uncomfortable, do you want to go to the hospital.

I don't want to be so tired of getting along with her, but you have no way, you can only do this, wronged yourself and waited for this stage, she will be fine. No one can stay in the low mood all the time, if you have nothing to do, she will be bored and sulking, and there will be nothing to do in a few days.

Writing this article may make my husband uncomfortable, but it is indeed the real state of my relationship with my mother-in-law.

After my mother-in-law came home, I enjoyed taking care of my children

Including her sudden desire to go home, I don't know if my words made her think more again. She wants to go back, I will let her go back, it doesn't matter if she can't come back, I won't beg her to come back, because I can handle it myself.

My sister is relatively easy to bring, I am especially disgusted by my mother-in-law's sentence "Your daughter follows me very well, she will not be well-behaved as soon as you come back", she said this I have to laugh "It's normal for children and mothers not to behave", but it is very strange, after my mother-in-law came home, my sister followed me quite well.

I have more language communication with her, teach her some basic living habits and language, and I ride an electric car with her around, three meals a day are a must. My sister doesn't have diarrhea, her living habits are much better, I dress her more and less without my mother-in-law talking on the side, and my sister doesn't have a runny nose, but is very healthy.

It was also very good to sleep at noon, and now it is a regularity, and every day I coax her to fall asleep within a few minutes, and she can sleep for three or four hours. I also slept very well at night, and when my grandmother was there, I could stay up until eleven or twelve, and this room ran to that room, and now she went to bed by herself as soon as I said sleep, and fell asleep at ten o'clock.

In the past two days, my sister has begun to train to use the toilet.

Without my mother-in-law's intervention, my education of my sister became smoother and smoother.

Can I not enjoy taking my own children?

Although tired, the feeling of relaxation is too full.

Today's topic: Do you get along well with your mother-in-law? Welcome to leave a message.

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★ Author: YIBAO; The original creator of emotions, writing about the warm emotional things of this world.

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