01
There is a saying that "right and wrong are only for the sake of opening more, and all troubles are due to strong heads." ”
The reason why there are so many right and wrong in this world is because we open our mouths and say too much. The troubles we encounter do not appear for no reason, but are caused by our excessive strength.
Speaking, biologically speaking, is human instinct. From the perspective of human beings, speaking is an ability. Knowing what to say and what not to say requires us to have great wisdom.
Spit out some words, others will immediately pay attention to you, and after a bit of entanglement, they will treat you as a thorn in the eye and a thorn in the flesh. Then you say so much, don't you make enemies?
Tell the people around you what you think and think in your heart, and don't consider the feelings of the other party at all. It can be said that maybe we are hated by others and do not know.
The reason why there are so many misfortunes in this world is that people themselves have caused it. To be precise, it is all caused by human mouths and thoughts.
There is a saying that "defense is like a city, and guarding the mouth is like a bottle." ”
Be careful in your words and deeds, just like defending a city. Keep your mouth shut, like tightening the mouth of a bottle. Trembling, like approaching the abyss, like walking on thin ice, let people live a stable life.
The following things, even for relatives, can not be said, will hurt you.
02
Don't show it about "money."
There was once a small business owner who went back to his hometown to show off in the New Year. In his view, the rich do not return to their hometowns, such as the night of the brocade, there is no meaning.
However, when he said the matter of making money and getting rich, there were a large number of relatives to join him, and some people came to pull relations with him, set up friendships, anyway, all the good words were exhausted, just waiting for him to bring relatives to get rich.
The boss himself knows that making money is based on timing. Now that the business opportunity has passed, it is impossible to bring it up. What's more, who will bring others to make money?
In the end, this little boss was disliked by his relatives, some people rumored that he was not good, some people insulted him for not being right, anyway, what is difficult to hear, let him be particularly dissatisfied, but also see through the truth of human nature.
Having experienced this, he has learned to be obedient, knows how to make money "quietly Mimi", and does not say too much to anyone. Being able to "make a fortune in a muffled voice" is the truth of being a human being.
Just think, what big boss would go around and disclose that he made a lot of money? Fools will.
03
The question of "truth" cannot be said too much.
It has been said that the only lesson that mankind has learned from history is that mankind cannot learn any lesson from history.
Knowing that the road ahead is a dead end, knowing that this matter has been taught a lesson in history, why can't we avoid it, but like to know that there are tigers in the mountains and prefer to go to the tiger mountains? Isn't that self-inflicted?
The biggest characteristic of human beings is that they do not like to listen to the truth, especially the truth that contradicts their own hearts. Even if you are right, no one will accept your suggestion.
You take great risks to tell the truth with your own good intentions, but others not only do not appreciate you, but even complain about you in particular, and hate your existence. This is the real "good heart to be a donkey liver lung".
In real life, especially in the workplace, what colleagues and bosses need is not the truth, but a comfortable cliché. Perhaps, this feels hypocritical, but it is the current situation.
Say the right thing, don't offend people, this is the way to protect yourself.
04
Don't show up about "personal achievement."
How much money a person makes and how much he has achieved is his own business, not someone else's business.
Since it is not someone else's business, others will not only not harbor good intentions, but will even have disgust. The better you do, the more people hate you.
Especially in front of relatives, you have good ability, good achievements, and even your children's learning is relatively excellent, so how can they expect you to live well?
There was a friend, the child was admitted to the 985 University, he immediately sent a circle of friends to celebrate. Who knows that the likes are all outsiders, and relatives, no one has liked. Moreover, some relatives say that his children are nerds everywhere.
This friend, did he do something wrong? In fact, he did not do wrong, what was wrong was only the human heart. Your goodness, in the eyes of others, is to pour salt on their wounds. At this time, others can't see you well, isn't it the truest reflection?
People, or low-key point is better, too high-profile, will only face the result of "wood show in the forest, the wind will destroy it", no value.
05
Don't say anything about "family relationships."
There is a particularly classic case.
Miss Zhang always felt that her husband was not good, so she went around telling her girlfriends and relatives about her heart. And some girlfriends chew on the root of their tongues, saying that Miss Zhang's husband has cheated and is unfaithful, and will he stay for the New Year?
After listening to these words a lot, Miss Zhang also felt that her husband must have cheated on her, otherwise he would never come home after eight o'clock every day.
Under the provocation of others, Miss Zhang divorced her husband. And now she has no regrets. Because the husband is a diligent programmer. In order to support his family, he needs to work overtime every day and is exhausted. However, she just listened to the deception of others and misunderstood her husband.
However, it is useless to complain anymore. Because it is difficult to break the mirror, everyone needs to take responsibility for their own actions.
It can only be said that things about family relations, whether good or bad, should not be said. Otherwise, the only ones who will be injured in the end will be themselves and their families.
Wen/Shushan has deer