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The most difficult thing in the world to balance is always the relationship between people. It's not hard to build a relationship, but it's not so easy to stay long.
But people's social relationships, friends or colleagues other than relatives, are the most common and must be maintained.
People may not be so concerned about their relatives, but they are sometimes very sensitive to the relationship between friends or colleagues.
If you can pay attention to these aspects of human interaction, the relationship may be more lasting.
★ Don't get too close
Between people, it is best not to get too close. Intimate relationships can eventually be bad, because people's hearts are volatile, and no one will always maintain the same mentality.
Going too close can sometimes upset the balanced relationship. Keeping a certain distance can better maintain a good friendship.
Many real cases we've seen, such as peer-to-peer confrontation, such as being stabbed in the back by a best friend, are not uncommon. The reason is mostly because the two people are too close.
Giving each other a little distance, no matter what kind of relationship, contributes to the longevity of a relationship. This is not just talking.
★ No money involved
A relationship, it is best not to involve money, in order to be more long-lasting. It is said that the wealth is white and moving. No one can be indifferent in the face of money. But if a relationship is in dispute over money, it is often difficult to return to the original state.
There was a time when a phrase was popular among friends: Don't mention money to me.
Yes, don't mention money, we are still good friends, good buddies, but when it comes to money, maybe the boat of friendship will tip over.
For example, there are two very good friends, because one person borrows money and does not pay it back, and the other is annoyed and simply moves, so the friendship that was originally very good almost killed, one was injured, one went in, and it became a tragic ending.
If there is no reason for this, the relationship between the two people is like a brother in the eyes of the people around them, but because of this matter, it also makes people understand that not all relationships can be solidified into an iron wall.
★ Do not inquire into private matters
No matter how good a friend is, don't inquire into other people's private affairs. This is actually a bottom line.
If others are willing to let you know, you will know sooner or later; if others are not willing to let you know, you will not know no matter how much you inquire.
Moreover, people who like to inquire into the privacy of others will not get the likes of others. Even if you are the best friend, there will be people who are wary. After all, the human heart is the most unreliable.
Today may be the best girlfriend, tomorrow may sell you. Such examples are not only found in TV dramas, but there is no shortage of such examples in life. It is said that art comes from life, and it is precisely because there are such real things happening in life that the screenwriter will move it to art to show it.
So, if you want a long-term relationship, it's best not to inquire into other people's private affairs.
★ Don't think about gains and losses
Whether it is between relatives or friends, since they are together, they cannot think too much.
If two people are too calculating together, the relationship is often not long-lasting, because no one wants to live in the calculation.
For example, there is a person who, when dealing with others, always likes to divide things too clearly. For example, when a party between friends, if he pays this time, then he will definitely not pay again next time, and even he will compare the amount of money he has used twice, if he thinks that he has more money, the next time, he will still not take the initiative to pay.
Or, two people go out to travel, say good AA system, then he will definitely calculate the money to the fraction of the difference, if the friend takes advantage, he will also go to get it back.
Such a calculating personality made him quickly lose friends, because no one wanted to associate with such a person.
Therefore, in the social relationship between people, it is not easy to maintain a long-term relationship. Sometimes, eating some losses yourself can win the love and trust of others. It is said that a loss is a blessing, or it seems to be a loss, but in fact, it is a blessing for oneself.
In any case, many relationships between people are very delicate and sensitive, and if you want to maintain a long-term and stable relationship, you also need a certain amount of wisdom.