Write the warmest words, heal the lonely heart, pay attention to me, and warm you.
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In the old age, people still have to rely on their own pension.
Don't pin your hopes on others, stand up on your own. Whether it is family affection, friendship, or love, it requires an independent personality and independent thinking, which is the most basic ability of being an adult.
Never overestimate your relationship with anyone, the things that are cool under the tree are not suitable for everyone and not everyone can meet, you have to try to turn yourself into a big tree and shield yourself from the wind and rain.
There are many people in life who are over fifty years old, do not believe in themselves, always pin their hopes on others, thinking that others will give him a stable life, such as counting on children, relying on relatives, and asking for help from friends.
In fact, the mountain will fall, rely on everyone will run, rely on parents will grow old, rely on others, it is better to rely on yourself. Over fifty people, don't give too much hope to these three people.
[1] Do not overestimate the relationship with colleagues.
In a relationship, if we feel extremely disappointed in someone else because of something, the reason is that we overestimate our place in the hearts of others.
Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone, at a certain age, you have to learn to give yourself an umbrella.
Sometimes you will feel that you have a good relationship with this colleague, and some things please ask him, but once or twice it is fine, if the number of times is more, even if he has a good relationship with you, people will be disgusted.
Because the so-called friendship between colleagues is based on mutual needs, most of this friendship is short-lived, unstable, and difficult to deepen. Over fifty people, don't put too much hope in this colleague.
[2] Do not expect to retire for your children.
In real life, there are many children who do not provide for the elderly.
Some are not filial piety, and some are children who are under too much financial pressure, and their own small lives are not good, and they have no time to take care of their parents.
The problem of old-age care has always been a problem of more concern, because each of us has the day of old age, and we need to face the old-age care. People who come here should know: never expect to raise children to prevent old age, otherwise the old age will be very bleak.
No one is as good as themselves, and it is better to rely on anyone than on themselves. And the children who have not shown up may also become the old people, but reach out to their parents. Don't expect your children to give you a pension, you work hard when you are young, and when you are old, you can rely on yourself.
[3] Don't be too sentimental with your loved ones.
Don't test the human heart, it cannot stand the test.
The most hurtful thing in this world is that you treat others as a treasure, while others only use you as a grass. Sometimes you will find that the so-called relatives are cooler than those strangers.
People who are not related by blood, just treat you as a family, don't expect relatives. Especially after the age of fifty, those relatives should not be too counted on, and you may only get disappointment.
So, never overestimate your relationship with anyone. Otherwise, the greater the expectation, the greater the final disappointment. For the rest of your life, things that you can solve on your own, don't bother your loved ones.
Wheat message: People over fifty, don't be too sentimental.
On the road of life, there will always be ups and downs, even if there is no one to hold an umbrella, we must strive to move forward.
In life, we often hear some parents complaining to their children, snotting and tearing about how difficult their lives are.
On the road to life, there are no shoulders for you to rely on. What we fight is to put in a few more efforts than others. If a person wants to achieve happiness, he should not pin his hopes on others, but should achieve it through his own efforts.
Life is like a road, and the footsteps are tired and do not tire themselves to understand. A truly powerful person does not say tired, does not speak bitterly, but just learns to calm down in adversity, pain without words, laughter without words.
Because real life is like this, if you are strong, it is weak! After surviving suffering, you can get a new life, but if you don't survive this time, you will be defeated by life.
People over fifty, I hope that we can all have enough earning power, grasp the initiative in life, firmly grasp the sense of security in their own hands, and live in peace and stability in their old age.
A girl who likes words, I am glad to meet you in my words, and I am willing to use the warmest brushstrokes to accompany you to live your life into poetry.