Once upon a time, everyone was always surrounded by many friends.
There are often people who chat with themselves, go shopping with themselves, and accompany themselves to do what they want to do.
When we are more intimate with some people, at that time, we always think that this relationship between each other must be maintained for a long time, and each other's friendship must be long-lasting, even more solid than love.
However, as we grow older, we will slowly find that, unconsciously, there seems to be no one left around us.
Those who have good relationships, if they are not careful, have not been in contact for a long time, and they no longer have the desire to contact. Whenever we want to find someone to talk to, go through the address book, and we can't find such a person.
Our friends began to become fewer and fewer, and even said that we began to become a person without friends, and in our world, there was not even a friend.
Such a truth, it is indeed a bit heartfelt, but it is actually just very common.
Busy with their own lives, neglecting to communicate.
In their teens and twenties, most people are just alone.
At that time, I didn't have so much responsibility on my shoulders, and all I needed to do was be responsible for myself.
It is precisely because of this that we will have a lot of time and time, we can make friends with some people, and we can do some things with many people, and we can live more freely.
We will all have that time, that age, but we can't always be like this, and gradually, as we grow up, we will fall in love and marry a person.
Not only will we be like this, but our friends will have the same destiny as us.
Once you start to get married, everyone is the same, you need to earn money to support your family, to be responsible for your family, you also need to be responsible for your own partner, you also need to take care of both parents, and you need to raise each other's children with your heart.
In this case, we will no longer have so much energy to contact our former friends, and we will not have so much time to be with our friends, and each other will only be busy with their own affairs, which is already a special mess.
Busy with each other, there will be no longer the same leisure as before, will always be unable to share their lives with each other, always forget to contact each other, so that it is easy, the relationship will fade, each other will gradually drift apart.
Circumstances become different and automatically alienated.
At a certain time, two people can become friends, and in general, the conditions of each other, or rather each other's circumstances, and each other's thoughts, are mostly relatively similar.
Because it is more similar, it can really be compatible, and no one will envy anyone, so they can get along without incident.
However, even if they are more similar to each other in a certain period of time, in the years to come, they may not always be like this, and the gap between them may become larger and larger as they walk.
When one person grows and becomes better and better, and the other person just stays in the same place all the time, or even regresses all the time, the two people who have been comparing the same frequency will really start to become very different.
What they think and think about each other will be very different, and the things that they need to face every day will also be the opposite.
As the gap between them grows, the difference becomes more and more obvious, and naturally, they will no longer want to contact each other, but will only be willing to become friends with people who are more similar to themselves at the moment.
Two people with different circles are really difficult to integrate, even if they don't mind, but they will still be uncomfortable getting along.
Instead of having to force yourself and continue to maintain a relationship with the other party, it would be better to simply choose to end it tacitly, not to be too intimate, and not to have much contact.
Cognitive changes are no longer so urgent.
When we are young, we may feel that friends are an important part of life and indispensable.
After a certain age, we have seen too many true and false, experienced too much human affection, in our hearts, we really will no longer feel who we must be with, and how important friends really are.
We will never again be like before, always very much want to be able to have friendships, only to appear more Buddhist.
If someone really treats us, we will feel very good, we will cherish it, and if not, no matter who chooses to leave, we will not be too sad, we will only choose to accept.
Anyway, there are always some roads, you can only go by yourself, and no one can replace us, there are always some moods, only we will understand, and no one can really empathize.
Originally, loneliness, that is just a normal state of life, is what everyone needs to face and digest.
That being the case, when many people choose to leave, it is indeed gratifying that there are still people who choose to stay, and even if they don't, it is not a big deal, we are still us, and the days will continue.
The further we go forward, the more we will no longer demand too many things, and the more our hearts will become more transparent.
There are fewer and fewer friends, which is no big deal, it's a very normal thing.
In life, in fact, we don't need so many friends.
There are too many people, and there are always many people to deal with, which is never a good thing, it will only delay your own time, and it is just a completely useless and useless social network.
Superficial relationships, we really don't have to have too much, there is no need to always deal with.
Many people are not worthy of the word friend at all, along the way, no matter who we lose, we don't have to think too much.
Fewer and fewer people remain, but these few people are also becoming more and more important.
In a lifetime, friends never need to be many, and it is enough to have one or two people. There are one or two people, just cherish it, no, then let yourself become your most intimate friend.
Text/Tan Meng
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