There is a saying on the Internet: "Parents are causes, children are effects, what causes are planted, what results are obtained." ”
If you have planted good causes, become qualified parents, do your best to raise and educate your children, give them the care, care, teaching, encouragement and companionship necessary for their children's growth path, practice what they preach, and lead by example, often the children you will raise will not be too bad. The love of the original family can heal a person's life.
Children who grow up under the care of their parents will also respect their parents from the bottom of their hearts, and are willing to do their best to honor their parents, so that their parents can support themselves and be proud of themselves, and fully realize the love between parents and children.
If you have planted evil causes, your parents are unqualified, not only have you not fulfilled your obligations, but you have also let the original family become a scar in the hearts of your children, then if you have evil consequences and have children who are unwilling to honor you, it is also your self-inflicted suffering.
Those parents who are irresponsible and who, after getting old, but muttering "I am your father (mother), after giving birth to you and raising you, you must honor me", have you noticed that the two words father is filial piety and filial piety, and the word father is in front of filial piety?
There are parents before there are children, there are old and then there are young, parents are not loving, what qualifications do you have to ask children to be filial piety?
Just as there is a saying in the "Yan Family Training": those who are husbands are weathered, those who walk from the top to the bottom are also, and those who are first and give to the latter are also. If the father is not kind, the son is not filial, the brother is not friendly, the brother is not respectful, and if the husband is unrighteous, the woman is not smooth.
"Are you really going to get to this point?" We have been married for 35 years, experienced so many ups and downs, and divorced like this, how can you bear it? ”
"I said, as long as you agree to my request, send your parents away, and make a request for a pension with your parents and brother, I can consider continuing to live."
"That's my parents, how can I open my mouth to drive them away?" Don't you see that my parents are already mad at you? Do you understand filial piety? They gave birth to me and raised me, and it was my duty to give them a pension. ”
"It's you who should, not me, what I should honor is my parents, it's useless to say more, none of us can convince anyone, only suitable for parting ways." 」 If you repent, then I will have to go to court with you, and don't forget, the children also support me. ”
Without waiting for her husband to continue to pull any big reason for herself, Aunt Xu hung up the phone, she had already made up her mind to end her marriage.
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Aunt Xu is 58 years old this year, married to her husband at the age of 23, married for 35 years, has a son and a daughter, a day husband and wife, not to mention 35 years?
If there is a choice, Aunt Xu does not want to go to this step, but the in-laws' eccentric eyes and the selfishness of the little uncle have made Aunt Xu hold a stomach, while the husband is not clear, the help of relatives is not helpful, only know that for the sake of parents, never take the feelings of Sister Xu and her children seriously, completely crushing Sister Xu's marriage.
"I really don't understand, they are all my own flesh and bones, how can my in-laws achieve such eccentricity?" I added a grandchild and a granddaughter to them, but they didn't ask, didn't serve me to confinement, didn't help me with the baby, how did I get here in those days, did my husband forget? ”
Thinking of no one to take care of her during the second confinement, both to take care of the children and work, and to fall ill with a confinement, Sister Xu was angry and wanted to scold herself for being soft-hearted, and she should not have agreed to let her in-laws move in.
The in-laws help the little uncle with the baby, help them do housework, so that the little uncle and the couple can work hard with peace of mind, stay for 15 years, only to return to their hometown for a few years, until 9 years ago, the mother-in-law fell down, causing old diseases, self-care ability declined, and began to ask their sons to support them.
"I thought they would go back to the little uncle's house and live with the little uncle's family, and we would have to pay some alimony at most, but the in-laws were fine, come to my house first, and they also knew that I did not welcome them, so my husband took advantage of the time I went to see my daughter to help them move in, and directly occupied my daughter's room." 」
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Originally, Aunt Xu wanted to lose her temper and want to drive her in-laws away, but after all, she was her husband's parents, and she was not good at directly turning her face and being ruthless.
"He probably felt that he was wrong, and did not dare to ask me to serve his parents and circle around his parents." Then I'm tired too! I would have only had to cook meals for two people, and now I need to cook for 4 people. I only needed to wash two people's clothes, now I need to wash four people, and my daughter has to squeeze into a room with us when she returns to her mother's house. The two of them did nothing, and there was a lot of taboos and precautions, which made my head grow bigger. ”
Moreover, the in-laws are older, frail and sickly, often sick and hospitalized, and need to be cared for. Let her husband work during the day and wait for the patient at night, it is too tiring, Aunt Xu can't help it, so she has to help take care of it together.
"The in-laws' living expenses are from us, the money for medical treatment and medicine is from us, and even the money for buying clothes and so on is from us." My in-laws have a pension and a savings, but they are never willing to pay a penny. I complained to my husband, who said that he would beat their savings without his parents and would not let me ask. ”
As for the little uncle's family, the alimony is given, sometimes it is 1000 a month, sometimes it is seven or eight hundred, send something every New Year's Festival, during this 9-year period, the little uncle came 11 times, the sister-in-law came five times, the little uncle's son came 13 times, and the rest of the time it was Aunt Xu's family of 3 taking care of the old two.
Originally, the in-laws did not leave at home for nine years, which had made Aunt Xu feel dissatisfied, but she did not know how to ask them to go to the little uncle's house, some time ago, the mother-in-law also did something, which completely angered Aunt Xu and made Aunt Xu make up her mind to get rid of them.
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Half a month ago, the little uncle's family came to Aunt Xu's house in a neat and tidy manner, visited the in-laws, and also brought the grandson of the little uncle who had just been born not long ago, that is, the great-grandson of the mother-in-law, which made the mother-in-law feel happy.
After sitting for a while, the little uncle's family made it clear that the niece and daughter-in-law wanted to change to a larger house, but there was not enough money in hand, and they hoped that their parents would help them.
"My in-laws said that they didn't need to spend money anyway, just as a meet and greet gift for their little great-grandchildren, stuffed a card for them, there were 200,000 in it, it was all their savings, and when I heard this, I was angry."
The younger son got 200,000 yuan by mouth, and Aunt Xu rushed out and asked her in-laws: "What does it mean that you don't need to spend money?" Oh yes, you've been in my house for nine years, spending all our husband and wife's money, and you're going to live here until you die, so let's raise you, right? ”
"They can get 200,000 by mouth, we serve you for 9 years, we can't get anything, why?" It's really thankless. ”
"Mommy and Daddy, I really haven't seen parents who are more eccentric than you." He can stand it, I can't stand it, from now on, pension AA! You have lived in my house for 9 years, and you have lived with them for nine years, and it is only fair to study what to do in the remaining days, and as for this money, who you love to give to whom, I am not greedy. ”
Listening to Aunt Xu's words, the in-laws and the little uncle's family of 4 scolded Aunt Xu in unison, and the messy hats of filial piety, shrew, iron rooster, and unvirtuous were buttoned up. After Aunt Xu's husband saw it, he pulled Aunt Xu to make her apologize, until Aunt Xu's sentence "Divorce, you go with your parents, I'll go alone" to make everyone quiet.
"He thought I was scaring him, but I had made up my mind, I gave him one last chance, he still didn't cherish it, then, our husband and wife relationship is over." When my children found out, they also supported our divorce. ”
Now, Aunt Xu lives outside alone and refuses to see her husband, and as for the phone calls from relatives of her in-laws' family, she is too lazy to answer.
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Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "Two people together for happiness, breaking up is to alleviate pain, you can no longer make me happy, I can only leave, when I leave, it is also very painful, but you must be more painful than me, because I first say goodbye, the first to pursue happiness is me." 」 ”
If you are with him, you can only feel disappointment and pain, and you can't feel happiness, which means that he is no longer suitable for you, and your marital love has been exhausted.
Since it is more painful to have him, and you can get happiness without him, then, this feeling is nothing to be nostalgic about. In life, we must learn to satisfy ourselves, not to please others.
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