Talk: Li Lin
Author: Drifting Ping
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01
"Li Lei, your father and your mother are like this, they are annoying people!" Seeing that my husband had just entered the door after work, I rushed over to complain.
"What's up again?" Li Lei frowned when he heard it.
I started thinking again, "Why is your father so self-aware?" The broken gong's voice was ugly and dead, and he sang the old "Red Lantern" all day long, so noisy that I couldn't calm down and make documents. And your mother, every day is long-winded, repeated are those few sentences: go out and remember to turn off the lights, the faucet opens a small point, the toilet paper does not drag too long... My ears are cocooned! Water bills, electricity, toilet paper money and not let her pay, she is not a police officer in the Pacific - wide management? ......”
Li Lei sighed and said, "It's all trivial things, are you so angry?" Mom and Dad are natives of the countryside, living habits, ideological concepts and you have a generation gap is normal, you can't understand and tolerate it? Besides, my parents live with my big brother all year round, and it's only been a few days since I came? You hate them like this, a little too much! ”
My husband actually accused me, and I was immediately angry: "I am excessive? Excessive is your mom and dad! Your father sang Peking Opera every day, deliberately not to let me be quiet; your mother kept nagging, clearly criticizing me for not being frugal in my life. You don't talk about them, but accuse me, this day can't be lived! I'll go back to my mother's house! ”
I yelled, and then I picked up my things. After marriage, as long as Li Lei slightly disagreed with my wishes, I used this killer to blackmail him, and I tried it again and again.
But this time, to my surprise, he actually said without anger: "Whatever you want!" Unreasonable! ”
In order to escape my nagging, Li Lei also threw the door out.
I feel like it's hard to ride a tiger. Just for this little thing to go back to my mother's house, my mother should criticize me for being too pretentious. If you don't go back, I'm afraid that Li Lei will kick his nose even more.
I was struggling, but I saw my mother-in-law come out of the room, still carrying the travel bag she had brought with her. The old lady looked dejected and said, "Xiao Yun, don't gamble with Li Lei." They all complained about our old two, so we went back to our hometown. "Obviously. All my complaints about Li Lei just now were heard by my in-laws.
I was momentarily overwhelmed and watched the two old men walk out. In fact, I just wanted the old couple to get rid of the problems that annoyed me, and I didn't mean to drive them away.
I was a little annoyed: when Li Lei returned, he would definitely misunderstand that it was my "evil daughter-in-law" who drove away his parents. I jumped into the Yellow River and couldn't wash it!
Not long after, Li Lei returned. When he found out that his parents had left, he was very angry: "You have gone too far!" My parents are gone, you are satisfied! ”
I don't want to be weak: "I didn't drive them away, they wanted to leave on their own, what is the matter with me?" Don't stare at your bull's eye to scare me, do you have the ability to beat me? ”
Li Lei's lips were so angry that he clenched his fists. But he still restrained his anger and turned around and rushed out of the house again.
I noticed Li Lei's subtle expression and movements just now, and the anger in my heart became even greater. This guy, for his parents actually wanted to mess with me, really ate the bear's heart leopard bile.
02
Before, Li Lei was not like this, and at that time, he was simply obedient to me.
I love to be affectionate, sesame green beans will be put on the heart, and I can't move to crush his thoughts next to his ears. Every time my complaint works, Li Lei will definitely do what I want.
Li Lei once said generously that in the world of two people, women play a little sex from time to time without harm, but can increase the interest of life. Moreover, he is a man, he should have a wide belly, how can he worry about his wife?
I've always been thankful to have such a pampered husband. But now, Li Lei is furious with me for the departure of his parents, which makes my heart very angry.
Who knows what's yet to come!
Because of the departure of his parents, Li Lei has always been grumpy and his attitude towards me has become even more cold. At the dinner table, he always said nothing, and even slept with his back to me at night.
I was depressed and dead. In fact, I am not a harsh and mean daughter-in-law, just a little princess disease. I thought that if I complained about his parents in front of Li Lei, he would help me talk about the old couple. Who knew that not only did he "force" his in-laws to leave and he was accused of being an "evil daughter-in-law", but he also made the relationship between me and Li Lei increasingly tense. It's self-defeating.
The fire in my heart, coupled with the fact that Li Lei has a black face every day as soon as he enters the door, makes me even more full of resentment. So he chattered at him: "When you chased me like a licking dog, you didn't know how to cherish it when you got it." You're a hypocrite! He also pulled a stinky face in front of me all day, as if I owed you millions of old debts. I warn you, don't kick your nose in the face..."
Li Lei was overwhelmed, but he didn't bother to reason with me. I complained when I ate, he simply didn't eat at home; when I slept nagging, he would go to sleep on the couch and even hide out to sleep at a friend's house.
One day, because I counted him down at noon for a little thing, he simply did not come back to dinner at night, and did not answer his phone. I was distressed, and accidentally saw the circle of friends and location display sent by one of his buddies on my mobile phone, and only then did I know that he and a few friends were eating and drinking at xx hotels!
I immediately rushed to his "crime scene" with great momentum, opened my mouth to complain and condemn him, and scolded him without saying a word, "Drink, drink, drink!" You'd better drink to death, and I'll be relieved!" His two friends were first surprised, and then embarrassed to let Li Lei hurry home. Li Lei blushed and reprimanded me: "Uncultured! Hurry home, don't be embarrassed here! "But I didn't spare him, and I still quarreled with him.
He yelled indignantly, "I've had enough! I don't want to pay any more attention to you, a narrow-minded, complaining woman who complains all day! Tomorrow we will divorce! ”
This sentence was like a thunder on the ground, and I was stunned at once!
03
Li Lei roared and left in anger. I was stunned for half a minute, and the anger in my heart turned into anxiety. Although I have a lot of dissatisfaction with Li Lei, divorce is not the result I want. I rode the tram for a while, and finally decided to find my girlfriend FangFang, because they have always been married and loving, and I think she must be "a master".
When FangFang listened to the various contradictions between me and Li Lei during this time, as well as tonight's turmoil, she said solemnly: "In fact, the two of you have made this step, mainly because you usually love to complain too much, and there are improper handling of things."
For example, if your father-in-law loves to sing Beijing opera and your mother-in-law loves to nag, you can communicate with your in-laws in a euphemistic way, and they will definitely change consciously. But you, making a big fuss, always complaining in front of Li Lei. Not only did it not solve the problem, but it also made Li Lei resent you because of his parents' departure. Speaking of tonight's incident, in front of his friend, you argue and scold him, so that he can't get off the stage, who is not angry?
You know, no matter how much a man loves you, no matter how tolerant and generous, he also has a bottom line and dignity. In the two-person world, he can tolerate your brutality and willfulness, but when dealing with family relations, he can't stand you attacking his parents and family. In front of his colleagues and friends, he can't stand you scratching his face..."
I listened silently to Fang Fang's words and was very touched. I recalled the various contradictions with Li Lei in the past, and found that too many were trivial things. But at that time, I was always self-centered, complaining endlessly in his ear. This has led to more and more grievances and deeper contradictions.
Especially tonight, I did go too far. That's why he filed for divorce in anger. But I think that may just be his angry words. If I am willing to put down my body and confess my mistake to him, his anger will definitely subside.
Thinking of this, I rushed home, ready to sincerely review li Lei and conduct in-depth communication.
As soon as I entered the door, I saw Li Lei sitting on the sofa smoking a cigarette. I hesitated for a while, and finally plucked up the courage to say: "Li Lei, tonight's matter, I did a little too much, should not just care about my own anger, do not choose words, let you lose face in front of your friends..."
Li Lei looked at me with surprise, and then said with a look of shame: "I was also reflecting just now, in fact, I am also responsible, this time I always gamble with you, but I don't know how to communicate with you well, so I have a lot of resentment." ”
My nose was sour, and I was moved to tears, and then I said sincerely: "I finally understand now: if a woman wants to be happy in marriage, she must be open-minded and not be a resentful woman." In the future, I will definitely get rid of the problem of narrow-mindedness and complaining. Also, when the farmers are idle in winter, we will go to our hometown together to take our parents to live for a long time..."
Li Lei listened to my words, and tears of excitement swirled in his eyes. Immediately, he stretched out his arms and embraced me.