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As a woman, she may swallow the grievances in her marriage and silently bear the eyes of her in-laws.
But as a mother, it is difficult to accept that the child is despised and bullied by the in-laws.
The heroine in the next case, because of the mother-in-law's idea of preferring sons to daughters, finally tore her face with her in-laws.
Since Zhang Jie gave birth to her daughter, her status in the in-laws' family has plummeted.
Her own conditions are much richer than her husband's family, her parents work in government offices, and she is also responsive to the needs of this only daughter.
And the husband Song Ruifeng's family situation is not very good, not only has an older brother above, his parents are also in the countryside, and he has no pension after retirement.
Due to the economic disparity between the two families, Zhang Jie's parents were originally opposed to this family affair.
However, he could not resist his daughter's insistence, coupled with Song Ruifeng's efforts to be admitted to the civil service, so he relaxed.
The man's conditions could not afford the wedding car, so Zhang Jie's parents took a down payment of 800,000 yuan and bought a set of marriage houses for them to live in.
Less than three months after the marriage, the old couple bought a scooter for their distressed daughter.
At this point, Song Ruifeng, a young man from the countryside, lived a city life with a car and a house.
His rural parents were also overjoyed, and everyone said that his son was blessed and found an only daughter of a cadre's family.
When Zhang Jie returned to her mother's house for the first time after marriage, it also caused quite a stir.
The in-laws not only personally greeted the village entrance, but also bought a few firecrackers to make a lot of noise.
At the banquet in the countryside, he praised his daughter-in-law, and Zhang Jie's small face was red.
In her hometown, she also met Song Ruifeng's eldest brother for the first time. The eldest brother married early in the countryside and gave birth to a son last year.
Zhang Jie looked at the baby of the eldest brother's family, and took two thousand yuan to wrap the red envelope for the baby, expressing her intention to be an aunt.
This time she returned to the city less than three days later, although the in-laws and the family were very enthusiastic, but the noise gave her a headache.
After a few months of the quiet days, I always received calls from my mother-in-law.
The phone call was all about one thing, and that was urging them to have a baby early.
The mother-in-law always said that Song Ruifeng was not small, and he was a civil servant in the city, and he had to hold a son early to be successful.
After a year of hard work, Zhang Jie and her husband finally conceived a child and reported good news to their mother-in-law for the first time.
After the old lady heard that Zhang Jie was pregnant with a child, her first words were to ask whether it was a man or a woman.
Song Ruifeng had to smile on the phone and said, "Mom, you see you are in too much of a hurry." This hospital ah now do not show men and women, not to mention not all the same, are our family's treasures. ”
The old lady happily echoed on the phone, and then collected a basket of stupid eggs in her hometown and took a car to her son's house.
Song Ruifeng, who was off work, was stunned when he saw his mother sitting in the doorway wearing a headscarf.
The old lady said unhurriedly, "I'll take care of Zhang Jie, if you have time to cook at work, you can't lose my grandson's mouth!"
In the following months, Zhang Jie received meticulous care from her mother-in-law, and even her pajamas were cut twice.
The mother-in-law likes to stare at her daughter-in-law's belly after dinner, and while looking at it, she also says that this shape must be a child.
Zhang Jie is often giggled by her mother-in-law, and the two mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along at home.
Even Zhang Jie's mother-in-law said that she was really blessed, and she put on such a mother-in-law who knew cold and knew heat, and also told her to be filial to her mother-in-law in the future.
Zhang Jie is not a person who does not understand gratitude, and is ready to buy a big gold bracelet for her mother-in-law after the birth of the child.
But she really did not expect that such a considerate mother-in-law would become an enemy with her in the future.
All changes come from after giving birth to a child.
On the day of the birth, the old lady was anxious like an ant on a hot pot, forcing Song Ruifeng to keep comforting her mother.
Finally, when the nurse picked out a girl, the old lady's face suddenly became unnatural.
He also looked into the delivery room and said, "Is it a mistake, I am clearly a boy." ”
Song Ruifeng was afraid that his wife would not be happy, so he quickly pulled his mother away, and said that men and women are the same, and he likes them.
The old lady sat on a chair in the corridor with a blank expression on her face, and finally looked at her daughter-in-law and went home to cook.
Zhang Jie ate some of her mother-in-law's meal in the evening, only a little bit of pork dumplings left and a little green vegetables.
She had just finished giving birth and was still a little aggrieved, but her mother-in-law's strange appearance made her dare not complain.
Sure enough, during the confinement period, the mother-in-law took care of it very perfunctorily, and from time to time advised Zhang Jie to have another son next year and make a good word.
Seeing that Zhang Jie had not agreed, she packed up her things and returned to her hometown in less than three months.
Now that she knew that her mother-in-law preferred sons to daughters, Zhang Jie did not buy a large gold bracelet for her mother-in-law, but only wrapped a red envelope of three thousand yuan.
Later, the mother-in-law rarely came to her house, let alone meet her only granddaughter.
And Zhang Jie does not care that the in-laws do not pay attention to their daughters, they only feel that their daughters are in pain, and she is still comfortable with less contact.
Only occasionally in the New Year to meet with the in-laws' relatives, watching her daughter be snubbed, she did not get upset with the in-laws, after all, she saw once or twice a year.
It's just that after my daughter went to kindergarten, she preferred to go to the countryside to play during the summer vacation.
So this summer vacation, Zhang Jie sent her daughter to her mother-in-law's house early, and she can also work with peace of mind.
When Na Cheng wanted to pick it up two months later, her daughter's personality became cringe and shrinking, and there were some shallow scars on her arms and legs.
She immediately asked her daughter what was wrong, and the mother-in-law quickly said that it was a child playing with mud.
But as soon as the old lady left, the daughter said that it was the grandmother and grandfather who hit it, and Zhang Jie was scared and asked if it was really fake.
The daughter also said that she grabbed a toy with her cousin, and when grandma saw it, she would knock her arm with a small branch.
Looking at her daughter's cute little meat arm, she had a fight with her husband that night, and almost rushed back to her hometown to find her in-laws to settle the account.
The matter was later calmed down by her husband, but Zhang Jie held a grudge in her heart and never wanted to interact with her in-laws again.
The husband, who had no eyesight to see, also took his parents who wanted to retire to the home.
Zhang Jie watched her husband take her in-laws to the door of the house first, and remembered that they had treated their daughters badly, and immediately drove away the in-laws who did not enter the door.
The husband naturally intervened to stop it, and Zhang Jie, who was unwilling, drove away with her husband, and said indignantly: "Who let you dare to beat my daughter, roll!" This is a house that my parents paid for!"
Although the next two children are not divorced, Zhang Jie no longer wants to see her in-laws' faces...
The mother-in-law in the case finally completely offended the daughter-in-law in the city because of excessive preference for sons and daughters.
This tells us that relatives should not only get along harmoniously with each other, but also keep the following two things in mind.
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One: In marriage, women must retain confidence for themselves.
Marriage is not a safe haven for all women, so learn to take up arms for your own protection.
Sometimes the financial support of the mother's family and decent work can be the confidence of a woman in the in-laws' house.
Only when you have the strength and ability to make all the disadvantages disappear.
If the heroine in the case does not have a marriage house bought by her mother-in-law, she naturally cannot turn away her in-laws.
Therefore, if you want to stand up in your in-laws' house, you must have capital, and it tells us that women must retain their confidence in marriage.
At least when suffering from harsh treatment and injustice, you can still defend the sovereignty of marriage without fear of the storm.
Therefore, every girl who enters the family must recognize the reality and improve and save her chips.
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Second: In family relationships, some rifts are often more difficult to repair once they appear.
Every conflict and contradiction in the family will leave traces.
Therefore, in daily life, do not do things that damage the feelings of both parties.
In the case, the mother-in-law's behavior of looking down on her granddaughter not only damaged the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also destroyed the friendship between grandchildren and grandchildren.
If you want to be virtuous and filial to your children, then those who are elders must lead by example and have a magnanimous temperament.
If you stare at the little mistakes of your children and worry about them, then the harmony and affection in the family will also fade away little by little in consumption.
Finally, if there is a direct family conflict, then even if it is reconciled in the future, there will be such a scar.
Don't let each other's emotions be consumed in the middle of nowhere, let alone let the affection of the family be broken.
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I think every woman, in the beginning, wants to get along with her mother-in-law.
It's just that in bits and pieces, the hearts of the in-laws are getting farther and farther away.
In the end, I used all my strength and finally became the last thing I wanted to see.
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