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People in the workplace, trying to get a good position, get more salary. To this end, it is necessary to fight with each other and do whatever it takes. As long as you have reached your goal, you can talk about masturbation.
When we leave the workplace, we understand that the struggle is empty. No matter how high the position, sooner or later it is someone else's, how can it always let someone dominate the seat?
When it comes to money, you'll also look down on it. After all, it's just something outside the body.
Cao Xueqin, a writer of the Qing Dynasty, said: "Everyone in the world knows that the gods and immortals are good, but they cannot forget their meritorious names." ”
When we have faded the aura above our heads, we still remember it, that is, we are cocooning ourselves; only by forcing ourselves to forget can we be indifferent and light.
What is success?
As a commentary in "China on the Tip of the Tongue": "Half a life of wandering, bringing a rich family business, children and grandchildren, walking the footsteps of a lifetime, starting point, end point, in the final analysis is the place where home is..."
To be a person, we must be able to go up and down, and calmly move forward and backward. Having a decent home, better than anything.
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Running away for half a lifetime, I only want to have a hometown to rely on and a home to return to.
For a job, we walked into a foreign land, rooted in the flow of people, like a leaf of duckweed, and a large piece of duckweed crowded together, clearly very lively, but never rooted.
In order to love someone, spend half your life savings and cross the ocean to meet. Then build a small home in the city that the other person likes.
I like a city, not because the city is good, but because there are families in the city, and the people I love the most, and I can make no more and no less money.
There is a saying that no matter how good a foreign land is, it cannot tolerate a soul; no matter how good a hometown is, it cannot tolerate a body. Life is always very contradictory, always forcing you to "choose", some choices, in fact, there is no choice.
Retirement is different. You can go anywhere, retire, put down roots. Therefore, we always have to go back to our hometown, stay for a few days, or stay permanently.
You can also take the familiar "foreign land" as your hometown and settle down with the encounter.
There is a story of a "mother's house" in the novel "Skin Bag".
A young woman, and a very poor man, just took one look and walked into marriage. The man said, "I'll build a big house." ”
After marriage, the man borrowed a lot of money and built a house of more than a hundred square meters. In order to pay off the debt, the man went to work as a seaman and made a large sum of money. He decided to build another house, the tall one.
"The sky is unpredictable", when men are doing business, they lose their old roots and have since become muddy. The mother took her father's "wish", borrowed money, and continued to build the slate house until it was completed.
A few years later, the children grew up and went to faraway places. But in the hearts of children, there is always a house – a home to return to.
The house is not as simple as a residence, but carries love, family affection, spiritual sustenance, and the return of life.
Say goodbye to the unit, you can still find the way home, then all your efforts, are worth it. When it comes to coming home, you let go of yourself.
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Fiercely make money, only for family harmony, blood and blood.
Why is the workplace so bitter that you have survived? Not because you like to suffer, but because you have to take on the responsibility of "supporting your family."
With a home, you are no longer in a state of "eating for a day, the whole family is not hungry". At your side, there are also a few people who rely on you. Children have to study, and elderly parents need someone to support them. And the lover, waiting for your safe return.
You are helpless, but you have to go home with a smile and give your family more positive energy. The grievances in the unit must be put away.
Writer Xu Fuyuan wrote a story: the third grandmother lived in the old house, two sons went out to work and did not come back for many years; a daughter married in the village and undertook the task of old-age care.
Later, the town included the old house in the scope of demolition. The two sons quickly returned home and complained in front of the three grandmothers every day, just wanting to get more demolition money.
Then, the three brothers and sisters quarreled and went to court. Grandma Three was so angry that she got sick...
How many families, because of money, brothers and sisters turn against each other, parents and children cut off relations. Blood affection, in the face of money, becomes worthless.
If you are an old man, how can you live in a noisy family? I am afraid that it is better to walk alone and count one day at a time.
If money is not used to support the family, but becomes the source of "quarrels", it is better to live a poor life and empty hands.
Retired, we have no worries, and some savings. The days are very happy, but the children do not fight, the husband and wife are not harmonious, and the days are difficult. If you use the pension to nibble on the children, it will be chilling.
Money can nourish children; a kind environment can make everyone make more money, which is real success.
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People are old and yellow, and they only want to protect their homeland and their children are safe.
The host Ni Ping wrote such a scene in the "Quotations of Grandma": On the grass house of the family, there are a lot of mother-in-law Ding, and Grandpa tries his best to climb up and clean up the mother-in-law.
Grandma said, "My heart is crazy." ”
During the meal, Grandpa said, "I have the ability to call your brother-in-law back to eat..."
Hey, when people are old, they don't talk about themselves every day, but their children and relatives.
Some seemingly irrational things are actually because I miss them to the extreme, and I can't even control myself.
For example, a few days before the holiday, the old man and his children talked on the phone and knew that their children were coming back for the holiday. As a result, I was preparing meals every day, and every once in a while I would go to the intersection to look around, worried about missing the opportunity of "pick-up".
Perhaps, the children said not to go home for the holidays. But the old man is still waiting at the intersection, really "not dead hearted".
Retirement, the really good day, is not to eat and drink enough, but often have a reunion dinner. It doesn't matter if you are tired or bitter, as long as you watch your children happy and your grandchildren grow up healthily, you feel that you are a "great person".
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I like this passage very much: "Home, where life begins, people's lives are on the way home." In the small house, we made a fire to cook, quarreled, and comforted each other..."
Once, we liked to fight for the world and brave the end of the world; now, we only fight for the day, looking forward to every reunion, and worrying about every parting... I also feel the joy of reunion after a long absence.
Retired, home, idle, busy, alive, loved, blessed.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.