In addition to not listening to the wind and rain, and talking about a series of things that are not conducive to the harmony of the family, thereby negatively affecting the relationship between the relatives, it is also necessary to avoid some important things.
First, don't criticize each other's children
It is rare to be confused between relatives and families, and do not be picky where you should not be picky, if not, it is not only unpleasant to find, it is simply uncomfortable. In turn, it affects the relationship between relatives and families first, and affects the marriage of children later. In order to avoid unsatisfactory situations, relatives should strive to open one eye and close one eye, and since there is no perfect person, the insignificant shortcomings or shortcomings of the other party's children need to be selectively ignored. It is best to say and do as if you were your own, don't say a set, do a set. Moreover, criticizing the shortcomings or shortcomings of each other's children, especially the shortcomings or shortcomings of the out of nothing, whether it is the relationship with the daughter-in-law or the relationship with the son-in-law, there will be a crisis.
Second, don't compare
There is no need to compare between relatives and families, children have long been a family, comparison is neither valuable nor meaningful, but will increase the hidden dangers of running the family. As a relative, peace is precious, the past things need to be past, do not turn over the old accounts; the current things need to be heart to heart and empathetic thinking, both sides do not make it difficult for each other; future things need to adjust the mentality, so as to face it calmly. Although there is a saying that the door is right, but the door is only at the conceptual level, the specific implementation process, do not overemphasize the door to the door, especially after the children have been married, since the children in the marriage do not distinguish between you and me, as a relative, do not have the concept of the door.
Third, do not move around frequently
Relatives move frequently between relatives and families, it is impossible to empty-handed, so it will involve etiquette exchanges, if the light does not come and go, the relationship between relatives and families will suffer a negative impact; if the exchange of gifts and gifts, it will become a burden of human feelings, until it is overwhelmed. Moreover, the relatives are still far away from the smell, occasionally meet, the two sides will treat each other as distinguished guests; every day when they meet, the two sides will treat each other as neighbors; often visit the door, it is inevitable that there will be anti-guest-oriented situations. Moreover, there is no way to talk about the independence or privacy between relatives and families, and there will be continuous friction between customs, living habits or differences in three views. The increasingly bad relationship between relatives and families is very likely to affect the marriage of children from top to bottom, as the so-called nest is, there will be no eggs.
Conclusion: Relatives should always maintain a distance between relatives and families, and be more watchful and less interfering with their children. Catering to the needs of children, more support, more cooperation is to do the part. The appropriate distance will become a firewall for contradictions between relatives and families, and tolerance based on patterns will become a buffer area between relatives.
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