If a person is over fifty, if the children do not filial piety to you, they need to leave these back roads

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The ancients said: "Mourn your parents, give birth to me." ”

When we grow up, filial piety to parents is the foundation of life.

However, there are always some people, ungrateful, grow up, not only do not appreciate their parents, but also regard their parents as enemies, think that they are in their parents' homes, have suffered too much, and are treated poorly by their parents.

In terms of the laws of life and family development, when a person reaches the age of fifty, his children grow up. At this time, most parents begin to enjoy the return of their children, even if the children have no income, they will make money alone and reduce the burden on their parents.

There is a way that man is not as good as heaven.

There are always some parents who meet their unfilial children. Therefore, life is stuck in difficulties, and I don't know where to go.

Man, instead of being pessimistic and world-weary, it is better to face everything positively. Believe that all life is bitter, and the only way to survive is self-transit. No matter how old you are, with the ability to cross yourself, you can become happier and happier.

It is recommended that after the age of fifty, when you encounter unfilial children, keep the following back roads as soon as possible, and do not break the jar and break it.

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First, keeping money is the foundation of pension.

Bacon said: "Money is like fertilizer, and it is useless if it is not sprinkled in the field." ”

Everyone understands the benefits of money, but as parents, in front of their children, they take money very lightly. Many parents, because of their children's study and entrepreneurship, have emptied all their savings and are still in debt.

Parents always think that as long as their children live well and make money, they will give some to themselves.

Unfortunately, children without filial piety only know how to ask, and never give. They take money out of their parents, and then they do their own thing, and then they hate that their parents give too little money.

Someone said: "Money in your own pocket, the most secure." ”

If your children are not filial, you have to cover your pockets. Pay more for yourself and save more. In the days to come, we will not live too bleakly, and we will not ask our children for anything.

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Second, gather contacts and actively approach loving relatives and friends.

More and more people like to live a "broken" life, clearing out excess things and throwing away inappropriate connections.

After fifty years, life begins to decline, and it is time to quit the workplace, and there should be no social interaction.

Be a person, do not go to extremes, according to the actual situation, join some circles with temperature, and learn to rely on each other. Although economically, no one asks for anyone, but in life, it is necessary to "build a handle".

In "Breaking Away", there is such a sentence: "Living with what you like, in this case, you have achieved 'breaking'." ”

Remember, life is a process of giving and giving. To give up is to get, not to make oneself a person with "nothing."

Children are not filial piety, so you have to consider whether there are any reliable people in the circle of neighbors, relatives and friends.

Some old people, because their children are far away all year round, many things in life can rely on nephews, nephews, etc. Although it is not stated that it is "maintenance", it actually plays a role in maintenance.

To be a person, you must know how to be grateful, but also take the initiative to seek help, do not get in the way of face. Of course, "helping" requires an emotional basis, not a sudden emergence of someone who loves you. Therefore, from the age of fifty, being kind to loving people is also one of the back roads of life.

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Third, reflect on yourself and change the way you get along with your children.

In the "University", it is said: "The proverb has the following: 'Man does not know the evil of his son, and he does not know the fruit of his seedlings.' ’”

Because of the doting on the child, he does not know that the child has made a mistake; because he has always coveted the fruits of autumn, he cannot see that the crops are trying to grow. This is a common mistake parents make.

When the child is seventeen or eighteen years old, he makes a mistake, and the parents often say, "Don't bully him, he is still a child." Such an argument is really ridiculous.

There is a saying that goes: "If you want your son to grow, you must always remind your son: 'You are a man.' ’”

Children are not filial, and parents are responsible.

Although the children have grown up, it is still possible to change. Think about it, the ancients said that "the prodigal son does not change his head", which is to tell us a truth - it is difficult for the prodigal son to turn back, but it is not impossible.

In the future, you yourself will do more filial piety to the elders, care more for the social family, play the role of words and deeds, more or less will change your children; you will no longer spoil your children, you can always force them to go on a rampage.

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Fourth, knock on the side and make good relations with the people around your children.

In the Book of Poetry, it is said: "The peach is dying, and there is a truth." The son of Yu Gui, yi qi family room. ”

The meaning of the above sentence is that the peach blossoms are in full bloom, the peach leaves are green, and a daughter-in-law comes, so that the family is harmonious.

We always say "marriage is a big deal", but we don't think about what kind of big things marriage is and what things can affect. Obviously, because children get married, they will change their lives and become more willing to take responsibility.

Children are not filial piety, does not mean that daughter-in-law and son-in-law are very poor character, more communication with daughter-in-law, son-in-law, let them wake up the conscience of the pillow people, it is also possible.

In the seventeenth volume of the Awakening of the Everlasting Word, there is an old man named Guoshan, who has a son and a daughter, and the son has moved too well and gambled, and the family's money has been lost. Later, the son got married and still did not repent, so the family drove the relocation out.

The daughter-in-law held the mentality of "marrying the chicken with the chicken, marrying the dog with the dog", working in the in-laws' family, and the son-in-law Zhang Xiaoji became the top pillar of the family, managing the family's fields, and became rich again.

After wandering on the streets for many years, Zhang Xiaoji tried to find a way to get him back and let him do the work. After some transformation, the migration has finally changed from evil to righteousness.

If you look closely, you will find that the good friends, lovers, and bosses around your children can affect your children's words and deeds. As parents, you should take advantage of this relationship and turn a corner to convince your children.

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Children are the palms of their hands, and the relationship between parents and children is "ten fingers connected to the heart." As long as everyone works together, family relations are "blood dissolved in water" relationships.

In the second half of life, "the son filial piety father has a broad heart; the female filial piety mother has a peaceful heart."

As a parent, you should consider the long-term, pension things, try not to trouble your children, but you can't treat your children as family members, and say "no hope" as soon as you open your mouth.

As children, we should know how to repay the favor and support things, and we can't do it perfectly, but we can't ignore it and forget the fundamentals of being a human being.

Parents and children have contradictions, but there is always a "unity of contradictions."

May you and I, a "filial piety" to solve a thousand enmity.

Author: Cloth coarse food.

Follow my words and go into your heart.

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