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Seeing that the New Year is approaching, the people around seem to be lively, and many people are "ready to move", thinking of hurrying to finish work and take a holiday early to go home for the New Year. Especially after the full liberalization of the epidemic policy, who doesn't want to go home happily for the New Year? I haven't seen my parents for a long time.
Every time the Spring Festival is approaching, the two of them will make a big move because of "who to go back to for the New Year".
Let's think about a question: Do you have to go back to the man's house for the New Year after marriage?
A netizen made it difficult to say:
"I was the only child in a single-parent family, my mother brought me up, I went to university in other provinces, stayed in the city after graduating from university, met my husband and got married. My husband has always been very good to me, but seeing that the New Year is about to be celebrated in these days, my mother's health is not very good, so this year I want me to go home to accompany her for the New Year, so happy and festive. But my husband felt that there was no reason Chinese New Year's Eve not to go to my mother-in-law's house, and it was the same when I went back on the first day of the new year, I insisted that I wanted to go back, although my mother-in-law did not say anything, but her face did not look very happy. ”
She said that she was very helpless, and that the New Year was a very happy thing, but because of who went to celebrate the New Year, they made each other unhappy.
Whose house should I go back to for the New Year? I personally feel that there is no "certain" truth in this matter, but it should be based on the actual situation of my own family. My husband and I did not go back to my mother-in-law's house for the New Year this year, nor did we go back to my mother's house, but stayed in our own house for the New Year, mainly because we moved the house, and there is a custom here that says "the first year of the new house must be spent in the new home". My daughter is only two years old and used to the weather in Xiamen at more than ten degrees, and I am afraid that she will not be able to stand it when she goes home. Neither child has ever been impotent, and I am especially afraid that after returning home, I will toss, and when the time comes, the two of them will be sick again, and the gain will outweigh the loss.
My husband and I decided to let him take an annual leave to return to his hometown on May Day, and then stay in his hometown for a while.
It is not necessary to go back to her in-law's house for the New Year, there is no such reason, like that netizen she should follow her own ideas, want to accompany her mother for the New Year, go back by herself. How big a thing, don't care too much about the opinion of the in-laws, besides, the woman usually lives in the man's house more, and wants to accompany her mother in the New Year, isn't this a common human feeling?
A man who truly loves you will never make it difficult for you during the New Year.
Whose house to celebrate the New Year, this initiative, women still have to be in their own hands.
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January 14, Hunan. After a post-90s woman married far away, she discussed with her husband that "each family will go back to each house and find each mother". She and her husband are the only children in the family, and during the New Year, the two of them were also sad about whose house to go back to for the New Year, and then the couple finally decided to go back to their respective homes. She originally planned to go home after the year, and went back to her mother's house alone to send a surprise, but unexpectedly, her husband had already leaked the wind and told her father-in-law and mother-in-law. Before arriving home, she also lied about asking her parents to pick up a courier at the door, but in fact, her father had already taken two umbrellas and waited for her to come home at the door.
"I was alone in the dark, and I was tricked by the whole family."
What a loving thing, they are considerate of each other, and both parties can have a good year.
The New Year should have been happy, and they should never make a big move to "go back to whose house for the New Year", or even divorce.
I have a reader, he is from Fuzhou, and he usually lives in Fuzhou with his wife. Not long ago, he was in the fan group @ me and said that he went to Henan. I was still strange, and after asking carefully, I realized that he accompanied his wife back to her mother's house for the New Year.
"In the three years of the epidemic, my wife has not returned to her mother's house for a year, and I have always felt that I owe her. Who doesn't want to go back to their home for the New Year? She and I are both teachers, so we went back to my father-in-law and mother-in-law's house half a month early. I discussed it with my parents in advance, and they all agreed, and they also felt sorry for my wife and regarded her as their daughter. I'm a big man, can't I still make my wife chill in the matter of going back to whose house for the New Year? How big is it, I have been at your house in the past few years, and you can't accompany her once? I can't get used to some men, the things I do are too chilling, and because I go back to whose house to quarrel with my wife for the New Year, the pattern is too small. ”
He didn't think about how cold it would be to go back to the north for the New Year, he thought that as long as his wife was happy, he would be happy.
A daughter who marries far away, especially an only daughter, who doesn't want to be able to go back to her parents' house for the New Year? Every time the Spring Festival comes, I feel more homesick. In reality, after getting married, going back to their home for the New Year has become a luxury, too difficult and difficult.
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If your wife is also married far away and she wants to go back to her mother's house for the New Year, you can follow her.
She has already married far away for you, is it possible that you still make her chill in the matter of "going home for the New Year"?
Whose parents are not parents, do you think your parents are important, and her parents are not important?
For parents, every daughter who marries far away is a lost treasure, even if the transportation is more convenient now, every New Year's holiday, the daughter can come back when she is free, but in fact, if the couple really has something, the daughter will categorically not tell the distant parents, most of their grievances are broken teeth into the stomach, because after all, far away marriage is their own choice, so, even if the daughter has a bad life in the in-laws, the parents have no way of knowing. Even if the daughter said her difficulties, the parents who were far away in their hometown could only watch, and they couldn't help at all, and by the time it passed, it was already late.
I also have a daughter, to be honest, I don't want her to marry far away, I hope she can stay by my side, so that I can come back at any time if I want to, and I can come over if I want to come close to the New Year, how good.
Therefore, in the matter of "who to go back to for the New Year", I hope that the two of them can compare their hearts to hearts. Especially for men, they must feel more sorry for their wives. This is usually because of the busy work, it is difficult to go back to the distant mother's house, now the New Year is hard to take a few days off, if the wife wants to go back, you must not let her chill.
How many more years can we spend with our parents?
As my parents get older, I have to go back often and see more.
My husband and I are special this year, neither of us will go back, but wait until next year, every year we will go back. Don't care too much about rules and customs, go back to whoever you want to celebrate the New Year. Your parents are also important, you are married, but you can't ignore your parents. Don't care too much about what your mother-in-law and husband think, they want to go with them, you just decide.
It's ridiculous, they're all adults, and they can't decide to go back to their home for the New Year.
Regardless of men and women in marriage, they should understand a truth: that is, in-laws are parents, parents-in-law are also parents, two people must understand each other, tolerate each other, and have a bowl of water to be happy in the family.
Today's topic: How long have you not been home for the New Year? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.
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★ Author: YIBAO; The original creator of emotions, writing about the warm emotional things of this world.