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My mother-in-law is really a pretty pretentious and fragile person.
Last weekend, I was going to take her out to play, but I don't know what happened to her old man, and I started to make trouble again. Since breakfast, she has been strange, my husband bought buns back, beckoned everyone to eat breakfast, I can also clearly feel that she is throwing my face, I wonder in my heart: Why is she angry for no reason?
Every time I met my mother-in-law with a long face, I thought I didn't see it, so I could do whatever I wanted. What can I do? She was suddenly very angry for no apparent reason, could it be that I still have to catch up with "hot face rubbing cold ass". All I can do is let her calm down slowly, and when she figures it out on her own, she will have nothing to do.
No one can be immersed in a low mood all the time, and if she finds herself unpleasant, then I can't do anything.
In fact, as early as the New Year, my mother-in-law had a low pressure state for several days, and it was her performance in those days that made me feel strongly disgusted with her taking children here. I'm like this, no one does anything to you, you don't need to throw your face, it's pointless, is it necessary to talk to your own family?
I was still quite worried about her during the New Year, my work was very busy, if it weren't for my work, I wouldn't have needed her to bring her baby here. But sometimes she got into a mood, closed the door of her room, didn't cook, and didn't bring her two children.
What can I do if she gets upset?
I can't rush up and have a big fight with her, after all, there is no real conflict between the two of us.
It's just like we said, my mother-in-law is too strange to dissolve her emotions, but whenever you provoke her with any words, she will be inexplicably angry, and then lock herself up and completely pick the pick.
I won't take the initiative to please her, but I will do whatever I want if nothing happens. Isn't it just not with children? Let her go, I see she can strike for a few days. She made a loud noise in my face, and I didn't hear it, and I suppressed the anger in my heart, because I knew that if I said more, there would be a war between the two of us.
At that time, I saw that it was almost the New Year, and I didn't want to have any unpleasantness with her.
Fortunately, not long after, she adjusted herself, and this matter passed.
But the "bad mood" is like rainy weather, after a month or two, she will still sulk.
This time, I poured bitter water directly with us, saying that I felt so lonely and aggrieved, and then I especially wanted to go home. I saw her like that, and said to her in a good voice: "If you want to go home and go back directly, it's okay, I can bring the two children by myself, and if it's a big deal, I'll send Erbao to the nursery." You can also ask yourself here, have I treated you badly? I'm busy with my work every day, and I don't know what to be angry about. It's May Day soon, if you have to go home, then I can't help it. ”
What can I do?
Stop her from going back?
That's not my style at all.
I never ask anyone to do anything, let alone bring up children. I have a bottom in my heart about how she treats me, this was originally to bring Erbao was also her own initiative to come, I didn't let her come, it was she herself who swore to bring Erbao to kindergarten, and now it's good, she escaped on the spot.
And my mother-in-law is very idle with children, she only needs to bring my daughter, do not need to do any housework, at most make an egg soup breakfast, plus a very simple lunch at noon. And I go out after dropping off my son to kindergarten, and I don't eat lunch at noon. For dinner, she also made it quite simple, stir-fry a dish, eat a steamed bun. We adults have no problem eating like this, but to be honest, children will really not be able to stand it for a long time.
I have always done the housework in our family, and I will never take the initiative to instruct her to do it.
Not only that, I also take care of her feelings, buy fruits at home at every turn, ask her if there is anything she wants to eat, but she belongs to the kind of people who can't carry things and solve their emotions, and it's easy to think too much, my husband and I will have some financial quarrels, it is inevitable that some words will be listened to by her, maybe she will be angry.
I was even more open about the quarrels between me and my husband, because I had never relied on their family or owed her anything.
It is also because of the old story of love.
Seven years ago, I didn't ask for a penny of bride money for my husband's marriage, because I understood that their family's economic conditions were very average, and I even paid for the decoration of the house. I started my own business while getting pregnant and waiting for delivery, relying on myself for everything, and my husband's income is very average and has never given me any financial support. Not to mention my mother-in-law, because of her body, I brought up the boss myself. Our family changed to the current big house, and more than half of the down payment was made by me.
I did say this to my husband: I gave birth to the children, I still brought more children, I still earn my own money, I am so capable, but what do I want you to do?
There is a saying that poor couples mourn, my husband's only deficiency is to earn too little money, which also leads to too many complaints to him in my marriage. I was completely financially independent in my marriage and shouldered the heavy responsibility of raising two children, including our change of house, and my mother-in-law did not give any financial help.
This is also my resentment towards my husband and mother-in-law.
I sometimes get very angry: it stands to reason that a daughter-in-law as capable as me should make her mother-in-law grateful to Dade, but how do you treat me? This also led me to regret that I didn't ask for anything when I got married. For love, it is materially equivalent to poverty alleviation, but what do you get in the end?
The topic is a little farther away.
Although there will be conflicts, my relationship with my husband is still good.
Maybe sometimes when my mother-in-law hears me say something like "I have this family, now you know what", she thinks more.
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Go back, she will eventually return to be closer to her eldest son's family.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is quite delicate, and I dare say that there is no very harmonious mother-in-law relationship under the sun.
But fortunately, I will have a hard time at most, and by next September, my daughter will be able to go to kindergarten smoothly.
I'm pretty open to that.
I also understand why my mother-in-law is close to her eldest son, after all, I live more with them and have deeper feelings, and my husband and I are too far away, she is now less than 70 years old and can still run, and in a few years, it is estimated that it is impossible to think of coming to Xiamen.
The homeland is difficult to leave, the older you get, the more sensitive you are, and you are afraid to leave your hometown.
Having lived with my mother-in-law for more than two years, I spent more time with her than she did with her son, and most of us were quite harmonious, and occasionally there would be a little friction, which was inevitable. I also have a grateful attitude towards her, and I can take care of her feelings many times, but she will think too much, I am helpless, and there is no way.
Let her go, in the end I will carry everything, who will make me the mother of the child?
Grandma can't leave at any time if she doesn't want to take it, but mom can't, because when she gives birth, she must be responsible for them, and women always put too many invisible shackles on themselves because of childbirth. I sometimes miss myself before I got married, and I ask myself what I got married for.
The choice has been made, and it is only necessary to go on its own without hesitation.
Without complaining, instead of speculating about her being careful, it is better to bring it with you more freedom.
Isn't it just a little tired temporarily?
will pass.
END.