01
The sky is clear, and he and his girlfriend Xiao Chen go shopping on Huaihai Road.
The Goddess Day has just passed, and there are still remnants of the festival in the mall. Flowers, perfumes, skincare products, all kinds of seductive sophistication.
Without saying a word, the girlfriend swiped her card to buy Meimei's spring clothes and bought a limited edition bag. Carrying large bags and small bags, we entered a dessert shop, and the rich aroma of coffee came to our nose.
The two took a sip together, and the sweetness was enough to drive away troubles beyond cloud nine.
The girlfriend said: "It's so fast, it's 2023 now." ”
I laughed: "Your words, like the feelings of my parents' generation, are at least fifty years old!" ”
My girlfriend withdrew her confused look and said to me, "Don't you think that now we have what we fantasized about when we were children, but we don't seem to be so happy." ”
I looked into my girlfriend's eyes and fell into memories little by little. We have been friends for 13 years, and we first met in high school.
Once we visited the mall, we looked at a bag at the counter at the same time, and we were scared when we saw the price tag. After lingering for a while, he ruthlessly left the counter.
Pocket money is limited, and buying a designer bag is frankly unrealistic.
At that time, I thought to myself that if I have the ability to make money in the future, I must buy my bag back. Later, the obsession is gone.
We do have much more now than before.
Food, clothing, housing and transportation, as long as the ability to bear, can meet themselves. In a bizarre world, we can all try.
But happiness and satisfaction do not seem to increase in proportion to the same proportion as the fanny pack.
Where does happiness come from?
When I got off the elevator, I saw a child with a cute smile on his face, and he was so happy.
I guess it's probably because it's easy for children to get new and mysterious experiences from things that adults take for granted.
Adults adapt to everything, and many things will become more and more tasteless after they have it. In economics, it is called "diminishing marginal utility."
"If you can enhance the experience in life and pay attention to the small details, will you become happier?"
The girlfriend listened, and suddenly her eyes lit up, like a shot of chicken blood.
So, on the way home, we began to look left and right like children.
We found that: the osmanthus tree planted downstairs of my girlfriend's house; The red light time of the frequently crossed road is 197 seconds; The moon in the evening was just a third blocked by clouds...
I even made a long detour to go home just to see if there was anything else interesting that I hadn't noticed.
In addition to what I can see, I also imagine what I can't see.
There may be a huge line in front of me, someone may have just changed a new job, someone may have just picked up a new car, someone may still be in pain and anxiety, maybe someone is in joy and happiness...
So, I keep reminding myself:
Be alert to changes in the outside world, keep imagination of unknown personnel, be curious about calm daily life, and constantly activate different experiences.
I think this may be the essence of "keeping a childlike heart".
Many times, it is not that there is not enough happiness, but that the heart is too impetuous and too erratic.
Life is here, happiness is at this time, everything else is illusory.
02
In the group of college classmates who have been quiet for a long time, a party was organized for a long time reunion.
At the dinner, some people were dressed lavishly, some were coarse and linen, some were talking high, and some were low-key and silent. After many years of absence, it is inevitable that there will be some pleasantries and inquiries.
It can be seen that everyone's feelings are not reduced back then, but the degree of difference between people is slightly different.
At the age of 30, people have reached the age of standing and entered the stage of half-baking. Some young people can't experience the experience, but they can't say how mature they are and can see through this life.
When you come to this particular juncture in your life, you will often look back at the road you have walked in the past, and you will also look ahead with worry.
Can't let go of the past, can't grasp the present, can't see the future clearly, this may be the dilemma of most of us.
Once like a flower's age, try to ask the promised goals and bragging bulls, have they achieved it?
Actually, it's not that important.
The ideal state of human life is: the past is like dust, and the future can be expected.
If there is anything to expect, it is that we will not be held hostage by expectations and live the way we want.
The class leader, always green shirts and white shoes on campus, a quiet and shy appearance, was once one of the top students in the small town of his hometown.
Later, he also successfully became the top student in the municipal college entrance examination and was admitted to the famous school of our dreams.
We were all curious about how dazzling he would be. After the party, after three rounds of drinking, some students were in a hurry to go back to take care of the baby, and some were single and rushed to the next one.
Only the class leader was a little drunk and kept chanting with a few buddies: I want to accompany my parents and be a happy ordinary person.
Struggling with the ordinary and the extraordinary is perhaps the truest state of many young people.
If you want to be a very hard worker, you know in your heart that it is very hard. If you want to let go of all expectations and be an ordinary person, it's a bit like salted fish.
I have been fighting, but there has been no result, so words such as "lying flat" and "involution" appeared.
No one can give us a real answer, not even ourselves. Every time we reach one goal, there is another goal waiting for us.
Not long after the class reunion, we saw the opening of the class president's tavern in the circle of friends.
The pub is opened in the hometown, the façade is small, the decoration has the rustic local characteristics of the winery, and a warm guy is hired, and the opening day is very lively.
The congratulations in the group of classmates exploded, and blessings poured in.
The squad leader also did not forget to upload a photo of himself in the tavern in the group. The teenager is still the same, and the corners of his eyes and eyebrows are full of happy joy.
He also accompanied it with a pretentious copywriting: "This is the life I want."
Life is like drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge. Everyone has their own path to go, and choosing the way to make ourselves most comfortable and do what we do best is the most rational choice we can make for ourselves.
You don't need to be for whom to become, and you don't need to carry a path for whom. Life is your own, and only you know your experiences and feelings.
Everyone who has been a person who wants to see the sea may accidentally enter the beautiful desert.
Some people are still running towards the sea, some people are simply taking root in the desert, and everyone has made the choice that they feel is the most correct for the moment.
Share a favorite quote: "You have only one light on your path, and once it goes out, the road is gone." Most importantly, you are you, to be colorful and weathery. ”
After all, for every kind of ordinary, there is an answer.