My fan dropped off to inform me that she was married. She and her husband have been in love for 9 years, and finally achieved positive results, which is gratifying.
In fact, looking back at their relationship, you will find that it is not easy to fall in love for a long time.
Luo Luo and her husband broke up when they were in love for 7 years. At that time, in order to end the long-distance relationship, Luo Luo quit the public institution in his hometown and ran to Shenzhen to work with men, during which the two people were very happy.
Who knew that when Luo Luo went to the wedding, he found that the girlfriends who had not seen him for many years had a good life in their hometown, with a house and a car, and only he followed the man to rent a house in Shenzhen.
Moreover, an ordinary girl in the original unit has been promoted, and this position was originally given to him by the leader, but he landed in Shenzhen, and his monthly salary was less than 10,000.
Compared with all aspects, there is a gap in the heart of the fall that has always been excellent.
Once, when Luo Luo and the man quarreled, Luo Luo said what was in her heart, and she said to the man:
"I gave up everything for you, but you can't even tolerate me?"
But the man said:
"I beg you to give up? When you quit your job, I stopped you, right? Besides, didn't I give? I didn't even dare to smoke a good cigarette, so I pooled my money to buy a house in Shenzhen. But what about you?
Ooh! Buy a bag for more than 20,000, have I complained about anything? ”
Listening to the man's words, Luo Luo cried at that time. Since then, the two people have entered the strange circle of complaining to each other, and they all feel that the other party is pulling their own hind legs.
In fact, couples spend a long time together, the advantage is to be able to be more tacit understanding, but the disadvantage is that the communication ability declines, it is easy to accumulate emotions together.
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So, I developed two strategies for her:
NO.1
No more dragging each other's feet
Good love has one thing in common: you inspire me to find meaning in life. Instead of blaming and shirking responsibility from each other.
Therefore, the most important thing to do is to restore the sense of ease of the two people, and then stop complaining to each other and motivate the two people to work harder.
In the specific operation, Luo Luo changed his tone and began to say:
"Although my girlfriends have a stable life, they have always been in the small town, and they are also envious of my life in the big city."
Moreover, as long as you come to Shenzhen with your girlfriends to play, luo luo will exaggerate and exaggerate men. Moreover, Luo Luo will also say to men very sincerely:
"I know you're working hard, and I'll save some money with you in the future." Also, I won't buy lipstick anymore, so I'll keep it for you. ”
Secondly, Luo Luo will also put some encouraging words on his lips, such as:
"Honey, thank you for buying me a scarf, I like everything you buy."
After a period of hard work, their relationship finally eased.
NO.2
Have a family meeting
Family meetings can be a great communication skill for couples who want to ease their family situation. In family meetings, you'll focus on the following issues:
1. Whether there is any waste in our income and expenditure in the past period.
2. How much is left for our big goal? How much room for effort is there in the future.
3. Your income and expenditure targets for the next two weeks
4. Your appointments in the next two weeks.
5. Reflections on this period.
6. Say something encouraging to each other.
After accepting my suggestion, Luo Luo put the family meeting on the agenda over the weekend, and at the meeting, Luo Luo first talked about the problems of the two people some time ago, and then began to meet according to the process.
I didn't expect that men still ate this set, and then this process was retained.
But remember, don't turn family meetings into batch meetings, the atmosphere of family meetings must be relaxed.