Reiko's feelings are now on the rocks, because she is extremely disappointed and angrily slaps her boyfriend.
At that time, the boyfriend couldn't say anything, covered his face and left.
Afterwards, Reiko regretted it and apologized, but her boyfriend has been reluctant to respond.
Reiko and her boyfriend met online a year ago and later developed into lovers.
At the beginning, the relationship between the two people was relatively good, although they lived in two places, but the two people contacted each other every day, and when the boyfriend woke up in the morning, he would immediately send WeChat, call her up, give her a hug, and tell her to go to bed early at night.
On weekends, she would even run from Shenzhen to Guangzhou to spend the night with Lingzi.
However, every time Reiko came to Shenzhen to see him, he always did not let Reiko know his friends and family, and would come out to pick up Reiko and then find a hotel to stay.
He rented a house in Shenzhen, but did not let Lingzi go to his residence, he also had friends in Guangzhou, but he always pushed off his friends too busy, and did not take Lingzi to see his friends.
All kinds of signs make Reiko feel that her boyfriend does not want to disclose the relationship between the two people so much.
This makes her a little uneasy, a little confused, and inevitably she will think wildly and feel that her boyfriend does not love herself enough.
During May Day, her boyfriend came to accompany Reiko for a few days, and Reiko felt very happy, shopping and eating together.
During the Dragon Boat Festival, Reiko wanted her boyfriend to accompany her to celebrate the festival, and her boyfriend said that he would not be busy. Reiko was a little angry.
Then, in the next few weeks, the boyfriend used various reasons to push, but also said that there was no time to come to Guangzhou, Reiko was very unhappy, always felt that "you have time but are not willing to accompany me, this is not to care about me, do not love me", and since then his attitude towards him is not very good.
It wasn't until the end of July that my boyfriend came over and played for a few days before returning home.
Thinking that she was going to have a birthday in August, Reiko called her boyfriend and said that she wanted her boyfriend to come and spend her birthday with her.
Who expected him to say that he could not accompany the birthday, this is two people together, Reiko's first birthday ah, the boyfriend did not even have the heart to accompany his girlfriend to spend a birthday, at that time angry Reiko hung up the phone.
But the boyfriend still came on the birthday, and the two of them had a happy day.
The next morning, Reiko intentionally or unintentionally made a joke, "Or should I resign and go to Shenzhen with you to work?" ”
The boyfriend does not make a sound, after such a long time together, Reiko knows that when the boyfriend does not nibble, it means that he is very embarrassed and not so willing.
Reiko suddenly felt bad mood, grievances shed tears, but the boyfriend not only did not comfort, but also when there was nothing to do, did not spare the ML once, Reiko was extremely angry and slapped him! Then, the opening scene happened.
Now Reiko is very remorseful, feeling that her reaction is too impulsive, too much, hurting her boyfriend's self-esteem.
I still love my boyfriend in my heart, and I send him messages almost every day, sincerely repenting.
But he insisted that Reiko was not wrong, but the two people could not get along.
The boyfriend's attitude and words made Reiko very helpless, did not know whether it was worth saving, did not know whether to insist, should work hard, to resolve this emotional crisis, or to give up as her boyfriend said.
Interpretation of Marriage Emotional Psychological Counseling:
Everything happens with a cause and effect,
If we want to save, what we need to consider is what is the real cause of the breakup, how likely is it to be saved, is it worth recovering, etc. When we find the answer, we know how the road should go.
The way Reiko and her boyfriend get along is worth exploring.
The two met because of the Internet, in the year of love, Reiko did not go to her boyfriend's residence, did not meet any friends and relatives of her boyfriend, and only went to the hotel to get together each time.
That is to say, Reiko did not enter the boyfriend's life circle, and there was not much real understanding between the two.
In normal love development, such a situation is abnormal.
There are generally two reasons for this:
1, he can not let Reiko into his life, he already has a wife or a stable girlfriend;
2, he does not want Reiko to enter his life, his heart does not accept Reiko as his beloved, he does not trust Reiko.
Reiko's "hidden" attitude towards her boyfriend, in fact, has always complained in her heart, and when her boyfriend does not come to accompany her on holidays, Reiko's dissatisfaction has also increased.
When similar incidents are repeated, dissatisfaction accumulates until it breaks out later.
The later slap was just a fuse that ignited Reiko's suppressed emotions.
From the boyfriend's point of view, whether he can't let Reiko become a real lover, or he doesn't trust Reiko, it means that he will not disclose his relationship with Reiko and give Reiko a real commitment.
When Reiko has been angry about this matter and hopes that the two people can really be together after resigning, the boyfriend will have invisible pressure in his heart, and he can't do it.
When he feels that there is no way to solve this problem, it is indeed possible to use "leaving" as a solution.
In Reiko's imagination, slapping her boyfriend is the reason for the breakup, and perhaps the real reason is not this, so when we apologize for the slap, we can't open the crux of the breakup.
Before we try to get him back, we need to think: Can the crux of my dissatisfaction with him be solved? Can I accept his distrust and inability to enter his circle of life?
If we really can't do it in our hearts, even if we save it now, two people will still have more problems in the future and lead to separation.
In addition, can the future prospects of two people and the ideas of two people be agreed?
If you can, there is no problem in continuing to communicate, the man will not feel the pressure, and the woman will not have bad emotions.
That way he doesn't need to flee, and the likelihood of coming back is higher.
If the man's pressure is not solved, the woman's emotions cannot be adjusted, and it is difficult for the two people to live in harmony.
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