In his long youth romance novel "Norwegian Forest", Haruki Murakami depicts several different kinds of girls, including the gentle and infatuated Naoko, the temperament of the elegant Hatsumi, the mature and intellectual Reiko, and the lively and lovely Midoriko, all of whom have a close intersection with the male protagonist Watanabe, and eventually Watanabe falls in love with Midoriko.
I think the vast majority of people make the same choice because men have a hard time resisting the youthful charm of a girl like Midoriko.
1. Take the initiative and meet the people you like
Midoriko and Watanabe met in a small restaurant not far from the school. At that time, Watanabe was eating alone, and Midoriko sat around a table with several companions to order food, Midoriko looked at Watanabe several times, and after determining that she was the senior who took the same course, she went up to talk and called out Watanabe's name, and later borrowed class notes from Watanabe and made an appointment for the next meeting.
Film and television stills: Midoriko takes the initiative to talk to Watanabe
In the interaction between men and women, many girls are entangled in the fact that boys should take the initiative and girls should be more reserved, as if only in this way boys will cherish girls more. In fact, in love, the two are mutually pursuing a relationship, no matter who takes the initiative, it will not change the result that only two people like each other to be together for a long time.
The reason why Midoriko took the initiative to talk to Watanabe in the book was because she had a good feeling for Watanabe, and through a brief conversation, she found that Watanabe's person spoke differently, and her interest in Watanabe was a little higher, so she quietly found an excuse to borrow notes and made an appointment to meet next time.
No single boy will refuse the initiative of a beautiful girl, and only when the two really know each other, there will be more intersection and more sparks in the future life. Passive people continue to miss, and active people must seize even small opportunities.
Film and television stills: Watanabe and Midoriko talk about the funeral of Midoriko's father
2. Optimistic and positive attitude towards life
Midoriko's experience can be described as very bumpy, but she is not depressed, but often smiles.
In middle school, her mother died of ineffective treatment for malignant tumors, and all the family's savings were spent. Midoriko stayed in the aristocratic school that her parents had arranged for her, shy like a chicken into a flock of cranes, and went to school in a school that was extremely incompatible with her identity, and she endured the unbearable suffering of ordinary people. She hated the school, but instead of running away from it, she never went to school once and was not late, so she stubbornly but actively fought against fate.
Later, when her father fell seriously ill in college, Midoriko and her sister took turns to take care of their father in the hospital, while taking care of their own studies. Despite her hardships, Midoriko remains optimistic, and when Watanabe asks about Midoriko's father, Midoriko makes up a serious lie that her father went to Uruguay to get rich, and how she hopes that his father really went to Uruguay and not terminally ill.
Film and television stills: Midoriko concocts a lie to Watanabe about going to Uruguay
After Midoriko's father died of illness, Midoriko took Watanabe to live in the Kobayashi Bookstore with his father's spiritual seat, Midoriko talked about her father, and comforted herself that his father's death was a relief, he did not have to be tormented by illness anymore, his father loved his mother very much, and they could finally be reunited in another world.
It is precisely because of Midoriko's positive and optimistic attitude towards life that her heart is strong enough not to be knocked down by the tribulations of life. In contrast, Naoko, another heroine in the book, has a mental breakdown due to the suicide of her lover Mizuki, immersed in the memory of the past all day long, and eventually commits suicide with depression.
Positive people are like the sun, where they go, where they are bright, negative people are like the moon, the first fifteen are different. People prefer to bathe in warm sunshine.
Film and television stills: Midoriko confesses to Watanabe that she has a boyfriend
3, the attitude towards love is very frank
In the process of midoriko's interaction with Watanabe, they have a deep understanding of each other. Midoriko knows that Watanabe has a girlfriend with a special situation, and Watanabe has heard Midoriko say that she has a boyfriend of the old straight male type.
Although Watanabe and Midoriko are already very close, they have not crossed the final line! When the two are separated for a while, Androko discovers that she has fallen deeply in love with Watanabe, she breaks up with her boyfriend in a fierce showdown, and then finds Watanabe to tell him the result.
"It is my relationship with you. Specifically, I've come to find it more interesting to be with you than to be with him. Don't you think this is unreasonable and unsafe in any case? Of course I like him. Although he is somewhat stubborn, extreme, and a little fascist, he also has many advantages. And I liked him after careful consideration in the beginning. But, to me, you always seem to be a little different. With you, I feel very satisfied. I trust you, love you, and don't want to give up on you. In a word, I gradually lost my attention to myself. In this way, I went to him to discuss openly and honestly to see how it was good. He told me not to look for you again, saying that if I looked for you again, I would have to cut him off. ”
"So what happened?"
"Broke off relations with him, Lilisotsode." With that, Midoriko put a "Marlboro" to her mouth, lit it with a match in her hand, and sucked it hard.
"Why?"
"Why?" Midoriko roared, "Is your head abnormal?" Why don't you understand that you understand the English hypothetical form, can solve the number sequence, and read Marx? Why ask? Why do you have to tell the girl to open her mouth? Isn't it because I like you more than I like him? I also wanted to fall in love with a more handsome boy, but no way, I just fell in love with you. ”
Film and television stills: Watanabe confesses to Midoriko that he has a situation
Love is love, Midoriko does not drag mud and water at all, since she fell in love with Watanabe, she cut off with her ex-boyfriend, no matter who is responsible.
In love, only by being honest with each other can we harvest each other's sincerity, and paying sincerity can make the two people's spirits more compatible, and love can go further.
4. Understanding and tolerance of the other half
Midoriko knew that Watanabe's situation was special and did not force him to make an immediate choice, but only asked Watanabe not to think of other women when he was with him.
Naoko's death has relieved many people, including Naoko's parents, Reiko, who lives together, Watanabe, who is emotionally confused, and Midoriko, whom she has never met.
Watanabe never gave up on Naoko, but his love for Naoko has turned into a responsibility, while for Midoriko, Watanabe is a strong love.
Film and television stills: Watanabe calls Midoriko
When wading away from the past, Watanabe immediately thought of Midoriko, and Midoriko received a phone call and was silent for a long time, but she finally tolerated Watanabe's behavior, because she understood Watanabe's responsibility and responsibility, which is not exactly the quality she wants the other party to have!
Mutual tolerance in love is not who is weaker than who is stronger, nor is it who compromises with whom, but an understanding of each other's inadvertent acts of harm that do not exceed their respective bottom lines.
Life is long, everyone will make mistakes, if you grasp on this, even the smallest contradictions will intensify, and even the best feelings will break.
Only mutual understanding and tolerance, even if there are many bumps in the road of love, will soon be repaired as before, and love can remain long-lasting.