Text: Happy to have you
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Yang Zhenwu said: "Parents should be responsible for both the development of the child's body and the psychological development of the child; they should pay attention to the development of the child's intelligence and the cultivation of the child's ability in all aspects; both to teach the child how to learn knowledge, but also to teach the child how to behave"
Parents are the hardest job in the world.
Raising children includes many aspects: love education, physical and mental education, ideological education, aesthetic education, emotional education and so on.
Raising children, although it is difficult and hard, but it does not make more sense to see children grow up day by day and grow into useful people to society.
Often said these 5 sentences, can make children more and more excellent, parents must say more.
The first sentence: "Mommy and Daddy will always love you".
Love children, this is what even a hen does.
But in the process of raising children, there are too many parents who forget the original intention of raising children, so that children do not feel the love of their parents in the process of growing up, but only feel the hurt from their parents.
Lu Dawson, an internet celebrity photographer, was fostered in a relative's house since he was a child, and could not feel the love from his parents; when he grew up, he bullied and insulted his experience in school; the neglect and indifference of his parents made him feel even more chilly; he did not know how to face it, only blamed him, no loving parents.
In the end, he chose to commit suicide and leave this indifferent world.
Parents must have good intentions and gratitude, and treat every step of their children's growth.
No matter how well a child performs in school, even if his grades are at the bottom of the class, you should not blame your child.
Even if the child cannot become a bully, as long as he works hard, he deserves the affirmation and encouragement of the parents, especially the unconditional love from the parents.
In "Hello, Li Huanying", Reiko's mother, the love for her child, is without any conditions, she just needs her child to be healthy and happy.
Even at the time of her death, the mother did not have the slightest remorse.
Her love gives Reiko endless motivation and becomes the driving force behind her growth.
Although her mother has left this world, for Reiko, her mother will always be there, and her mother's love and mother's teaching will always accompany her and become her direction of progress.
This kind of love is the right love, the guiding light for the child to live in this world.
Home, should always be, the warmest haven for children, is the gas station for children to move forward.
Parents should always be the strongest backing of their children. As long as there is the love of mom and dad, no matter how big the wind and waves are, they are not afraid.
The second sentence: "You will decide."
To cultivate children's opinions, parents should start from an early age.
This is a manifestation of parental respect for their children, and it is also an excellent way to cultivate their children, learn to choose from primary school, and learn to make trade-offs.
Parents can say to their children, "Tomorrow is the weekend, how do you want to arrange it?" ”
If the child is reasonable, do what the child says; if the child says something inappropriate, communicate with the child, why it is not appropriate, what is the reason; do not come up, and deny the child's idea.
The advantage of this is that the child feels that the parent respects him and is willing to talk to him on an equal footing; the child is willing to participate in family activities, which will invisibly promote a more harmonious parent-child relationship.
A good parent-child relationship is established little by little in the family trivia.
The third sentence: "You are so good."
Encouragement is the sunshine, which can bring out the child's potential to the extreme.
If one day, the child cleans the home, and these are all done voluntarily by him, as a parent, he must seize such an opportunity to praise the child.
The mother asked the child, "Is this what you cleaned?" ”
The child proudly said, "Yes." ”
Mom continued, "It's too powerful, I can't do it." Tell me, how did you do it? ”
With the encouragement of his mother, the child will definitely complete the process of this matter and talk to his mother well.
In the process of communication, it is bound to enhance the feelings of mother and child.
In this case, the mother can further motivate the child, further solidifying what he occasionally does well into a habit of behavior.
If the child can feel and the parents recognize him, he will be more motivated and enthusiastic to complete those things that he can.
Over time, these good behaviors will become a good habit.
Good habits cultivate good character, and good character changes a lifetime.
Excellent cultivation begins with one small thing after another.
Fourth sentence: "Mom believes in you"
Trust is one of the most important elements of good character.
The child asked his mother, "On Sunday, can I go to my classmates for a while?" ”
Mom said, "I'll listen to you." ”
"I'll be back early." The child continued.
"Mom believes in you." The mother smiled and replied to the child.
Such a dialogue is warm and emotional. When a child grows up in such a family atmosphere, he will definitely be a sensible and reliable child.
If you want to cultivate excellent, sensible and kind children, parents themselves must first take the right path and set a good example for their children.
The power of example is infinite. In the face of good examples, children will naturally learn from them.
Behind the excellent children, there must be a pair of excellent parents.
Fifth sentence: "Follow the rules."
As the saying goes, "no rules, no squares". The state has the national law, and the family has the family rules.
Every family, in the process of raising children, will have their own rules. To cultivate the child's spirit of contract, we must start small.
When children grow up, they will always encounter various unexpected situations. When the child asks for help from the parents, the parents just calmly tell the child: How do we set the rules? What are the ways in which we should deal with these issues?
In this way, the child will have a number in mind and will not panic when something happens.
Xiao Xuan's parents were called to school by the teacher, because Xiao Xuan set the dormitory on fire, and almost something big happened.
Parents rushed to school and saw the child in the corner of the teacher's office, sneaking away tears, and Mom and Dad were heartbroken.
Dad was impulsive and was going to beat the kid when he went up. The mother stopped the father's approach, sincerely apologized to the teacher, said to go back to communicate with the child, and ask the child why he did it.
On the way home, her mother patiently asked Xiaoxuan why she did this?
Xiao Xuan said that when he saw his parents arguing, he thought that he was not good. He said that if he left this world, his parents would not have a conflict.
Listening to Xiao Xuan's words, her mother was heartbroken. She told Xiao Xuan that it was not because of his presence that his parents were in trouble; even if they were not together, they both loved him.
Listening to his mother's words, Xiao Xuan's heart was hanging, and he completely relaxed.
He promised his mother that he would go to school tomorrow, sincerely apologize to the teacher, and ask for the forgiveness of the teacher and his classmates; he would also take the money to compensate for the economic losses caused by the arson.
A disaster was resolved in an instant. This mother is wise and intelligent, knowing how to analyze and solve specific problems.
She not only helps the child and walks out of the misunderstanding of love, but also understands how to deal with difficult things when encountering them.
It is not terrible to make a mistake, but it is terrible to indiscriminately accuse, reprimand, and hit the child, thus causing irreparable damage.
Write at the end:
Raising a healthy and happy child is not easy.
But as long as we have love, truly love, respect, believe, encourage children from the bottom of our hearts, and be their strong backing, they will become more and more excellent, and they will grow into useful people in society.
May all parents be able to progress and grow with their children and become better and better people together.