Will the "mint flavor" romance become a variety show that girls just need?
What we often say now about "love brain" refers to a state of love supremacy and confusion, but when I was in love at noon today, I heard about a "sober love brain" in Zhou Yangqing's mouth.
"Let's Fall in Love 5" is on the air
This state of enjoying dopamine love and refreshing like a mint - I prefer to call it "menthol".
A lifetime is so long, it's normal to have a little love brain
This season of Let's Fall in Love 5 focuses on 28+ young mature single women.
Girls at this age are taking on more and more important roles in society, and among the three female guests are CEOs, self-media and programmers...
Girls with successful careers also have more diverse understandings and feelings about love. This season is to cut from their perspective to feel their love and choice.
The observers invited this time are also mainly women, including "love bosses" Yi Nengjing and Zhou Yangqing.
Yi Nengjing has always been a representative of "high love quotient" in my heart, and when it came to talking about love at the age of 28, it turned out to be the same as me, "on the head, love brain to not work", and even to the state of "disappearing self".
Yi Nengjing's "love brain" story when she was young has also heard a little.
She mentioned in her book "Exercise Book of Love" that when she first opened her love at the age of 16, she fell in a crazy love with a rich man in Hong Kong.
At that time, she couldn't hold the boyfriend of the big round at all, obviously knowing that the other party had many girlfriends around her, but in order to keep the other party, she also chose to pretend to be deaf and dumb, silently endured his infidelity, just to not be abandoned.
She obeyed her words and "lived like a slave", and even missed Hou Xiaoxian's "City of Sorrow" because the other party gave up her job as soon as she made a phone call. Every time I talk about this experience, Yi Nengjing regrets it.
Even if she met Harlem 10 years later, she would still have a lot of love until she "lost herself".
Or the book "Life and Death Forgotten" written by her, all kinds of lingering hearts and confessions, the text is affectionate to the extreme.
"I secretly swear that in my lifetime, I will always live one more day than you, and I will accompany you to the end"
"I am like a woman in the old society, I believe that children are equal to my status, I am reluctant to give you to anyone, and our children will have half of our souls"
After the marriage with Haring, Yi Nengjing began to pay attention to her feelings, actively exploring the negative impact of her original family's misfortune on her intimate relationship, and then learning self-healing methods.
Now married to Qin Hao for 7 years, Yi Nengjing still loves to write small essays, but he can feel her gentle calm between the lines, and can see her appreciation for Mr. Qin, accompanied by sweet and light love.
Most importantly, she can see herself in these words.
What she wrote to her son is also very good-looking
Zhou Yangqing is a post-85 generation, and he also self-certified himself as a love brain at the age of 28.
She once said in another variety show that when she loves someone, she will have no reservations, uncontrollably go to find each other, and sometimes even put her career aside.
Both have turned over in love, but they have also rebuilt emotional ruins in the crawling and crawling, and met a new life and a more suitable person.
The pain caused by the once love brain will provide us with antibodies like a vaccine, even if we encounter a toxic relationship again, we can maintain the damage within a controllable range.
What exactly is "menthol"?
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The opposite of "love brain" is "menthol".
Also 28 years old, these post-95 girls in "Love 5" are still much more sober than the post-70s and post-80s. For example, they will know how to let go and love themselves while bravely pursuing love.
The most "enterprising" listener of the female guests, the first time he saw the handsome man Li Minglun, who was 1.98 meters, he did not hide his appreciation for him, his eyes were straightforward, and he took the initiative to talk.
During dinner, she didn't turn to the other side and asked what kind of boy she liked? She dictated "pointy face, white white" according to Li Minglun's appearance...
In the back drinking session, Li Minglun asked Tingzi if he wanted to taste his cup, and Tingzi took Li Minglun's cup and tasted it, and I was frantically pinched when I saw it in front of the screen.
The original design of the show was for girls to send anonymous invitations to boys, but the listener had already conveyed it in person: I hope you can continue to participate in this show.
This gesture almost engraved "I want to choose you" on the forehead~
Another female guest, Wang Anqi, is also easy to see her good impression of Li Minglun.
Especially at the dining table, although the two sat diagonally, Lao Wang just crossed six people to find Li Minglun and asked him "Is he full"?
The ambiguous atmosphere is just right.
Even Xiao Hu, a girl who had no intersection with Li Minglun on the surface, plucked up the courage to write to him when it came to the letter delivery session, which surprised everyone in front of the screen.
However, among the three girls, only An Qi received a reply and asked: Have you eaten enough?
Seeing Angie lying on the bed with a letter from Crush and smiling stupidly... The whole room was full of her happy hormones, and I was really infected by this happiness across the screen.
Girls immersed in love are so beautiful!
Compared with the generosity of girls, boys are a little shy.
Today, there is a hot search on Weibo "Romantic male amateur speech causes all to frown", which means that when everyone is talking about the type of opposite sex they like, the male guest Liu Zhi replied "I don't like girls who are too egoistic", and also secretly poked and spit on his strong ex.
My eyebrows are like ↓
The atmosphere of the scene began to become delicate, and Yi Nengjing looked for a compensation in the air, "Maybe he had a deep shadow in the last paragraph."
As a result, Xiaosun next door can actually pick up the stubble "I don't like to be strong either", "It's not okay to be younger than me, it's not okay to be too thin, it's all thin below 110".
Xiaosun is a boxer and later added that "too thin is not good for the body"
At this time, the eyebrows of the guests inside and outside the venue were wrinkled...
Brother, how about you open your eyes and see? Which girl on the scene is not independent? Who weighs less than 110 pounds?
This time my mouth is Qin Xiaoxian: Then you take the cup and go.
Behind the straight ball, the girls will also stay awake and exercise restraint and reservation in their actions.
Like the listener who has never received the feedback signal, although disappointed, he will generously admit that "everyone likes handsome guys"! At the same time, he has some restraint in his action expression, keeping a distance from Li Minglun and not sticking his hot face to his cold face.
Post-95 girls are worthy of being an independent and self-conscious generation.
It's just that the girls are still young, and their ability to see people is still relatively superficial, far less thorough than Sister Jing and Sister Zhou, and they know better how to "see character in details".
There is a detail that the wooden swing in the yard collapsed, and everyone worked together to repair the swing, during which Li Minglun's hand was scratched by wooden thorns, and the others asked him to go back to the house first to get a glove.
Unexpectedly, Li Minglun took the glove and handed it to An Qi casually, and the grinning An Qi took it and ran out to help, but Li Minglun left himself behind?
This set of actions flowed, but the girls in the observation room had a question mark on their faces, and Yi Nengjing hit the nail on the head: Why did he let the girls work? Why didn't he put his gloves on and go out to fix them?
For Liu Zhi, who couldn't accept the girl's invitation at all, Yi Nengjing thought that his problem was not age or marriage experience, but that the words just now made everyone look down.
Of course, they can also notice the advantages of other boys.
Liang Xiao, who washed dishes and did housework with Xiao Hu, gave all the credit to Xiao Hu, and they felt that the act of giving the credit to the woman in this way was a show of care and thoughtfulness, which was a plus.
There is also Little Bear, Yi Nengjing and Zhou Yangqing have noticed that although he doesn't talk much, he is always working silently, and it is not to show in front of girls, he is completely a service-oriented personality, and he feels unworthy of his "being invisible".
Even the shaggy conspicuous Bao Xiaosun, Yi Nengjing also found his advantages: it is still very useful for boys to have a sense of humor, and it will be very relaxing to be with them.
Yi Xue love class, emotional girl helps girl
Speaking of which, Yi Nengjing's identity as a "love mentor" was discovered, or a few years ago, she taught Jinsha on Sister Lang to reply to boys' messages.
At that time, I felt that if I had such a "menthol" sister by my side in my twenties, I would not have taken so many detours (tears) in the love field.
In "Love 5", Yi Nengjing can always provide a lot of practical advice, in addition to the details mentioned above, see the character, but also the "careful machine" to deal with people, the law of getting along with partners, the coping of age anxiety...
For example, at the dinner, Wang Anqi's high heels were inserted into the cracks of the wooden board and folded, and Li Minglun took off his shoes for An Qi to wear without saying a word.
This...... Taking off your shoes and putting on a girl is not the same thing as taking off your coat and draping a girl, right? No matter how handsome the boys are, there should be no girls who want to wear their smelly sneakers, right? Besides, the size of 40+ is not easy to wear, wow!
The female guest in the observation room also showed a difficult face, saying that in this case (taking it off), it seems that you can only wear it, right?
Yi Nengjing's treatment suggestion was to politely refuse the other party, on the grounds that the shoes would fall off if they were too big, and then ask the other party to help see if there was ballast in the ground, so that the other party was planted with a seed of "protect me" from this moment.
This treatment is not only decent and generous, but also leaves careful thinking and √.
Many girls begin to meet the first wave of age anxiety from the age of 30 when they are 28 years old, and Yi Nengjing analyzes the source of this anxiety, but it is not because of age.
It is because many people see 30 years old as a tipping point, and want to make choices and decisions for their lives before that, as if the ambitions and dreams of youth must be put into practice before the age of 30 to make sense...
In fact, when people reach the age of 35 or even 40, they will find that these anxieties are superfluous, some decisions do not have to be made before the age of 30, people have unlimited possibilities, and the increase in age brings us more experience and strength, not more troubles.
This view is quite new, and I often felt that the way to combat age anxiety was nothing more than adjusting the mentality to keep a young mind and rhythm, and as a result, people started directly from the source.
It turns out that anxiety is because we do not complete the established "life events" according to the rhythm of the "social clock", and the older we get, the closer we are to the truth - we are obviously not in a hurry.
After hundreds of battles and seeing through the red dust, Yi Nengjing is no longer in love with war, and when she encounters differences with Teacher Qin, she does not want to quarrel, but reverses from the results and asks first: "How is it now?" Thought about it or didn't want to? ”
She feels that if she thinks about it, she will continue to run-in, and if she doesn't want to end it directly, saying something hurtful for the sake of personality or different points of view, not only will things not be solved, but it will also increase the pain of the moment, and this behavior is very meaningless.
Women's thinking is more perceptive, and it is necessary to accumulate experience in various experiences to slowly become more rational, so it is easy to be emotional when young, and even can't see clearly in front of you, as if you have installed a filter, and the other party has any small flaws are all blind.
At this time, it is very necessary for people to give more advice, and Yi Nengjing and Zhou Yangqing are such people, who can pierce those pink bubbles that make you dizzy and make people refreshed.
Sister E's epilogue:
As guests in the observation room, their female perspective can always accurately say the pain points and cool points, and at the same time clarify the tangled points, becoming the love "mouth replacement" of many female audiences in front of the screen.
"Let's Fall in Love" has been from the first season to now, and the discussion of online audiences has long evolved from "which handsome guy will I choose" to "how will I handle this relationship".
Romance is not just a "live-action idol drama", making people eat melons and eat sugar CP is only part of the show as an entertainment pastime, it also has the function of emotional learning, allowing people to reflect on the current gender relationship.
The N generation is always faced with the problem of how to rejuvenate freshness and creativity, and "Let's Fall in Love" as long as it can firmly pay attention to and analyze the love status and dilemma of modern people, and then add some thoughtful small designs (such as this season's "order a special tune for the guest on the left" and "invite by girls" design are very interesting)...
I think such a mint-flavored romance can become a variety show that female audiences just need in the future.
Today's late-night topic is:
High heels folded when dating a guy, will you wear his 40+ sneakers?
Let's talk about it in the comment area~