The most relaxing time of the day for girls is to go home at night to dry their hair after taking a shower and drying their hair, then go to bed and find a comfortable position to lie down.
When I am alone, I will brush TikTok to watch dramas, and the best thing after living with my boyfriend is to turn off the lights early and get into a bed, and then hug each other to talk about what happened today.
There is no need to have a specific topic, there is no need for ambiguous atmosphere, sometimes just put your legs on each other, and the two of them chat without a match, which can make my busy day slowly calm down, and sleepiness will quickly find the door. Without saying goodnight to each other, the two have already tacitly fallen asleep at the same time.
I really enjoy the bedtime chat with my boyfriend, and even beyond the level of liking, it has become a physical and spiritual need. Without a bedtime chat session, I would toss and turn, trouble sleeping, and feel like something was missing this night.
Personally, I think the charm of chatting before bed is that both of you are in the most relaxed state of the day.
After going to work and disguising for a day, when I got home, I could finally talk without taboos, take off my uncomfortable coat and change into house clothes, and breathe freely in every pore after taking a shower. Turn off the light, he can remove the mask and be a coquettish big boy, and I don't have to worry about my expression management and my plain face being too ugly.
Unlike when you are colorful, you don't have to deliberately please each other when you do everything you do when chatting. I love putting my legs over him, enjoying his touches with only love and no desire, and I love some gender-swapping moments, such as him putting his legs heavily on my waist, jokingly touching him from bottom to top, and then whipping his ass.
When boundaries disappear, the topic becomes fantastic. We'll explore how the wind was discovered, gossip about our respective exes, and occasionally have a Truth or Dare, interspersed with a few "nostalgia" chats about our childhood.
When we are in a bad mood, we will talk about our pain, and then silently cry and embrace in the dark. When we are in a good mood, we will tell jokes, talk about the silly things we have done, joke with each other and laugh in bed.
When both people get used to bedtime chat, it becomes more important than sex.
A few times my boyfriend went on a business trip, and we could only communicate with our phones across the screen. Obviously, I can see him in the video and hear his voice, but I only feel that my thoughts are more scratchy. Instead of face-to-face bedtime chat, no amount of effort two people can make up the difference.
There were also a few conflicts, and there was silence when the lights were turned off at night, and neither of the two could sleep, only the sound of each other turning back and forth.
The steps of reconciliation are often given by the chat before going to bed, either I sighed "why can't I sleep", or he whispered "Don't you come, I'm tired and crooked", breaking the freezing point in an instant and returning to the past. Human habits are magical, making people forget everything unhappy for a while.
Sometimes, this link also takes on some unspeakable communication moments during the day. For example, which thing or which sentence makes me uncomfortable, it is difficult to say face-to-face during the day, but turning off the light at night without seeing the other person's expression makes communication a lot easier.
I remember hearing someone say that she and her husband lived in two worlds before they went to bed, often he played with his mobile phone, watched his own dramas, the two slept without communication, and got up the next morning and went to work without communication. I thought at the time – I don't want this life in my life.
Of course, everyone's definition of love is different, but for me, bedtime chat will always be an item that must be preserved in love.
Those healing nights were not only sparkling moments in love, but also one of the motivations for me to try to live every day. When I think of going home and being able to lie down and chat with my lover, even if I face difficult work during the day, I will summon up the courage to fight.
Although the term "safe haven" is a bit earthy to describe such a relationship, the relationship that can chat every day before going to bed can really make people feel that all their emotions will be firmly caught by the other party. What if the sky falls? The person on the other side in the dark will still accept me, comfort me, touch me, and that's the point of bedtime chat.
May you all meet someone who chats with you before going to bed, and I wish you a good night's sleep. Good night.
Head picture / Aren Aaren
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