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*Title source: Question 2 of this issue of Micro-Q&A
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Question 1
Keywords: Guardian marriage
Hello dolls and assistants! If you win a lot, thank you very much~
Female, 84 years, 158, 7 months after giving birth 54kg, township junior high school teacher.
Man. 85 years, 162,70kg, township public wy, this year promoted to the county bureau FJZ.
The salary income is comparable, after marriage, the husband and wife have two houses in their names, and I have a car in my name, both of which have loans. We were both classmates in high school, and I broke up with my ex-boyfriend in my sophomore year (not in a university), and he stayed with me all the time, and I was together in junior year.
On the 15th anniversary of marriage, they have two daughters and a son, the eldest daughter is 14 years old, the son is 3 years old, and the youngest daughter is 7 months old. After graduation, we were all teachers, and in order to end the tens of kilometers in a different place, he took the GWY test in my town, and then Xiong took off.
We usually have something to talk about, and he is enough to give the child a kiss. An unexpected pregnancy was discovered last year and he hopes to stay. But when I looked at his phone this year, I found that he liked the video of his goddess from college during my third birth, but did not add friends.
I was sad, showed him a screenshot, and couldn't control crying when there was no one else, and then he found out that I was crying, so he slapped myself a few times, explained it, and promised me to change the debit information of my bank card to my number, and the mobile phone could be viewed at any time.
My question is:
Will he be retaliated for offering me love for me like this? Is there a high probability that I will be cheated on? With three children, I am really afraid that there will be problems in the marriage and suffer the children. Unp-up photos with only a little foundation, please hide.
answer
Based on the information you provided, I don't see any big problem, which is not to say that there is no problem with your relationship, but because the information you provided is not enough to make an accurate judgment. This is like a patient's symptom is cough, he may have a cold, pneumonia, or lung cancer. What kind of disease it is, it is not clear at present.
Now we know that your husband's male competition has taken off, but we don't know exactly what his goddess is. If his goddess's conditions are very good and he is single, then you will definitely be a little dangerous, but judging by his current performance, you are still safe for the time being.
Of course, this does not mean that your relationship is stable, if you are afraid that there are problems and suffer children, you should work more on self-improvement. You sent a photo of a family of five, if it weren't for you wearing a wedding dress, I would have thought you were a boy.
The other party already has a little social status, and your appearance is still indistinguishable between men and women, which is definitely not okay. As far as the configuration of your marriage is concerned, you have three children and the possibility of being out is not high, but there is still the possibility of your husband deserting in marriage, and this aspect needs to be solved by self-improvement.
When I was answering your question, my daughter was next to me, and she didn't know your cause and effect, so she glanced at your photo and said, "She is uglier than her husband." If this is said by an adult, it will definitely offend people, but if the fairy tale is unscrupulous, children tend to be blunt, just like the child in the emperor's new clothes.
If you solve this part of the problem, your marriage will be much more stable, and the children will not have to suffer.
Question 2
Keywords: men cut women's cloth
The doll goddess who combines beauty and wisdom and all the beautiful fairies are good~ The situation is urgent, and I hope to draw hundreds of millions of thanks~
Now the boy is actively promoting the engagement ring to take the wedding dress, I want to ask the goddess to analyze whether he will take revenge after marriage and cheat to break up or not, can I have a chance to meet better after breaking up?
Female 93 years 169cm57kgB cup, study abroad undergraduate office non-independent annual salary of 200,000 deposits, 700,000 dad doing business annual income 50-100w self-assessment 5 distribution stone.
Male: 181cm85kg in 89 years, undergraduate non-unique, has a sister, an annual salary of 200,000-300,000, a deposit of 300,000.
In June 21, the blind date software met in December confessed together, at the end of May 22, because I accepted the male teacher in the same dormitory, the mosquito coil contradiction broke out and felt that I would not refuse, the cold war for 17 days I went to find him with a picture to hide, and then found him to get back together, he said that he was surprised that Ben thought I was a scumbag, and soon after breaking up, I could find a spare tire to turn right, how could I come to him.
He thought for a long time about the previous showdown and said that he didn't contact me, and I was with him, and even logged on to the blind date software, and found two photos with other boys in the mobile phone album. The next day after reconciliation, I took his car and found that the delay wipes were in my heart, but I didn't say it, and the wipes are still on the car. Is he going to find a little J has a P friend or use it himself, can I ask no?
He has flat income because of the mask side business, often said let me raise him to give 5,000 a month will serve me well, said let me save some flowers, save 10,000 a month to buy a house together, pay off the mortgage, get married, there will be no money, buy me a diamond ring to spend 15,000 various expenses, etc., listening to these words, I feel that after marriage is more difficult than single, he is a male cut, I want to pay? (Source of the title of this issue)
answer
Your boyfriend's appearance is a bit like the ex-boyfriend of a certain movie queen Ou X, there is ruffian and handsome, these photos you sent, most of the boyfriends are taken and captured by him, and your photos are carefully selected angles, your photos in the same frame, your choice is crushed by him, the gap between your appearance is too big. You're in a relationship that costs money.
To tell a real thing, the last time I saw such a big relationship in appearance, the girl gave the boy a total of 10 million, so as to keep the long-term choice relationship (but the boy still has a flower head outside), give you a reference.
Note that I didn't say how handsome he is, but that your choice among girls is far less than his choice among boys. This is judged by reference based on long-term selection.
Of course, if you just want to find a romantic relationship, that is, an irresponsible relationship, then even Sister Feng can find Dr. Xiao Xianrou, who is 185 blonde and blue eyes (from Sister Feng's essay "Lovers Drive Me to Take the Last Bus Back to New York"). You can definitely find a better one.
As in the previous question, when I answered this question, my daughter was next to me, and she didn't read a large part of your text. Looking at your photo, "If this man hadn't been rich because of this woman's money, he wouldn't have been with her." Eight-year-olds understand the truth, and I hope you can understand it sooner.
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Question 3
Keyword: disgust
Hello doll, I wish you all the best, because confusion asks you questions, about job search, license collection.
I am 30 years old, 154,90 pounds, the first line of 700 square meters for rent, the current house will be demolished, my parents are living in the second line.
The boyfriend is 32 years old, 177,120 pounds, with an annual salary of 280,000 yuan before tax, and lives with his parents in two small houses. Both are at the end of the stream, both alone, both informants.
I met in February, my boyfriend met my parents in April, I was unemployed in August, and I lived at my boyfriend's house in the first week of unemployment. During the six months of unemployment, I mainly did housework, my parents would come back regularly every week, and my boyfriend would occasionally come over after work, cook for my boyfriend, and prepare bento.
Self-evaluation stone, boyfriend cut cloth. I know that my boyfriend spent the night at my house and stepped on the thunder, and there is no relationship yet. My boyfriend basically covered my expenses, sent the iPhone and SK2, and I was already satisfied.
The boyfriend has a diamond ring ready and can propose at any time. In this relationship, two things have exploded pu:
First, the parents of both sides met at the end of October, my father expects to get married within 22 years, and my boyfriend's mother said to get married again in 2023. After my boyfriend mentioned getting a license, I would burst and say 23 years.
Second, Bu Man's father spoiled me very much, took me to eat and drink well, and felt free and happy with my parents. Thinking of the small size of my boyfriend's home, living with my parents, living a frugal lifestyle, and my boyfriend's parents did not mention preparing a marriage room for my boyfriend. I dislike my boyfriend for being poor, and occasionally I can't help but sulk.
I want to ask the doll, is my burst PU very excessive, how to remedy it to get the certificate smoothly. What should I pay attention to when I get married at the age of 30?
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answer
Not long ago, I was wandering around Knowledge Planet and saw a star owner who had stayed in a Japanese company write such a thing: When a child is born in Japan, the hospital does not allow her husband to accompany her, so women carry their maternity bags to the hospital, and after giving birth, they are cared for by the hospital. As for the husband, at most, he helped send his wife to the door of the hospital before giving birth, and then took his wife home from the hospital when he was discharged, and there is no confinement in Japan, what to do when he goes home.
The star owner said that all the friends she learned in Japan, including Japanese bloggers she followed, were this when they had children.
At that time, a girl commented under this article, can't believe it, isn't confinement natural?
Of course not.
Although I don't know much about the situation in Japan, I think the Star Lord's statement is very likely. In large countries where men cut women's cloth, such as European and American countries, women do not confinement at all when they give birth, and in countries like Japan, where men and women are stoned, it is normal not to confine.
Because confinement itself is a unique tradition of our stone country, it is a good treatment given by Chinese men at the bottom of the stone to Chinese women with the bottom of the scissors. Domestic women give birth, husbands, parents, in-laws and a large family may wait outside the delivery room, after giving birth to a child confinement is also particularly expensive, the whole family takes turns to serve, and sometimes confinement is not only a month, many will sit for 42 days.
Just like the girl who commented earlier that confinement is justified, many girls mistakenly take this kind of good treatment for granted, feeling that their husbands and mothers-in-law deserve to serve confinement, and they must be meticulous and obedient to her, but whenever her mother-in-law or husband says something unsatisfactory or does something that makes her dissatisfied during her confinement, she will complain, remember hatred, and even say that the hatred of confinement is not shared with the sky.
But what they don't know is that the confinement itself has surpassed the treatment that the vast majority of women in this world can get after giving birth, and they have actually received too much.
Having said all this, in fact, I just want to use this to tell you that you have received a lot of treatment in this relationship that should not belong to you, so don't be greedy anymore.
You are "30 years old, 154, 90 pounds, the first line of 700 square meters for rent", your boyfriend "32 years old, 177, 120 pounds, annual salary before tax 280,000, first-line two small houses and parents to live", the reason why you can find such a boyfriend with a flat look, and get "my boyfriend's expenses for me are basically all inclusive, sent Apple mobile phone and SK2... The boyfriend has a diamond ring ready to propose marriage at any time" These good treatment, and have been together for so long and occasionally lived together but can not have a relationship so far, relying on your "first-line seven hundred square meters of rent", without this advantage blessing, with your MV alone, all this cannot happen to you, if it happens, it must be a fraudulent marriage.
You know, in first-tier cities where the competition for mates is extremely cruel, your boyfriend's conditions are quite good, and it will be a very sought-after sweet potato in the marriage market, and if he is still willing to marry the room, then he can find a girl whose MV is far higher than yours.
To put it ugly, you are now relying on your family situation to rob the husband of a 25-year-old girl who is 168 years tall and looks like a flower, shouldn't you be satisfied. What "disgust in my heart that my boyfriend is poor, and occasionally can't help sulking" Don't have it again. If your boyfriend is from the same family as you, he will definitely not be enthusiastic about you, and he is likely to be insincere and has no long-term choice.
If what you said about "first-line seven hundred square meters for rent" is true, then you may be a stone woman, that is, a stone girl from a rich family, and there will not be much difficulty in obtaining a license smoothly with your boyfriend, after all, in the family situation, your boyfriend takes advantage of you, and he will not let go easily.
You dislike him in your heart, he can feel it to some extent, but this is not a burst, after all, he also understands that the gap between your two families is too big, as long as you pay more attention in the future and think more about what you get, there will not be much problem.
As for you saying that you "burst pu and say 23 years to talk about it", you can find a way to round this back. Now it's 2023, and when it comes to this, you can say that last year's epidemic was serious and repeated, and it was not convenient to put wine for a wedding, so you have been pushing back and saying that you wait until 23 years to get the certificate, just want to do it well, now that the epidemic is basically stable, there is no problem, you can get a license to do a wedding.
I hope that every girl in the mate selection period can remember such an unbreakable principle: only a relationship that makes the man feel cost-effective can be maintained for a long time; Any relationship that a woman finds cost-effective can only produce results in the short term, and there is no way to sustain it in the long term.
If it is compared to doing business, only if the other party feels that he has taken advantage and obtained more benefits, he will be willing to continue this business with you, then the initiative to do business is in your hands.
If he has been losing money in this business, he will not continue to be willing to do business with you, then the initiative to do business is in the hands of the other party, and you will have to face the end of falling out of love / divorce at any time.
And the relationship between people's lives and the initiative in the hands of the other party is too dangerous and humiliating.
Question 4
Keywords: unemployed mothers self-improvement
Beautiful and generous baby sister, little assistant, hello. Baby fan for many years, thank you for waking up for allowing me to get married and have children smoothly during the golden mate selection period.
I am 31 years old, ordinary undergraduate, 169cm, 120 pounds, annual income of about 20w, alone,
Husband 35 years old, junior college, 170cm, 140 pounds, annual income of about 10w, not alone.
I live with my in-laws and have a lovely son, usually my in-laws will help bring up the baby and help us every month, and the relationship with my husband is also good, it can be said that he is like a daughter's pet.
In the second half of last year, after the industry turmoil was laid off, I have been waiting at home, learned a few skills, read a lot of books, and I don't need to worry too much after my children go to kindergarten, but I find myself more and more happy, my in-laws and husband did not urge me to work, and even let me rest well (I worked hard before), but eating and drinking every day without contributing made me a little ashamed, but the family is too comfortable and makes me look for a job less and less, please wake up!
In addition, I found that one of the reasons why my husband does not love me to work may be because I have several suitors every year when I work, some are single and unmarried, some are married, the conditions are very good, I maintain stable interpersonal relationships, gentle refusal, but usually there are still work contacts, so my husband is a little mindful.
If work will face the same problems, how to maintain a good relationship without affecting relationships? At present, the family expenses are shared by the husband and in-laws, and I helped pay off a lot of foreign debts when I earned a lot before, is this a relationship between women and men?
Thanks for the answer, I wish Sister Doll and the team a Happy New Year~
answer
At the moment, you are unemployed at home, "I don't need to worry too much after the child goes to kindergarten", "usually my in-laws will help bring up the baby and help us every month", "My in-laws and husband did not urge me to work", since this is the case, the most important thing you should do at this time is to have more children. Otherwise, in two years, you may not have such good treatment, and your husband will lose the urge to have offspring with you.
Why do you say that?
You are 31 years old this year, you still look relatively handsome, a little sheared face, so you "have a good relationship with your husband, it can be said that you are like a daughter's pet", and "there are several suitors every year", but a woman's state can probably last for about three years, and everything may be different in two years.
As the old saying goes: 34-year-old Yangming's pulse is declining, and his face is scorched and falling.
There are also special studies abroad, and it has been found that people at the age of 34 will usher in "cliff-like aging" (if you are interested, you can go to Baidu, the keyword "34-year-old aging").
Before the age of 34, girls will still have some girly feeling. But after this age point, if it is not for the continuous spending of money on the face and the great effort to maintain, the high MV is basically gone (except for female stars).
That is, in a maximum of three years, your aging will be very noticeable, by that time, you will be unlikely to have suitors, and at the same time, your attraction to your husband will be exhausted.
It's like saying that when you have the highest MV peach blossoms, many boys like you to pursue you, and your husband is also one of them, but when you thank you for the peach blossoms, no one comes to see it, then your husband's interest in you will definitely be much worse than before, and your relationship will naturally be less stable, is this reason.
Therefore, it is best to seize another child while it is still more attractive to your husband, otherwise in a few years, the possibility of you wanting offspring will become lower and lower.
And if you have another child, and then come out to work, your husband will be more at ease, will not mind too much, and you can be relatively relaxed and free. In addition, it is recommended that while preparing for pregnancy and giving birth to a baby, you should also work hard to test for evidence, and when you return to the workplace after giving birth, it will be smoother.
You are now "more and more happy", "eat and drink every day without contributing", "too comfortable at home and make me less and less willing to find a job", this state of boiling frogs in warm water is very dangerous, I hope you do not fall into the deep pit of being raised and wasted, and wake up as soon as possible.