Source: Beishu Youyo (ID: beishu2016)
In the relationship, the most obvious feature of men is to separate sex and love very clearly, because men live very clearly, the lower body is not the same as the second half of life.
Therefore, as a woman, you must understand that sometimes some of the "love" that men show is not really loving you but just wanting to sleep with you.
So how to distinguish whether a man is true or false, wants to sleep with you or really loves you?
The following three manifestations can be used as a reference.
01
The first acquaintance is eager to "capture" you
If a man has not known you for a long time, he will show that he loves you as much as his life, and from time to time he will give you "sugar-coated shells", and buy this and buy that to "bribe" you and ask you out for a day, such a phenomenon seems to be very loved, but in fact it is "overloved".
A man may fall in love with you in a short time, but at first acquaintance, because he is not so familiar, most of his actions are limited to greetings and concerns, and generally develop gradually according to the situation of mutual interaction.
And the man who wants to sleep with you, on the contrary, in order to achieve the goal, will be eager to talk to you with rhetoric, and please you everywhere, and women should be calm in the face of these appearances, because it is likely that all this is an illusion.
There is an example next to me:
One of my cousin's girlfriends recently fell in love with a man, this man has known her for only two weeks, this man greets her every morning and good night, and also asks the flower shop to send roses every day, and also sends messages from time to time on WeChat saying that I miss you.
The cousin's girlfriend was soon moved, thinking that this man was really in love with him, so under the man's sweet words, he had a relationship with him, but after this, the man seemed to have changed his person, began to ignore her, and even disappeared.
My cousin's girlfriend only then woke up to the fact that this man had lied to her under the banner of love.
In life, a man who really wants to develop feelings with you will also be particularly cautious emotionally, and will gradually establish a relationship with you without haste, instead of doing everything with a purpose, abnormal progress to attack you.
If men are particularly impatient in their relationships, then you have to be careful, once you fall into the trap of the other party's tenderness, it may bring you not sweetness, but tears.
Feelings are unpredictable, and the man who wants to attack you after not knowing you for a long time must stay away. Because he doesn't love you at all, he just wants to sleep with you in the name of "loving you."
02
Reluctance to disclose your identity
Is it necessary to be public in love?
Some people may feel that it is not necessary, as long as they love each other, it is enough. But I think being public is the most basic respect for your lover, and it is also the best gift for your lover.
When two people are in love, if a man says he loves you but is unwilling to disclose your relationship with him, then there may be a problem with the love.
A man who loves you can't wait to let everyone in the world know about your relationship, he hopes to get everyone's blessings, will happily post photos of the two in the circle of friends, will take you to meet his friends, will make his family recognize your identity.
On the contrary, if he has been hiding from you and is not willing to let others know about your relationship, then you need to be careful, such a man is a disaster in your life.
A man who is unwilling to disclose your identity has never regarded you as a lover in his heart, and you are just a passer-by in his world, not a person who has been with you all your life.
Such a man will not give his heart to you, you do not have the slightest place in his heart, you think that he is just not good at words and does not know how to express, but in fact he understands everything but is not willing to do it for you, from the beginning he just wants to sleep with you instead of loving you.
Some people say that the greatest pain in the world is not being deceived by strangers, but being deceived by the nearest people around you, especially by your loved ones.
I think so.
At any time, you must know that if a man is really attracted to you, he will naturally draw a line with other women, keep a distance from them, and at the same time tell the world that you are his lover, and you want to grow old together in this life, which is the expression of true love for you.
03
A lot is promised, little is delivered
It has been said that commitment is a struggle between men and women, and sometimes everyone is happy, but most of the time it is a defeat.
I think so.
There is never a shortage of promises in love, but only men who truly love you will fulfill them. So, to see if a man really loves you, it's not his promises, but his actions.
In the relationship between the sexes, some men often give women some promises, although the promise is promised, but rarely fulfilled, such men are generally unreliable, difficult to trust for life.
You know, good feelings are never a promise on the lips, but a real commitment in reality. If you take a man's sweet promises seriously, it is the biggest fool of a woman.
People who really love you will never promise in words, but fulfill in action, and only men who do not love you will make promises so that you believe them.
Imagine a man who wants to sleep with you, who will not give too much to you and will not fulfill his promises, because he only wants temporary pleasure, not a lifetime of companionship.
Only men who want to live with you for the rest of their lives will pay silently by your side, give you solid and warm care, and strive to fulfill his promises.
I saw a sentence on the Internet and felt quite right:
"You can't deceive someone if you don't love someone, and your daily actions will betray you; Loving someone is also not deceptive, even if you cover your mouth, it will come out of your eyes. ”
It can be seen that distinguishing between love and non-love in action can be seen at a glance, just say not to do a trick, a man with actual actions to prove the love, this is the best love for women.
Remember, in the world, love words are difficult to distinguish, and people's hearts are unpredictable.
Learn to be more rational and less emotional, learn to protect yourself, stay away from those false feelings, and find your true love as you wish.
This is the right way to open and have love.