Before the founding of New China, the mainland has always flattered the feudal idea of emphasizing men over women, and when a woman marries into her husband's family, she spills water and can only retain her original surname, and the woman who marries her is often treated unfairly because she is a woman from a foreign family. If it is good to have a son, it is the mother who is precious; if she gives birth to a daughter, then the mother and daughter will be blinded.
And the mother-in-law who married the daughter-in-law, if she is open-minded, it is enough, if it happens to be a narrow and selfish person, I am afraid that she will intensify her efforts to summon and make it difficult for this daughter-in-law who has just started.
The grandmother of Su Xuelin, a famous female writer in the Republic of China, is a typical representative of this. She gave birth to more than a dozen children for the Su family, which can be said to be a great hero of the Su family. And Su Xuelin's mother, Wen Hui filial piety, also received the education of "three from four virtues" from childhood, the husband is heaven, the husband's mother has to be more upright, so she obeys such a mother-in-law, and even feeds her mother-in-law's child after giving birth.
New entry "bad" daughter-in-law
Su Xuelin's mother, Du Shi, was the thousands of gold of a large family at that time, and she could be regarded as a bridesmaid, and after marrying into Su Province, she became the eldest daughter-in-law of Su County, Ruian County, Zhejiang Province.
This is originally a door-to-door affair, but Du's mother-in-law does not think so, women should obey the "three from four virtues", the most important role of marrying a daughter-in-law is to continue the incense from generation to generation, and the ability to have children is the first.
However, unlike the Su family's mother-in-law, who added more than a dozen people to the Su family, du only gave birth to four children in his lifetime. From the very beginning, she had to endure all kinds of difficulties from her mother-in-law, not only to serve the old lady to live and sleep, but also to give the old lady a massage, and even to wash clothes in the cold winter months.
How can such a rough and tiring work be something that everyone can bear at once? Soon after Du Shi married into Su Province, her nails were blackened due to long-term massage, and she was also tired because she could not get a normal rest for a long time.
Du's first child died prematurely because of the difficult squeeze of her mother-in-law. This just gave her mother-in-law a reason to scold Du Shi, and even gave the hat of "killing her son" to her daughter-in-law.
In the second child, Du gave birth to a daughter. This made Mrs. Su even more intense, and whenever someone came to the house as a guest, she would say in a yin and yang strange way: "Our son married a good daughter-in-law, and he will not give birth to a son."
Although up to now, everyone knows that the birth of children is determined by male sperm, it is better to blame her own son than to blame her daughter-in-law. But at that time, Mrs. Su scolded Du Shi at every turn by giving birth, making Du Shi's life in the Su family miserable.
Feed the little uncle for the mother-in-law
Speaking of the premature death of Su Xuelin's mother's first child, in addition to Du's failure to adjust her body during her pregnancy, there is also another most jaw-dropping reason, which is that she had to breastfeed her little uncle, so that her children often did not have milk to drink and eventually died early.
It turned out that soon after the marriage, Du Shi realized that he was pregnant. Just when she thought she would be able to escape the bitter sea, she learned that her mother-in-law was also pregnant. Because women were married very early in the old days, it was not uncommon for two generations of a family to become pregnant at the same time.
This was originally a good thing that was double happiness, but it became a more bitter ordeal on Du Shi. Mrs. Su was pregnant and had a high status in the Su family, and she was even more difficult to her daughter-in-law.
Compared with Mrs. Su, Du Shi's body does not seem to be the blood of the Su family, and the Su family only prepares one for herself for the baby to be delivered, and ignores the unborn grandson, nor does she pay a penny for the daughter-in-law who is also pregnant.
If Su Xuelin's father wanted to buy something good for his wife, he also needed to be careful not to be known by the old lady. Poor Du Shi, pregnant in October, still have to serve the more difficult mother-in-law. I thought that there would be some good treatment for giving birth to a son, who had thought that the mother-in-law who insisted on giving birth with her would ask her to feed her mother-in-law's child.
After all, Du Shi is in a good year, and her breast milk is much stronger than her mother-in-law, but after feeding her little uncle, what should she do if her own children do not have enough to eat? There was no way, the newborn baby had to be fed rice soup to fill its hunger.
Sometimes there is enough milk, Du Shi can still feed his children after feeding the little uncle, and when he is bumped into by his mother-in-law, he will be scolded by his mother-in-law, crying that he is really pitiful, and his daughter-in-law wants to starve his children alive! After learning that Du Shi had fed her uncle, she still did not allow Du Shi to feed her children.
In this way, Su Xuelin's eldest brother could not bear the feeding of chengri rice soup, and he died in a few days. Du Shi was too late to be sad, and she had to face her mother-in-law's ridiculous insults about her "killing her son".
Talented women have a hard time studying
Later Su Xuelin was born. She was a famous literary figure during the Republic of China period, and together with two other scholars, she was nicknamed the "Three Musketeers of Luojia", and her writings were gentle and smooth. But who would have thought that such a talented woman also encountered layers of obstruction from her own grandmother in the early years.
Grandmother Su believes that "a woman without talent is virtuous", and what a woman should learn is only "three from four virtues". When his uncle and brother carried their school bags to the classroom to read and read, Su Xuelin was blocked from the regular primary school. Under the crying of Su Xuelin and the pleading of her advancedly educated father and brother, Su Xuelin finally relaxed and allowed Su Xuelin to go to a private school to study.
The gentleman of the private school only teaches people to memorize "three hundred thousand", and it is boring to learn without saying, and the gentleman does not talk about the truth. And the private school was only for a year or two, after which Su Xuelin faced the situation of no books to read.
Fortunately, Su Xuelin's uncles and brothers accepted the emerging culture and were willing to lend her his extracurricular books such as "Liaozhai Zhiyi" and "List of Conferred Gods" to read. In those readings, Su Xuelin found her own side of the world, and her young mind was rapidly grown and expanded in the sea of books.
After Su Xuelin graduated from junior high school, she was stopped by her grandmother, who thought that she had reached the age of marriage and had found a home for her. How could Su Xuelin, who had already reserved knowledge, obey, and later this contradiction was finally loosened after her serious illness, and Su Xuelin was able to go to school.
Not long after, Su Xuelin was admitted to the Beijing Women's Higher Normal School, and with the help of many outstanding professors, she finally played a fist in her own life.
brief summary:
Because of years of hard work, Su Xuelin's mother, Du Shi, died in her fifties, while Su's grandmother lived to be more than ninety years old.
Of course, the old feudal system imprisoned Grandmother Su's thoughts, and her act of squeezing her daughter-in-law so cruelly can be understood, but it cannot be forgiven.
An evil person will highlight her evil even in a good environment, and in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the past and the present, there are still countless mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who have a harmonious relationship. Su's grandmother's words and deeds were also hated by Su Xuelin for a lifetime.